Something that is very much missing is the way for a man or any abusive person to stop doing it. Like the person is in the moment and the impulse is there to do something terrible, how do they stop doing it. Repeating family patterns, insecurity, rage, desire, other base emotions and not seeking help are some of the factors at play here.

I work with clients on compulsions, addictions and emotions and have been thinking about this recently. I see that women have their checklist for what to do to stay safe, but men don't have one to stop hurting people.

If we assume that someone hurting people is trying to get something out of that behaviour, maybe there is a way for them to change through another outlet/strategy.

Men need to deal with their issues and leave embarrassment at the door. They need to become present and conscious people. They need new ways to process emotions and express themselves. They need to take deep breaths and leave a relationship for good if they are causing damage to someone. Too much responsibility on the victim. More male responsibility is needed.

Not in any way an easy fix, as it is so prevalent (about 1/4 families as you said). I'm working on it here to help all parties get free, clear and transformed in their circumstances. I welcome your thoughts and ideas.