This is really great advice. It can be hard to separate facts from feelings but it's so important to do so. It's one thing to think "I'll be miserable forever" and another thing to say "I FEEL like I'm going to be miserable forever". Another thing I've noticed is that when we get into that trap of confusing feelings with facts, we can trick ourselves into thinking that we've never been happy or that things have always been terrible, which just makes the whole situation worse.
That's something I'm working on now. When I'm feeling down I have a tendency to think things have ALWAYS been bad but I have to talk to myself mentally and be like "You know things haven't always been bad, you're just feeling bad right NOW."
@kristyleann, I feel you there. The concept of time is always a big one for me. It's worked extremely well in relationships too. When you're in an argument or things just aren't working, I always say things like "right now..." or "at this moment...". It really helps to clarify what is actually happening and reduces the intensity of the conversation so you can stick to the objective points and find a solution with your partner.
Glad you found this useful @kristyleann. Thanks for reading :)
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