I(27M) am a nutritionist and fitness trainer. My wife(23F) is a SAHW. She's now 5 months pregnant.
My mom came to our home to help my wife out as she's having a difficult pregnancy. She's being made to eat only green leafy vegetables, other veggies, rice, Indian flatbread, lentils and curd. My mom makes bland food for her since she's unable to keep anything down. My mom is also very strict about her not eating too much oil, sweets, junk, etc.
I make separate food containing meat, eggs, milk, spices etc. for myself and my mom. I and my mom do the household chores since my wife is unable to do anything due to severe nausea, bloating, acidity, etc.
My wife has started to feelbead because she's stuck eating bland food while we eat spiced food containing meat.
I tried consoling her by telling her that it's just for 4 more months but she said since she is likely to have a C section, she'll not be allowed to have anything but bland food for 2 months at least.
My mom said she'll have to eat it for longer than that as eating spicy and non vegetarian food is bad for nursing women.
My wife then told me she wants me to give her company by eating the same food as her. I refused because I prefer animal protein over plant protein. I however told her that I'd stop eating junk foods, sweets, etc.
She is now mad at me and is saying that I'm selfish for not even sacrificing my current food habits for her.