Face up to the problem you encounter, and accept and change it with a calm heart, so that the problem can be fundamentally solved.
Bill Gates once said: "Learn to accept the inevitable reality, learn to deal with the problems caused by defects, and not complain about it." We can only accept the facts that already exist and make self-adjustments. Not only can we complain about others. It ruined one's own life and made oneself nervous.
We must realize that complaining is more harmful to us than defects themselves. If we can spend half of the time and energy spent on complaining to solve the problems that arise, then we will no longer complain. We will find that in our previous lives, we only learned to complain about problems, but didn't really learn how to face and solve problems.
Once, the famous violinist Ollie Bull gave a concert in Paris. During the affectionate performance, the A string on the violin broke. Generally speaking, the player will stop in this situation, change to a violin and play again. If it happens to be unable to find another suitable violin, this piece of music will have to end here.
But Oli Bull showed a unique genius in this situation: he played the piece with the remaining three strings. Let's not discuss Ouli Bull's superb skills, but just look at his calmness and calmness when encountering problems.
He taught us how to face the shortcomings and shortcomings of life: the A string of the violin is broken, and the tune is played on the other three strings. Everyone has their own shortcomings and weaknesses, but the difference is whether they can deal with their shortcomings realistically, use the remaining three strings, and take the courage to break through.
Success master Carnegie also said: "Once I refused to accept an unchangeable situation I encountered. I was like an idiot, constantly making senseless resistance, and the result was sleepless nights. I made myself very much. It’s miserable. Finally, after a year of self-torture, I have to accept the fact that I can’t change it.”
There is a school in the eastern United States that is in serious trouble because it is adjacent to a slum with extremely poor security. The school glass is often broken by urchins and students’ cars are always stolen. "How can we have such a terrible neighbor in such a great school?" The angry directors met to discuss the matter. When they voted by a show of hands, they unanimously passed: "Get out of those uncivilized neighbors!" The method of the directors. It's very simple. With the school's strong financial resources, all the land and houses in the slums have been bought and converted into campuses.
The campus has grown bigger, but the problem has not only been solved, but has become more serious. Although the poor have moved out, they have only moved outward. Across the green grass, the school is connected to the new slum area, and the campus is expanded. If it is difficult to manage, public security becomes even more chaotic.
The board of directors was unable to do anything and had a headache, so they invited local police officers to conspire with countermeasures. "When you don't get along well with your neighbors, the best way is not to drive your neighbors away, let alone close yourself, but to try to understand and communicate, and then influence and educate them." The police officer said.
There was no sarcasm in the police officer's words, but when the school directors heard it, they were like a thorn on their backs. Because they discovered that as the directors of universities, they had forgotten the function of education. They looked at each other for a long while and laughed blankly.
Later, they set up cram schools for civilians, sent graduate students to slum areas for investigation and discussion, donated educational equipment to neighboring primary and secondary schools, and provided guidance for employment. They also opened up part of the campus as a sports field for young people to use. Within a few years, the environmental security of this school has been greatly improved, and the neighboring slums have also become well-off.
We must learn to adapt and not complain about unfavorable circumstances. Complaints and worries about the inevitable reality cannot solve any practical problems. Only by facing up to the problems encountered by oneself, and accepting and changing them with a calm heart, can the problems be solved fundamentally.
Destiny is always full of unpredictable variables. If it brings us happiness, of course it is very good, and we can easily accept it. But things are often not the case. Sometimes, it will bring us terrible disasters. At this time, if we cannot learn to accept it, but let the disaster dominate our hearts and complain about God’s injustice all day long, then life will be Lose the sunshine forever.