Following "The Deja Vu" Process And Becoming A seasoned Champion

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Sometimes going through hurtful experiences and things for the first time makes you feel like you've been there and you should be better at handling that situation but the truth is deep down you know you haven't and it's your first time and you're disappointed at how you've fallen apart because you just couldn't handle something you're new to. People's opinion in life is the reason why we feel shallow when we're going through things we feel too big to cry, we feel too strong to feel weak and because of this and it's like people makes us feel we're better than our tears, but what we don't realise is that we need the mourning, the weeping process as part of that stage to prepare us for subsequent disappointments and failures in the future. But when we halt that natural process it makes us grow too quick rather than go through in other to be seasoned for the future

Without a doubt I look how I react to grief nowadays and it's quite different from how it use to be years ago, in essence this is because I allowed myself to undergo this process rather than avoid going through it, I look at people going through the pain process and I feel quite reluctant to help them go through it. This is definitely because I feel something we don't need teachers to learn, we go through same things at a different stages in our lives and when it's time for the first stage it heralds being better for subsequent experience. That's why we shouldn't force growth, growth forced makes us unlive experiences that we should live so things we call suffering might only be a process through which we become seasoned but we allow people talk us out of growing natural, the effect is often Chernobic

Sometimes time works well when we allow the experience to pass through us, in many cases, we pass through experiences without experiences passing through us and this creates an Imbalance in our learning process. Without a doubt we should never regret the baggages that came with us in the past, the truth is each and every Unique, bad things and ugly things we've once embodied is an instrument that's forged us today and that's why we when we understand the process we leave it. So oftentimes de ja vu might seem like that bad experiences coming to haunt us over again but deja Vu is that repetition of a particular sameness of event that prunes us to subsequent situations that will come later in future or not. What necessarily seem important is that the process makes us seasoned and refined.

I have the number of a fellow student and whenever I see his WhatsApp updates he seems heartbroken. A whole lot of people are however chiding him for allowing himself to feel heartbroken and that it makes him seem weak and vulnerable but I see a process, a transition, and halting this process is like forcing a werewolf to transition when it's not even the full moon yet, there might be repercussions at a later stage in life and when we're trying to simply bypass a lesson without theoretically learning it, what do we no do when the same things happens to us at a later stage? Have we learnt anything from the former process or are we just blank? Did we go through without really going through? The lesson here is that we can't always shotdown because an experience is too traumatic for us to go through. The trauma is often the side effect of the learning process and it's really wrong to shutdown all the learning process that comes with it.