Ten years ago today, my life changed forever! At approx. 6.45 pm, after 19 grueling hours of labour I was blessed with a gift of the greatest magnitude! I had absolutely NO idea just how much my little baby boy would impact my life.
Despite being married at the time, Jude was actually somewhat of a surprise hehe as we had decided not to have children and I can actually recall the conversation we had over dinner as I sipped on a neat whiskey. I never finished that whiskey as something didn't feel right... we picked up a pregnancy test on the way home, which I took the next morning and tadaaaaa... my little peanut had other plans for me and the rest of my life haha! I really wished I had smoked one last cigarette before seeing the test results though haha because I swore I would give up smoking the second I was pregnant... and so I did. I also gave up my wine for nine months, so as you can imagine, I was a seriously miserable pregnant woman hahahaha!!!
After 19 hours of labour I consider myself EXTREMELY blessed that Jude simply slept straight through the first night because I honestly didn't even have enough strength left to keep my eyes open for family visitors. I think we were both equally exhausted. I had done everything short of hang from the ceiling to get Jude out of me - but he wasn't going anywhere! The positioning of his head was preventing him from coming out and with every set of contractions I had - his heart beat practically stopped, so I ended up having an emergency c-section.
Bringing my little boy home was probably the most simultaneously exciting and terrifying thing I have ever done! I had absolutely NO idea what I was doing and if I am honest, there are moments these days... ten years down the line where I feel pretty much the same way haha!!! - but hey, we do our best don't we!
As most of you know, shortly after Jude was born I got divorced and so my mom and I ended up looking for and finding a place together. I needed the emotional support and my mom was looking to leave the place she was staying at too, so it was a win win. My mom teaches art and so several times a week her students would be at our place. One of her students once told me (without meeting Jude) that he was here to teach me, to calm me and slow me down. She also told me that his colour is green but that this would change between ten to twelve years.
I will NEVER forget the things she told me because she was more than 100% correct. Jude is without question my greatest teacher - and not just in the obvious sense. He absolutely HAS taught me to slow down and up until about a year ago his favourite colour has always been green. Fascinating...
Anybody who has gotten to know my little man well, will testify to what an old soul he is! Wise beyond his years! Filled with SO much love, compassion and empathy. He has a heart as deep and large as oceans and I am blown away every single day by his inner beauty!
I could not possibly have been blessed with a more beautiful child! It brings tears of joy to my face simply looking at all these pictures and writing this. Jude truly is a one in a million little boy! He has inner and outer energy to counter 20+ people, he is compassionate towards those more vulnerable and less fortunate than him. He is kind, considerate, mindful, polite and so very unique and determined in his own character.
I never knew what unconditional love was until you came into my life my precious and (not so little anymore) boy... There is absolutely NOTHING I wouldn't do for you to ensure that you have the opportunity to enjoy this life to it's maximum and to have the confidence to know that you can become and do ANYTHING you set your heart and mind on.
To the most positively life changing 10 years of my life - I love you my little man! - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Cannot believe you are already a double digit! I look forward to an eternity of making memories with you, beautiful soul!
❤❤❤
Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
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I just happened to pop in...glad I did not miss this post. You know he is such a cutie.. Many Happy days ahead.. resteeming :)
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Thank you honey! Hope you are doing well. xxx
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This hit a particular special point with me. A few months back 4 to be exact a mate of mine was in a tough spot and needed to chat, so we hit the local pub. Long story short the tequila's were flowing, he said to me hey Craig invite Annelien, and so I did, a few more tequila's later went home, a week later she calls me up, Craig we are having a baby. He is due in Feb Valentines day actually, I am rather nervous, excited/traumatized even, but wing it on the fly we must? Myself and her are not getting along but have agreed to do what is best for our child at all times together or apart, nervous exciting times, but overcome we shall. x
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Well, first of all CONGRATULATIONS @craigcryptoking! Second of all, apologies for such a delayed response.
I know that mixed bag of feelings very well but I can promise you this, irrespective of what happens between you and the mom, you child will become your greatest love and your biggest joy! Yes, he or she will test you, challenge you and push ALL the boundaries and there will be days when you literally feel like you can tear your hair out... but remove them from your space for even a few hours and your whole world suddenly feels empty and pointless.
It the greatest gift you can ever be granted and I have no doubt that you will be a fantastic dad! So, yes... ride the wave, try and keep things civil between you and mom (always) - for the sake of the child.
You will be fine! :)
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Awww thanks so much @jaynie I really appreciate that I believe every word of it, be blessed, have a super cook Weekend. Cheer$;)
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You suspected you were pregnant while talking about not wanting kids?! That is some memory. His birth sounds a lot like my first labor, the hours, the tricks, the doctor saying "Do you want her to go to college?" when I had to choose whether to cut or continue trying for vaginal. The choice was clear.
He's beautiful boy, and how can he not have a wisdom beyond his years with you as his guiding mother?
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Thank you hon xxx yes it was a weird moment in my life lol, but it turned into the greatest blessing, even if he does test my patience sometimes hahahaha!
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A teenager already ! Happy birthday J , Little D turned 8 yesterday and i totally understand the feelings overflowing today. They are our mirrors of innocente in life . I loved the blog and the internal emotion.
Have a great day !
B
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Thank you sweetie and a belated happy birthday to D too :)
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Pure life in a post
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Thank you @zen.fit
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Time moves really fast, happy birthday to him and I wish him more life and sound health
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Thank you :)
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Beautiful tribute to a beautiful soul!
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Thank you xxx
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Happy birthday to Jude and blessings to Mom!
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Thank you @free-reign x
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Stop it. Something's in my eye over here. 😂 A very happy birthday Jude the Dude!! Cheers to many more memories with your not so little guy @jaynie!
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Thank you hon xxx
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Happy Birthday to Jude!! I'm pretty sure you did a great job with him!
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Happy Birthday to
Jude!! I'm pretty sure you did
A great job with him!
- joelai
I'm a bot. I detect haiku.
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I'm a little late -
I so remember: the Friday before you found out you were pregnant you had dinner at our house!! I shall never forget.
What a journey, @jaynie, and you have every reason to be proud. He is a great young man and that's because you're such a good mother.
Love to you all from both of us....
xxx
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Oh wow, I forgot about that! Damn that was a good dinner!!! And yes, what a journey indeed!
MWAH!
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I still have, and use the glass platter you gave me xxx
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oh my heavens! I don't even remember what that looks like hahaha!
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🤭 next time you visit...
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I know this boy!😀 young football player! Happy birthday!🎂
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hahaha indeed! Thank you
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Happy birthday to Jude! He is such a beautiful child and you can tell that you love him very much - such a good momma! Wishing you two all the best!
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Thank you lovely lady :)
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Mother and Son Magic!
Wishing Jude a wonderful new year ahead, time together always rewarding.
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Thank you lovely lady xxx
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A one in a million little boy xxx
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I somehow missed this post. I'm glad you did the recap or I might not have seent it! Great story and adorable pictures as well :)
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aaah thank you @gooddream... appreciate you mentioning that! Yeah, I got all warm and fuzzy again just scrolling down to check on comments lol :) and on that note, apologies for taking so long to reply - been a bit of a busy week! xxx
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