The difficult but not impossible mission of children psychologists

Hello guys, good afternoon.

Today I will talk about a topic I have always seen in relation to children psychologists, both those who work in the clinic and those who work in some school or institution that deals with children.

I emphasize that I am not a child psychologist and never dealt with "psychological environment" with children, at most, I attended the same place, so if any child psychologist finds something wrong in my text, feel free to correct!!!!

Well, here's the thing. The work of a child psychologist, from what I saw, is beautiful and extremely necessary, because, he manages to combine his knowledge to the practice of dealing with a child. It is at this stage of life that the person is forming his personality, so it is extremely essential that she take care of her mind to become a well-developed adult. Most of the mental disorders that people present in adulthood are formed when they are children or adolescents.

Children are very vulnerable beings who rely extremely heavily on their family to take care of themselves. There is no autonomy at this stage of life. The ingenuity of the child makes her seek the care and protection of her parents. The problem in this question is when your parents (or adoptive caregivers) have traits in your personality that hinder the development of this child, whether purposeful or not.

There are children who really need treatment, such as some with ADHD (attention deficit disorder with hyperactivity), depression, anxiety, parental alienation issues, separation of parents, etc....

However, there are those that do not have anything, besides an immense desire of the parents to manipulate them to be an extension of their life, or, to use them as a source of "emotional discharge".

With this, one of the parents seeks a psychologist and begins to report questions of the Son (a) saying that this presents "problem of Behavior". It is one of the most common things to hear from parents (or caregivers) in an office.

Usually the first consultation is done with those who take the child to the attendance. Only after this consultation, which can be more than one, depending on the case (sometimes the account of who takes the child is great and it is necessary to reap more data to make a good case history, then the psychologist marks more than one care for the caregiver who take the child (the ) The child will be met.

However, in this care with the parent or caregiver who took the child, the psychologist (a) notes that the issue is more related to the parent itself (a) than the child itself. There are many parents with bad issues in their life who can't even get a handle on them and throw it into society. Some for wickedness and others for not realizing that the matter itself is within them.

When these cases happen, and are not rare to happen, the psychologist has two paths. The first is to talk to the parents and make them think about why they take the child to attendance, making them reflect if it is not a problem that is within them or if it is something related to a lack of dialogue between parents and children. For this, it is necessary that the psychologist (a) who realize this has a lot of "waist game" to deal with the situation. You will need to have a very flexible and calm personality to deal with all the types of parents that appear in the office. That's no longer an easy thing to do.

On the other hand, there are parents who have a perverse personality (leaning towards narcissism or psychopathy) who, in some ways, manipulate, despise or harm their children in some way. In this case, the most experienced psychologist will be able to verify this and make a complaint of ill-treatment in the Child Welfare Council, who shall ascertain the situation.

When it's physical violence, it's easier to check. However, when mental/psichology violence occurs, it is more difficult because, besides being something more difficult to prove than physical abuse, because it leaves no external marks, it can be something of the child's imaginary. In case it's not, a huge investigation will need to be done with this child and the parents. If parents are "purposeful abusers" (personalities with a tendency to perverse psychopathy/narcissism as stated above), they will tend to hide these molestations. They will usually show that they have a unique personality that they really are, leaving well hidden these perverse traits of personality. In addition, the child generally will not be able to understand that it is suffering these abuses, because, in their mind, as they do not have much contact with the outside world and with families considered "normal", will tend to think that their family environment is normal and interpret These abuses as something common.

However, verified and confirmed the issue of some abuse, another major problem appears, which is the reason for the text.

If the professional denounces, may suffer a process or even be ill spoken, because when the person possesses these traits of perverse psychopathy/narcissism, she tends to have an excellent social role for society and, at home, shows her true personality ( Social role is the mask that people wear to live in society, some necessary and others to cover up a perverse personality). That is, it will not be easy to prove the complaint made.

If he accepts the situation and does nothing, he will be acting in a unethical way. You will be suffering from coercion and possibly be too afraid to denounce or you may just be a scoundrel who thinks only of money.

In conclusion, being a child psychologist is very enriching, because it helps children who are usually vulnerable and naïve beings to deal with their problems in a better way, however, can be a shot in the foot when dealing with parents with related characteristics above, Who tend to be very manipulative and persuasive!!!!!!

In such cases, it is very necessary for the person to be prepared to exercise this profession and to study very well the Guidelines Handbook of the Psychology Council, know issues related to the legal area, form alliances with other professionals in the same area to have Support these hours and always act thinking about preventing damage to your work so as not to have legal problems in these types of cases.

I hope that the work of professionals in this area will always be enriching and productive, both for them and for their small patients!!!

I appreciate the reading and it is this reflection to be done.

Good afternoon!!!!

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