Hi,my name is Nick.I want to think about one question, which is very interesting for me: About people
I have always been interested in the relationship between people and how they interact with each other. And I came in their meditations to this question: why some people give birth to families, while others do not. What is wrong with these others, and is it true that with them that something is wrong?
Who are the single life? Eccentric? Intellectuals? Originals? Blessed? Spiritual seekers? "Pridurevshie" Slightly? I do not be mistaken if I say - all in one "vial".
Loneliness - it is their choice, or the choice of society that their "pushes"? So far more questions than answers.
For the most part of its single life - introverts. Life introvert boils within himself, and only the crumbs fall out. It is rich in your inner emotional world, romantic, but for some reason it is hidden deep inside. Outside we see a cautious holding human emotions, and not to show them.
It was also in the youth. Introvert maintains relationships with people at the cost of giving up the expression of their feelings and thoughts. In cooperation with the other what is "frozen", it is not able to change and improve. Opinion about yourself and others' opinions of you may not be adequate without the mutual exchange of emotions.
Introvert is engaged only in the construction of mental images, to give less information about the real events that leads to chronic exclusion. You lose a source of psychological growth - the interaction with others. Hence the presence of psychological problems, coupled with the protective mechanisms of the psyche (Freud), impeding the establishment of communication with others.
The reasons for which the introvert is what it is, is different: it is constitutional (congenital) features and characteristics of education, and especially the influence of the environment. The leading feature of the single life - aversion to external communication.
Experience life says: "They still do not understand me!" Indeed, such a person is difficult to understand. Its main feature - the difficulty in translating the internal mode in the outwardly communicative mode. Listeners need to strain to grasp the complex and associative, sometimes bizarre world, "single", and wondering shrugging.
Realizing this, the "householder" connects its hyperreflexia, suffering from its communicative failure, and so zealous in her that losing freedom of expression. And a vicious circle. It is impossible to say what you think - "do not understand", but with better control over the statements and begin to sculpt the fence is that once you understand that to speak at all, "not that." This paradox. And so for singles - "The thought expressed - is a lie" (Tiutchev).
No choice but to remain "in itself." When the creative talents - it promises an unusual expression (Freudian sublimation), and sometimes surprising findings - poetry, literary talent, innovation in technology, scientific ideas, creativity in art, music, dance, etc. With all of this to people, "single" seems to be a weirdo.
To communicate, he chooses 1-2 people, usually similar to himself. However, the Silent too "talkative" subconscious and written his speech is richer than expressed. It is reasonably loner feels its difference from others. He can not comprehend without stress the other person, there are suspicious, alertness and response warmth he will feel more soon. But if you believe it, was filled, he warmed up, then it is a long time. The ideal situation with "a loner" - a conversation face to face. The presence of other pressure on him and deprive "speechless."
So who are they, single life? This - the aliens. But everyone - the planet, his rich inner world where he does not invite anybody, or, in extreme cases, to invite "selected". World singles has a very narrow way out. These people - intelligent, erudite and educated. Raised in nenavyazyvanii surrounding its existence. Philosophically conceptualize life and their place in it. Having absolute mismatch inner psychological plan - external.
Hence many problems - with dialogue, with the acquisition of friends. They always fail to "their" environment and not in the "ease". The friends they choose not to, and they - who fell, but not the one who needed. Over the years, new friends are not purchased, but the old ones - are eliminated, realizing that they were from "another test."
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