Life lessons - semi-manufacture

It is strange how misfortune and mental problems have become incompetence. After so many years we finally began to believe that. Somewhere in the facebook or in the pages of the magazines, we were told that worry, grief, fear, and all other problems were just caused by our ignorance. You are unfortunate because you don't know how to think positively, how to live here and now. You don't know the 5 principles of happy marriage, 10 Longevity rules, and 3 Einstein's love tips. Open a popular magazine and you'll see. Hordes of specialists are ready to teach us how to be happy, how to find the right partner, how to achieve our dreams. Illustrated guides written for idiots. There are in every sphere of life - "10 rules how to argue at home", "The 5 principles of inner freedom", "How to love", "5 steps to believe in ourselves", "How not to be jealous "," How to stop postponing "," How to achieve inner harmony "and so many others ... That's it - you just have to learn. There was space for philosophy, poetry, literature, and music that spoke and tried to name some truth. Human nature was filled with contradictions, paradoxes and ambiguities, and no one insisted that a demand point should be put. Writers asked questions to the world and to life. They provoked us to think and ask our own questions, to search for a way, to make some spiritual effort.

But art and culture have lost their place. Everything was pushed into the corner of public consciousness to make room for the new flat spirituality and its gospels - lists of ready-made recipes and life guides. Short, shallow and offensive elementary lessons in life that lurk us behind every corner. Wisdom-semi-fabricated on facebook pictures, just warm them up in the microwave. It is as if the unfortunate is simply ignorant or unwilling. An uneducated one who needs to be taught how to live by "successful" and "expert." He is no longer spirit and soul, facing the abyss of half-meaning life and the endless frightening depth of the whole visible and invisible, inner and outer world. It's just a machine that her program lacks. Do you suffer from depression? There are no problems, just tell us how you think to teach you how to do it more correctly, more positively. Well - here's the problem - the way you think is obviously wrong (you're guilty), what you feel is wrong, but don't worry anymore! Now we'll fix your thinking. To make sure you even take this pill - it will make you feel the right way because now you are not feeling right , and that's very bad! Do you imagine what will happen if everyone starts to feel wrong?! I apologize for sarcasm, but how can one react to such a sinister insult? This is not a dispute about political beliefs or healthy eating. This is the finest and hardest known thing in this world - the soul. The most disgusting, however, is elsewhere. All these maxims - "Everybody Can do Everything," "The Subconscious Can do Everything," "And You Can Be What You Want, Just Do This And...", or something of this sort - behind all this there are merciless reproaches: You are ignorant, be happy, but you missed the opportunity. You did not think the right way, you did not see the world right, you lost your child in yourself, you did not give up your imagination, and so on ... I take the words back - it's not an insult, it's an accusation. For a person who sees himself as an eternal loser and his life as a series of failures and broken dreams, these are sinister accusations. To argue that the imprisonment of its own sufferings is just an illusion, grilles of air from which it has not freed itself simply because of the lack of elemental "wisdom of life" and courage (and this has it - the unfortunate did not have the courage to be happy!) is a very serious charge and makes only one - it is still guilty. And when a man is forced to follow these lessons and achieves almost nothing, it leads to even more severe suffering, even to despair.

I don't know how it came to this, but before things were different. Psychotherapy (psychoanalysis) has begun precisely with the conception that there are some locked truths in the psychic symptoms, an appeal. Behind the anxiety, the fear, the melancholy and the painful repetition there is a word that can not be uttered, and who has no one to hear. Something that is incompatible not just between the human and the surrounding world, but also within us. An inherent and deeply personal truth that can not be known is constrained by contradictions inherent in the soul, and forced to find a distorted way to claim it as some incomprehensible painful compromise. But in a perfect world with ideal people there is no room for complexity, contradiction and ambiguity. There is no way for one to want two opposing things, or to say more than to say aloud. There's no way you can love it or hate it. For new life experts, the soul has become as shallow and single-sided as their professionally retouched collages of pictures of "happy" and "successful" people (in fact, photomodels). They blow us into the mouths from morning till night together with their elementary lessons of life from one sentence - out of context, simple, plastic and short. But the truth is not short and is not written on a facebook picture.

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