Here are some steps qolbu therapy that you can do to muffle resentment in your heart.
• Do not dramatize feelings
What do you feel when listening to sad songs? Hearing sad songs when your heart hurt will make your heart sadder. This is the effect of dramatization.
Similarly, when your heart hurt, you dramatize those feelings with grievances, hatred, threats, and tears. Not that the pain was gone, but it got worse. Crying can, as long as not drag on.
• Self-inspection
As mentioned in the previous chapter, sometimes someone does not intend to hurt us, but we are too sensitive to mean other people's intentions. Therefore, when you intend to take revenge, consider in advance what the error is to you. Lest he actually innocent, only you are too sensitive to respond to his words or actions.
Be honest with yourself, perhaps you are too concerned with the ego so that when someone speaks or acts directed to you, you interpret it as an attempt to lower your self-esteem. In fact, his speech or action is not intended to be so.
• Think about the impact
Before you launch an act of revenge on someone who hurts you, think about the impact. If you take revenge, you may be satisfied for a moment, but be prepared for the counterattack of the person concerned. Furthermore, be prepared to be shunned by your friends. I am sure they will rate you as a vindictive type. And, there will be no yag willing to be friends with people who have a vengeful type.