My head was spinning like crazy and i thought- “His appetite could easily gobble my savings if left unchecked.”
But; the the truth of the matter, though, is that Oliver is neither gluttonous nor narcissistic. He simply shares two traits all humans possess—one, he’s a big wanter.
By nature, he wants a lot, and he wants lots of what he wants.
That is a big part of being human.
So far, so good. Oliver also possesses another characteristic shared by humans as well: with his human mind,
he finds it easy to conclude that, because he wants something, he needs it, absolutely must have it.
“I want an iPhone,” easily transformed into “I need an iPhone” in his mind ^^
See if that's not true for you. You got to get there on time.” “I have to do well on that project.” “I must impress them.” “I need that.”
The sad fact is that this mental gymnastic—convincing yourself you need what you want—results in misery.
Let's use the relatively inconsequential matter of Oliver thinking he needs an iPhone.
So where do you fall into the I need/I must have trap?
Is it with regard to doing well and succeeding? Does it have to do with thinking you need to be loved, approved, appreciated?
Now think about that cookie a bit ;)
No one has died from failing to get what he or she wants—that includes success of any kind, affection from whoever, approval, and, yes, even an iPhone LOL :P
Sure, there is disappointment, frustration, or sadness when we don't get what we want. But devastation only results when we think we need—must have, can't live without—what we want.
• Be a big wanter. Figure out what you genuinely want and work your heart out to make it a reality.
After all, seeking and savoring fun, pleasure, and happiness is what gives life gusto.
• No matter what you want, nor how much you want it, never convince yourself that you need it.
By doing that, you'll experience gratification when you get what you want, but never destruction when you don’t.
• Make a habit of not using any of the need words or phrases—
“must,” “got to,” “have to,” “need,” and “should.” Try, use words such as “want,” “like to,” “desire,” “hope for,” “prefer,” and “it would be better if.”
It is your job – your responsibility – to create as much happiness for yourself as you possibly can.
That requires these two things of you.
1-be aware of what brings you happiness, allowing yourself to want what that is with all your heart and striving mightily to bring it into reality.
2- while fully wanting what you want, never – ever – convince yourself it is life and death to have it
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HAhaha, this place cracked me up the most. You are one sweet father though, and I totally agree on the path of desire, we are allowed to, as humans, as long as we don't let it consume us. Humans without desire, will to create, want for growth, will be pretty redundant.
As you said 'wants' actually charge us up, in curiosity, which helps us know more....it also charges us to connect with others who are likely to want what we want too or who already have what we want.
Learnt from here, thanks for this post all the same
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Except for the fact; i am A femail 🤪😂😂😂😂😉
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AHHHHHH SWEEEEEETTT MOTHERRRRR....lol wow, awesome...I'm sorry I have only like one friend that's female on the blockchain. Every other is male...so glad to know, and nice to meet you again and again :D
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He he 😉😂 im at work, i will make a better coment when i get home👍🏻😀
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IF i made you laugh; im happy , as i did my job ;) Dont you fidn the concept of deisre intresting thow?? plus, how much is changes depending on wealth/status/ upbringing??, cool right? :D
Mjaa 'she¨is a diffecoult trade to controll, as you say; can easy, take over O.o
Yeah you sumed that up puurrfectly, you got my point :D
Happy to hear :D
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Well I'm also glad I got your point. Plus I like dragons :D...how was work?
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woohoo :D and we also agreed , noow that is how one bake em cookies ;)
aww, as there is soooo many of us roaming the world, to, he? ;)
Hm, 2 blood baths, 3 red emergency alarm, i got my puls up for real, got to love running throw the hallways and have NILLLL nada clue what will meet you at the doorway ;) Lets say- all my peeps are alive, hade a screaming match with ICU, & ended of my day, with a cool race with a BMW, in 210km /h, ;) Im content & will now drop dead ;) LOL
What do you do for a living??
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I don't like to see blood,.... interesting you're in healthcare...
Whaaaat? wow, I've never passed 120km/hr on a very daring day. lool 😂😂😂....I don't know any lady that speeds like that. It must be fun lol.
I'm a full time Steemian (some people will say Is that even a thing?), well I basically write for a living, and Steem is where majority of my writing goes.
How do you have time to manage your line of work (healthcare) and family and steem?
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haey now, my dealing hand is bodely fluids ;) LOL Yes, im a emergency nurse :P
Ha ha it was one of them who thinks driving fast IS on the strait streatches, suutch a sissy, i overtook him in the coners going 180km/h ;) LOL second passby, i did in a T-junktion , NOW that IS daring :P & he folded ;) LOL but i doo loove to compeet..in anyything LOL (been married to a streetracer LOL )
I do drive/race as a chill down, relax, let steam out :)
Oh, dang whats your curations?? crap i thought i did good here.. O.o LOL Of course you can make a living here, :D !!!im juust a TOOO spoiled brat to settle for juust steemit ;)
Oh i didnet say i also are doing my masters degree at 50% ;) Hm right now? Bf is pissed like a cobra, screaming smsing bloody murder, AS im not giving him enuff attention ;) soo, im ghoosting LOL
The baby dragons are doing highschool, so them i sms/skype :D and bake for ,on my free days :)
dont foget the bitcoin & STEEM trading tooo ;)
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wow wow wow, now that is daring!!!
Dang, amazing....have you always been into racing? even before meeting your partner?
I do get support from other amazing steemians from time to time, Since the beginning of the year I've been able to grow my account into the $500 range (X.X), I guess little drops fill the ocean right I just wish steem would go higher so I can at least get a phone or a box of pizza and pay the power forward you know...
Whatt?? Super you!
lol please give bf attention lol 😂😂..
😂😂😂 your sense of humour is super...I've been typing with all my teeth out.
You also trade??? Adopt me already!!!
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see, that was daring ;) LOL
I alwasy have like speed, i did race my exhubbys brother ;) then married M, and he thought me, ITS all about gear clutch, speed in corners ;that will make you the winner,!! ;) im a wicked ass sidekick, i hollower loadly how many sec you got to get out of intersections ;)
Hmmm Hmmm we 2 NEEED to have sitdown about your curations Mr.. my my, soo much to teatch ;) lol hi hi 500 LOL
awsoem to hear that you get support !! wohoo nice job :D congrats :D
Mjaa, i dont actually know hun ;) im one of them who have more ;) but yeah, i know :) <hands over a pizza :D
Jupp i do that tooo, stubbern wins da race LOL
he he , i got 2 poemes written about me here actually, my humore was called 'dry' ;) LOL Sweet< cathes the dentures ;) LOL
Sure do, & you just witnessed one of my transactiosn, noow im of to stalk bitcoins.. i need a dip so i can restock .....
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Have a great day at work today, talk to you later
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Im thinking; your jinxing me ;) hade to call the MIG team, full drama with stop of breathing and shy high puls ;) Anyy way, all is alive ;) LOL im moore then dead, &&& i got a 3 new contract to sign ToooOOO :D
Hows your side of the coner? :D
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Interesting.
The Buddhist view of course is the opposite... attachment to desire is the root of suffering.
And the Taoists talk about striving without striving.
I think I like to sit somewhere in the middle of all this.
I do find that if I think I ‘need’ something, usually I’ll pause and check in and realise I don’t really. I like your re-frames 😊🙏🏽☯️
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so less attachment = less suffering
right?
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depends, per defenition of 'attachement' .... ??
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I do think, the buddhist are on to something , i will not agree on 'disire being the root ' thow...
Im with you, middel ground seems fare enuff, i think desire also helps us push forward, come up with new thingg; be inventive; AND that is the benefits of being human, our will to move forward :D
Yeah i do to, i dooo see a lot of 'need' from my self, BUT i can pause and see that its juust a thingi i have for that specific moment, so i can move along and leave that 'need' alone ;)
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Real beauty is natural beuty
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I so agree :D Thanks for looking :D
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Aww thank you, you made me all soft and mushy now😉😁
Keep up the great work guys!! Im loving your tag & thanks for the notice💗🐉🐲🧚🏻♂️🐉
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Less iphones and more air and water I reckon! ;)
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ha ah you know me well ;) I hade him walk the dog after school, then shooved his butt to the neibour for snowball wars ;) THEN he got da phone ;)
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Nice! work does lead to ... #stuff. or at least free time when there is no work...
But snowball wars are free! ;)
Nice!
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You said so much truth, the society making us believe need a lot of things
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Hi and nice to meet you😀🐲💗🐉
Aw great to hear, i think we should try and see what sociaty say first, as in before we claime a need for something 😉🙄
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You do what you can without making them feel that everything is easy to come by they must earn it and with respect :)
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I soo agree, my kids CAN have almost anything they wish for BUUUT they do need to work for it & IF you break it.. THEN you fix it ;)
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That is the way you know what you doing good on you :)
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How many kids do you have???
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I have the one son and we get on real well like father and son and a great friend :)
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aw ok , soo you can share your car intrest then :D ;) soo nice :D
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Oh..yes we are both into cars and respect our cars :)
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