He Said / She Said - Week 4 - Making Choices for the Family

Back in 2003 I started to study homeopathy.  My reasons for that was our oldest son was affected by vaccines and the school wanted me to put him on medication to "help" him.  I told them I would do it my way first.  If there was no improvement when I was done then I would consider their way.  This beginning choice to use homeopathy for our son was the beginning of a long journey.  This journey took us to places that I never considered when I first made the choice to use homeopathy. 

As I seen my son begin to do better on homeopathy I decided to study it.  Once there I started to work for a homeopath and she was just as alternative as I was.  She began to look into a concept called Natural Person.  She made choices to change her business so it was out of the system.  If I wanted to continue to work for her I needed to consider Natural Person as well.  Of course I was in.  

I studied for awhile with out Rob.  He was very much against all of this in the beginning.  There  was a turning point for him and he decided to come to one of the meetings where we learned each week.  The learning curve was huge for both of us.  It challenged us at every turn.  We both went through a period of extreme anger with the system.  This took us about 6 months to work through and get past such deep hurt and disgust and anger toward the system.   

Once past this part we were able to move on and begin to make decisions regarding how to operate our family within this system.  During this time Rob and I moved onto the land and were beginning our journey to build our earthship and create a peaceful place for ourselves and our family.  This was part of our decisions to protect the boys.  

Again we spent many hours discussing how to deal with what we knew.  We knew we didn't want to be in the system.  So we decided for Rob to leave the system and do the paperwork necessary to do this. I would stay in and protect the kids if anything happened while he was testing things. This was huge due to the fact that we thought that he might be arrested at any moment.  We knew that the system knew about our decisions.  How we knew this was Rob went to do a seminar in Toronto and my brother that lived there at the time told my mom that his friend in the police knew about him and that he was in Toronto.  They were watching us.

This all was a bit stressful.  We talked regularly about what the kids and I would do if he never came home one day.  We tried to think of every scenario possible so that we would be prepared.  I am sure there were some things we didn't think about.  This became the way of life for a few years.  While thinking about all of these decision we were also making decision on how to be self sustaining.  Each year we would implement new addition on to the domain.  We started with gardening then chickens, goats etc. We had decided to add something each year so we could learn all about that within that year.

We have declared peace openly and usually only talk about peaceful solutions.  Rob had an encounter with an officer about 5 years ago and it went very well because he declared peace with the officer and asked the officer if he was going to be peaceful.  

Now that we have lived like this for 10 years.  I actually find that I am the one who is at risk more than he is.  I am still in the system.  I chose this so that the kids would have a parent if anything happened to Rob.  Now however, I hold their documents and they can do whatever they want.  I find this to be risky.  I need to always be aware when I leave our domain.  I sometimes feel like I am walking into the Matrix when I leave here. 

We have talked about me getting out of the system.  However then I would not have a bank account.  This is the main reason I stay in.  We still need to interact with the outside world.  With no documents we would be completely isolated.  We have talked about this being a possibility some day but for now I need to stay connected. 

We both have made sacrifices to live this life.  I would not change this, it is what has made us who we are.  We have learned so much through this time. I feel it allows Rob to be able to be the one who interact and teaches others.  I am grateful that he does this.  He teaches so naturally.  Really in the end it is about learning what we can and doing our best to be  there for others.  This is what we have tried to do. 

Here is a link to Rob's side of the story.

https://steemit.com/reconcilingrelationships/@wwf/he-said-she-said-week-4-making-choices-for-the-family