In daily life, there are indeed many people and things that are difficult to refuse. For example, your boss orders you to work overtime, iron buddies ask you to help walk through the back door, and old friends sell things to you... Many times, you obviously want to speak out loud. "No" is spoken, but for various reasons, the word is swallowed alive.
However, being difficult to refuse does not mean that you do not need to refuse. Learning to refuse is very important to the person you are in. A person who doesn't know how to refuse is pitiful, but also pitiful. If you don’t know how to refuse, you will often be dragged down by people outside of yourself, and it’s not a big deal to bring yourself trouble, and you may end up with a difficult but good result.
In fact, it is of course a good thing to be able to help others frequently when interacting with others, because people who often take the initiative to help others are more likely to be welcomed and loved by everyone. However, everyone's time and strength are limited. Sometimes, we need to concentrate time and energy to do what we should and like to do.
At that time, if you don't want to be disturbed by other things outside of your body, you must learn to reject others. This can save a lot of time and avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble. For example, you have a particularly important negotiation on Monday, but your good friend wants you to drive him to the airport late on Sunday night, and your friend lives in a downtown area, so he can take a taxi to the airport.
At this time, you should find a way to refuse. If you agree to a friend out of affection, it will not be conducive to your sleep, which will directly affect your work efficiency the next day. If you mess up the negotiation because of poor spirits, you may also lose your favorite job, and you will regret it at that time.
Therefore, don't always look forward to the future, hesitate, and respond against the other side because you want to be accepted or praised by others, are afraid of causing unhappiness to others, or worry about messing up the relationship. When it's time to say "no", you must boldly say it. Only in this way can you save limited time and do more and more meaningful things.