People consider love to be an antipode of hatred and the surest solution to any life problem. Therefore, it is idealized and transformed into a search for meaning in life. Love conquers everything in the world and simply must be the only thing that we need.
In fact, love and hatred are not so opposite: both arouse fervent feelings, which mostly create problems, but do not solve them.
Without a doubt, love can make a person happy - it happens when your feelings with a chosen one are mutual or when you have a rare opportunity to unite love and sex. At the same time, love brings sadness, anguish and anger if an obstacle arises in its path.
Love pushes us to do bad things, makes us weak-willed or (more often) stupid.
It makes us forget about our values and turn a blind eye to the unbearable nature and bad habits of our elected representatives. That's why love sometimes prevents us from being good people and blocking the path to lasting relationships.
It often happens that we love someone who does not reciprocate with us, or at all desire we just can not find a person whom we could love. Failures in love are often perceived as personal problems. So, when a good person can not find a partner for a long time or turn an attachment into something more, he is ready to search in glossy magazines, clairvoyants or even psychotherapists the answer to the question: what was he wrong about?
However, the lack of love is almost never related to your mistakes or misdemeanors. You can remain alone if you show excessive filibuster and selectivity in matters of love.
At the same time, if you understand that love is a risky business and ready to reconcile with the inevitability of pain and disappointment, you will be able to survive and learn a lot from your losses. Never be ashamed of the wounds received in the right case. Someday, your experience will help you to find love and long-term relationships that meet your values.
Remember: the real opposite of love is not hatred, but indifference. If you are looking for the person you need, and not the one who awakens the necessary feelings in you, you will definitely find it.
Most living creatures choose a partner by two criteria: the ability to reproduce and the presence of a pulse. People are more complex creatures: we attach too much importance to appearance and spark. And thus we spoil everything.
If you focus on what you want, and not on your desire to be necessary, you have a much better chance of finding someone who meets your long-term needs and will not get on your nerves.
If after a friendly chat, walks on the beach and intimacy, you start to meet with a woman, but you will not experience the desire to become attached to it, so you are looking for a dog, not a person for the rest of your life.
I think the post is a good start in thinking about love, and I would challenge you to think a step further. What if I told you that there is no one out the that can really make you happy? Or sad for that matter? The only person who can is on the inside. You are the only person who can make you happy. As long as you try to find love outside of yourself you are essentially conducting a very egoistic search where you put the responsibility for your happiness in someone else's hands. Think what a giant responsibility that is for someone. If you take care to give yourself love and let the happiness come from inside you can meet someone from a different perspective. Not because you hope they can fill the whole in your soul, but because you have so much love inside that you have enough to share. When love becomes about giving and not taking it doesn't matter if the love is reciprocated. The giving of love feels so good there is no expectation on the other to give something back. With love in your heart you also don't "need" external love, and instead it can be a lovely bonus in life. =)
I hope you find the love you need inside and I hope you find someone to share that love with. <3
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I'm generally for meditation and peace of mind =)
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