Hey guys!
I was inspired by this post about how tiny gains made a huge difference, and this is my way of making today 1% better than yesterday.
Here it is:
Whenever you feel anger/irritation/annoyance, pause and ask yourself, why are you feeling this way?
Some personal story behind this strategy I came up for myself to grow in self-awareness, which I hope will help you all as well.
I work as an Administrator and have been feeling rather irritated and annoyed whenever someone just comes up and throws a menial, monotonous task for me to do. It just comes. If the person is nicer, that feeling won't come up as much - but it will rear its ugly head when the person just talks down to me and expects me to do it immediately.
I'll lose my usual friendly agreeableness, tense up and go into a defensive mode. I'm a very emotional person, and feeling this surge of negative emotions puzzled me.
I realised, however, that I have nothing against the person. This irritation and annoyance is merely a trigger to something deeper, something underlying that just so happened to surface in such scenarios.
It's a sore spot. It's a trigger point: except now we are not dealing with muscle knots and mysofacial pain, but emotional knots and mental pain.
I finally came to the insight after some inner work that I've been feeling very sensitive about self-neglect, always focussing on other's needs but sidelining my own.
So, when I am in the midst of a particular work, and someone rudely interrupts me to complete some admin task for them, I feel like my needs and priorities must give way to theirs (something I have been trying to actively fight, not being a doormat for people to step all over and take advantage of etc). I feel unimportant and insignificant.
Knowing this settled my heart more, and gave me the needed clarity to resolve the matter both internally and externally.
So I'm truly thankful for the wisdom, and this little bit more of self-awareness. ❤
Does this tip work for you too? Try it and let me know how it went in the comments below!
Resteems and upvotes are always appreciated!
Another good thing this can achieve is and I say from personal experience, if you have depression and when it comes on, can have your mind get a thought of doing something else and you just get up or do it, you can help weaken its hold over you. Has taken a while but I am getting there.
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@thegoliath yes I have read somewhere that action cures depression! 😊😊
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I also do not like being interrupted by my work, and I am also aggressive. Knowing this, I try not to fall on people, they are not to blame for this)))))))
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@amalinavia haha yepp! I'm not aggressive but I think I'll be more withdrawn for a short while 😅
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great post...
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Thanks @shenonline! ((:
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You must be very brave
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@wales why do you say so? (:
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To be able to stand up to bad people
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Just fabulous, friend.
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Thanks @humeoutspoken! (:
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More people should engage in this type of self-reflection. If we all did it, there'd likely be a lot fewer hangups and conflict to unravel. All of us have these kinds of subconscious triggers.
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@blockurator yes it's something we can slowly cultivate to know ourselves better ((:
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Thanks @steem-ua!! (:
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Our brain is a very powerful thing - unchecked, it can control us in some often odd ways. I used to have a similar problem, where I felt that I needed to respond to an email as soon as I read it. That became monotonous, as you can probably imagine. It wasn't until one of my bosses thanked me for replying so quickly, and I mentioned that I would've gotten back to them sooner, but I was in a conversation at a family dinner, and they told me that it could've waited until the next day that I realised that immediate responses were not always required. It was such a liberating realisation.
Good on you for finding a way to combat the unrealistic thoughts that were attempting to control you.
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That’s was a good read Joey . I’m in a bad mood now and I don’t know why?
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