Do you feel manipulated?

In order to be able to deal with situations in which you are subjected to manipulation, you will need to be able to recognize at least some of the main features of the manipulations and to have appropriate guidance and techniques to protect them from their impact. There are two main types of manipulation: active and passive. The impact of both types is at an unconscious level. This means that manipulation will work regardless of how your mind perceives a particular situation. In the best performing performances, it's impossible to establish with certainty that they manipulate you. Both types are often used together, but because their combinations are determined by the specific goals, I will describe them in their purest form.

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In the first type, women use aggressive and offensive tactics while in the second they usually play the role of naive or victim. The easiest way to find that you are subject to manipulation is to keep track of the direction and content of your own thoughts and behaviors. If you feel that your thoughts are directed in an undesired direction, you are certainly subjected to manipulation. Sometimes the process of manipulative conversation or relationship is deliberately stretched over time. This makes it extremely difficult to identify. So, if you feel somewhat impotent, or you get a sense of guilt for no apparent reason - most likely, quite imperceptibly, the innocent creature against you has succeeded in suggesting that you owe him something. Another way to recognize active manipulation is to keep track of the balance in the distribution of responsibilities and profits. By saying "profits" do not perceive the word only from the material side. Profit can have a purely mental dimension, which is subsequently transformed into the required and material equivalent. In such cases, she will try to take responsibility for the action on your shoulders, and the benefits of doing it will, in one way or another, be appropriated.

In order to achieve their goals, women often use forceful pressure (in their psychological aspect) or vice versa - they make unexpected services or show kindness that goes beyond your usual relationships. Unfair situation, aggressive or excessive polite behavior is right to perceive as a danger signal. In this way, they try to impress you with their own behavior or attitude towards what is going on. In order to further extend the picture, you should take into account that the best quality manipulations performed by women are put into action quite instinctively and largely unconsciously for themselves. This is their greatest strength. They believe that they are right in their desire, which gives absolute and true to them the truth of the situation.

Some other indications of manipulation are quite prosaic. It often happens to exert influence on you, enhancing your own emotions. For example, during a very trivial conversation they suddenly deviate from the topic, trying to induce compassion, fright, or some other emotion to blur your judgment. The hidden threats and inappropriate praise, the attempt to bring in a pure business conversation a personal nuance, are also obvious signs of manipulative impact. One of the most commonly used approaches is to artificially create a shortage of time to decide. To find out whether you work or not, you need to fully understand the reasons for such a deficit. In the absence of serious reasons, you should conclude that there is an attempt to manipulate it. It happens that the conversation is structured on the "sandwich method." Its essence is as follows: At the beginning and end of the fair, the woman speaks to you about insignificant or positive things, and all the moments that are really important to her and which you want to accept without objection are in the middle of the conversation. Thus, you are imperceptibly unconscious, accepting these unprofitable things for you.

The unifying feature that you should remember is that any deviation from the norm, any overdose in the communication, or the setting in which it occurs is a likely sign of attempted manipulation. To capture such signs, it is important to be alert and carefully take into account the characteristics of its behavior.

One of the best qualities of not being able to manipulate is to develop the ability for critical thinking. In every conversation in which you feel something fake, you must answer the following questions:

• What is the purpose of the woman against you?

• What exactly is the problem or issue you are discussing?

"What facts does this relate to, and what does it tell you?"

• What conclusions do and how well they are factually substantiated?

"What do you think the solution to the problem is?

• What will be the near and long-term consequences of the solution to the problem that is being offered to you? There are other things that will help you navigate the situation, but at this stage you too are enough. The important thing is to understand the need for these questions. Once you apply them to a particular conversation you are conducting or a situation you are in, they will encourage you to:

• think more effectively;

• to see the hidden prerequisites and consequences;

• understand the possible different points of view;

• to avoid uncritical perception of your imposed views;

• Define what you think about yourself and why. At the end:

• protect your position intelligently.

From now on, you only have strategies to protect. When you find that they are trying to manipulate you or even just a doubt about such an experience, you will have basically two such strategies. They are determined by the type of manipulation and your relationship with the woman against you.

With passive strategy, you agree to the terms of the game while trying to increase the distance between you. You will achieve this by: avoiding communication with it; you question your ideas; and you can also be friends with it, while at the same time demonstrating your suggestions.

The second defense strategy consists of active opposition, rejecting the rules of the game, and even indirectly exposing methods of manipulation. For example, with a distraction of intrusion, you can ask her to ask a question or just ask: "Why are you telling me this?"

It's not a good idea, however, to say aloud "You manipulate me." Eventually, if it is not interrupted, she will reveal her own intentions, which is the most important thing for you.

Another suitable protection is the "postponed reaction technique". It allows you to delay your responses and reactions and pause to reflect on what has been said so far and how to respond. An extra bonus of this action is that it will cause confusion in it because unpredictable people are a complex object of manipulation. In this regard, the behavior of self-sufficient and self-confident people is most difficult to predict. Ie, it is important for you to behave calmly and confidently, to keep an eye on the conversation and not to forget your own goals and interests. If necessary, briefly and clearly write your own opinion (position, purpose) on a sheet of paper to keep in hand during the conversation. This will make it easier for you to keep track of where things are going.

In conclusion, it is good to remember the following: at the root of every manipulation, despite the apprehensions, lies the desire of the woman to predispose you to an emotional response whose sole purpose is to suppress your rational thinking. This will give her a cardinal, to guide you in the direction for her. Hence your most important conclusion: Do you master emotion - you master the situation!