So, you want to know what goes on in her Head?

If you actually stared reading this article, it means you are either too weird or too much of a geek so keep on going. Introduction: Sadly, this is not a “A Telepath’s manual to get in someone’s head” nor is it a “Getting in her head tips” guide, it’s more interesting. Sitting in a lounge reading this or in your dorm looking over some articles before you go back to studying, I want you to pay attention to what you are doing right now. Do an audit of your body posture and what you are doing with it. Are you hunching, or crossing your legs or maybe holding on to this magazine with one hand and another one wrapped around your chest? If so, don’t freak out I am not a psychic or anything, its most likely a mathematical probability that you are doing the things above. It is very interesting to read body languages of others but we need to hold our horses and think about information our body is leaking. Our minds are tuned to receive messages other’s body languages as well as, or even more than the one’s we have in our conversations. 7% of the information we receive is from the words that come from our mouths, 38% from tone, inflection and speed of one’s voice but a staggering 55% is received from body language. Due to that, we usually find ourselves making sweeping judgments (not necessarily negative) and inferences about people we only talked for not more than half a dozen minutes. The cartoons where the cat makes themselves appear bigger to dominate the other actually apply to us humans too. Even deeper, the emoticons we use on our daily interactions used well on online negotiation are proved to lead to claim more value from that negotiation. So, going through this judgmental and inferential stream, we tend to forget the other influenced audience, our selves. Our thoughts, feelings and physiology are largely the outcome of the way we are sitting right now. Passion, enthusiasm, comfort, authenticity, confidence and any other feeling that you think you are feeling is directly related your body language. Since we have established that it works both ways, tweaking your body language and practicing that can make you feel more like what you want to feel. Spreading our arms or crossing our legs, that will reflect on how we think of ourselves so before reading someone else’s body language, make sure your body language say’s what you are and what you want to become.
“If the eyes are the windows of the soul, then the body is the mirror of our feelings.”