Spice4Life - Music and Chat show - Recap of 14 Oct 2018 - Part 1

I greeted everybody that was tuned in and did the formal disclaimer.

Next, I want to share a blog or two with you. I came across this worthy cause of @hitmeasap where he helps to make a minnow. One at a time.
https://steemit.com/steemit/@hitmeasap/time-for-our-next-minnow-or-let-s-push-people-to-500-sp-or-8-out-of-8-so-far

Please go and support his effort.

Please support and upvote the daily msp-waves posts. This is the radio station mspwaves.com

@Globocop said that with the low Steem prices, the station is under pressure to pay our server bills.
MSP waves at the moment also need technically minded and reliable people to join the ops team to help with hand-overs and sound checks.

A BIG SHOUT TO @Globocop @R0nd0n @Meno and @pechichemena for running the OPS team on mspwaves.com Thank you @movement19 for joining the OPS team! Without you guys, we are lost, especially me because I know nothing of the technical stuff.

Then I come across this post of @pechichemena and it was truly inspirational. His post speaks of the power of steemit as a community and the hope it brings to a lot of people.
https://steemit.com/music/@pechichemena/alas-de-polvo-original-song-steemit-pre-release-story-behind-the-song-how-i-funded-an-album-with-the-help-of-steem

Steemit is an awesome community because we stand together so let’s listen to this fun song, We all stand together, by Paul McCarthy and the Frog Chorus.

We All Stand Together is from the animated film Rupert and it reached number three in the UK Singles Chart in 1984. The "Frog Chorus" backing on the song was provided by the King's Singers choral group and the choir of St Paul's Cathedral. The 'flute playing frog' was Elena Durán.

Another steemian @chireerocks who is a very positive person wrote this poem that I want to share with you.

If you are looking for inspiration and positivity, then you can support his blog!
https://steemit.com/@chireerocks

My topic currently is happiness and I will continue with that for a few weeks.

So I made this image to recap what I have been discussing last week:

Let's listen to The Lumineers with Holding out which come from the 2016 animated movie Storks and then Natasha Beddingfield - Happy released in 2008.

First I am going to share with you about Compartmentalization.

The recap of the previous show makes it sound so easy to be happy. You just make the decision and there you go! It sounds so simple and I don’t want anyone to think that this is maybe a mockery of their serious unhappiness and problems. Even if you have problems in your life you can be happy, So before I go on with how to be happy I want to share with you the technique called Compartmentalization.

Concentration camp prisoners learned that while detesting their conditions and expecting death they were able to draw immense pleasure from flowers, sunsets, butterflies, dear friendships and their relationship with God.

It is simple to do, but it is nothing short of magical in its effectiveness.

• In your mind, allow yourself to dwell for a while on the source of your pain and we use the example of living with an addicted spouse. Acknowledge your hurt. Make no attempt to hide it or ignore it If you feel you want to go ahead and cry.
• Work on it awhile, both emotionally and physically. You simply must approach this problem constructively. First, sort through your feelings by talking with a trustworthy friend or by going to a counsellor, by taking it to God in prayer - or by all three.
• Then check on a new treatment program you have heard about, read an article about drug-abuse cures. Watch a television special that details the latest options. Order a helpful video from some reputable treatment center. Pick up a book that contains the stories of alcoholics who have beaten the odds. Your objective here is to become the world's foremost spouse authority on understanding coping with and beating addiction.
• Follow that up with a talk to your spouse - either by phone, by email or in person. Inquire about his or her progress. Tell him/her the latest things you have learned about he/she can do to overcome the addiction. Assure your spouse of your love, your support and your confidence of his eventual success.

Next up: Jason Mraz with his 2012 Rock song, Freedom song and Birdy & James Young, Best shot, a 2014 song from the movie, The fault in our stars.

• Now the most critical step. Having dealt with your spouse's addiction emotionally and pro-actively, allow yourself the satisfaction of knowing that for today you have done everything that is reasonable and loving to do. Imagine with me that you are working on a beautiful tapestry. Each day you enter the tapestry room and work on it for as long as your full schedule allows. But it will take you years to complete the intricate, painstaking work. So when your allotted time is up, you smile with a feeling of accomplishment for the little bit you have been able to do today, you walk out of the room and you lock the door.

Certainly, you could allow yourself to be pressured by the tapestry's incomplete state until you were miserable, but that will be foolish. There it is, waiting for you when you are ready to return, kept safe in a separate compartment. So long as you do not leave the door ajar, the unfinished tapestry cannot detract from the beauty and order of the rest of your house, it does not affect the kitchen, the bathrooms, the bedrooms, the living room, the garages or even the yard.

It doesn't matter that things may look a mess in the tapestry room. You have compartmentalized it so that it simply does not affect the rest of your life! Do the same with the pain of your addicted spouse. Wall it off from the rest of your life. Visit it regularly and deal with it calmly, practically, and even (as often as you need to) emotionally.

• But then compartmentalize it. Walk out and lock the door! Why leave the door standing wide open, so that it pollutes the atmosphere of the rest of your life.

The technique to compartementalize is no mere theory; it really works. This is the way healthy, successful people actually deal with awesome pain and thereby prevent it from destroying their lives.

Tough talk to a stubborn spouse - Stephen Schwambach

Next, I play for you: I believe I can fly by R Kelly. A song released in 1998 that got a grammy for award for the best R&B song as well as some other awards.

Thank you for reading. I am going to post the 2nd half of the show tomorrow.

Sources: https://howtobehappy.guru/
https://steemit.com/psychology/@hope777/love-and-marriage-14
https://steemit.com/christian-trail/@hope777/love-and-marriage-65-my-spouse-is-an-alcoholic-addict-part-3
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