How to Flirt Successfully (strictly for men)

in relationship •  8 years ago 

Every heterosexual man grew up being fascinated by the opposite sex. And soon after puberty kicked in, this fixation assumed a whole new dimension. How to get the girl you liked to say yes, go on a date with you and probably cinch in a kiss or two at the end of the night became the new game among your peers. When you finally got into college, this game began even more interesting because of the whole thrill of bedding the finest and hottest girls on campus. However this whole flirting and winning thing didn’t come easy for some men. In fact it is a big challenge to most. In fact the more classy or highly sought after your target is, the greater the need to up your flirting skills.

In view of this, here a few tips on how to successfully flirt and score big time with that lady.

1) Understand the time and place

Putting moves on that colleague of yours in the office might seriously amount to sexual harassment in the work place and you will probably get your ass sued or fired. It’s best to wait till after hours when you’re gathered at the bar for a few glasses of wine or any other place more relaxing away from work. While at work, you could drop a few, however, very mild hints. These could include smiling brightly, fetching her coffee, helping with her photocopy, helping her put together that presentation, etc.

2) Understand your target

This is a very vital one. Before you go chasing, take a few moments or even days (if you have this luxury) to figuratively size up your challenge. Is she putting out hints that she is single and searching, this could include smiling easily, dressing provocatively, paying you enough attention, etc.? Or is she totally off the radar, like flashing her wedding band in your face, barely smiling, obviously waiting for her date, etc?

3) Look the part

To successfully flirt and score, you have to look appealing yourself. Be clean, dress well, smell good, brush your teeth regularly or keep a steady supply of breath mints. Besides looking good, you have to be confident or look it, even if you don’t feel very much so. Get your lines right and keep it short. For example, when you walk up to a lady at the bar, don’t say, “How are you doing? What’s your name? Where do you work? Can I sit beside you?” A simple, “Please oblige me the honor of sitting next to a pretty lady like yourself.” Then go ahead to order a refill of her glass.

 

4) Go in for the kill

As the drinks keep coming in steady, introduce yourself and ask her about herself or how her day went. Make sure you do ninety percent of the listening and ten percent of the talking. Act as if you’re deeply interested in what she’s saying and drop in a few comments, intelligent ones too, from time to time. If you listen well and ask the right question in a subtle manner, you will find out in time if she’s looking for a nice time or is up for something more serious like dating. 

5) Close the deal

As you guys talk, there are a few points you should take note of. For example, lean in when talking to her. Try to brush her hair if it’s falling out of place. Do this gently and quickly. Ensure you make her laugh a lot and drop in a few hints she’s giving you the green light. For example, “your lips look so soft. I just want to taste them.” If she laughs or encourages you to, make sure you do it before the night is over. Ladies do not like to be disappointed. 

If she’s looking for a date, make sure to set up one too, before the night or occasion (it might be at a friend's gallery show or birthday party, etc.) is over.


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Can confirm

Hahhahaha, I love how you sighted the source!

;)

*cited

Best advice ever.

"Be French" works as well, but only when you are NOT in France ;)

:^) Just like being from the US when in Japan.. in the 1980s.
THAT was a blast. But now... maybe its different?

Haha I like the source reference!

@repholder, it worked for me as well

lol the source

Please read carefully what this blog says and do the opposite. You're welcome.

P.S. Having a ton of Steem is the ultimate aphrodisiac

Yip, this blog is 100% the opposite of what actually works lol.

Agreed. This post is great advice for what women should do. If a woman brings me coffee, asks politely to sit next to me, looks good, hangs on 90 percent of the words I say -- I know she's interested and will either give her a positive response or a negative one.

I don't think it has any business being marketed to men as serious advice. Nobody wants to date or have sex with a guy who acts like an interested woman would act.

Checkout my most recent post for more effective advice ;-)

Her G spot is a woman's best kept secret, I know because my name is Grant

  ·  8 years ago (edited)

That comes at the last stage when u have already penetrated, i.e. u r already successful at flirting with a target.

What if g-spot stimulation is how I flirt?

HA! Then you must be flirting with unconscious women!
um... kinda sorta enjoyable, especially if they wake in a good mood.
Difficult to admit to though. ;^P

lucky your name is Grant as by the sounds of it if it was any other name you would have serious issues

Rule number one... don't say/do/be like every other dude who approaches her on a daily basis. The worst thing you can do to attract a highly desirable woman is act extremely interested. The best thing you can do is get her to wonder why you are not chasing and obsessing after her.

When you do something that immediately sets you apart from the droves of "Can I buy you a drink. Please give me a chance! I'll do anything you want" crowd you will have her attention.

Then you must carefully communicate indirectly and often nonverbally, that it is her who should be seeking your attention. Confidence is the fundamental mechanism by which this is nonverbally communicated.

Sadly most people don't like those who show too much interest in the beginning.

I never did.
Made a strong attempt to seem less interested.
I'd even get a number and refuse the first attempt to 'bed' me.
If the lady wouldn't talk after, so what? Don't need her. But if we stayed in touch, bingo.
Women will more often than not, never speak to you again. Turn them down and you might as well never been born.
Men on the other hand will try and try and try...
Which of these approaches would be most likely to gain the user a sense of power over the other?
I say women. The 'take me when I say or never' game REALLY turned me off.
I always wondered, do mothers tell their daughters to act this way?
Few women don't, and its not dependent on age I've found.

Yaas, confidence is incredibly sexy. Not talking about being cocky or chauvinistic, but being smooth and confident- regardless if you have to fake it til you make it.

Okay seriously, where has this guide been for the last 30 years of my life.....I am still trying to figure out Am I Religious or Spiritual?, well I was....finally figured it out and wrote all about Religions and Spiritualities today....

Dude, you and i are related or something

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Some great tips, thanks for sharing

There are some good tips that I agree with so I upvoted. Unfortunately a large majority of men will fail to have success with the women still. They can't face rejection. It is like all the people who have signed up for Steemit and then quit. We are the elite! Muahahhahahahha

Unfortunately a large majority of men will fail to have success with the women still.

I guess all of our fathers were in the minority then... lol

I'm a woman.

Guys, you have no idea.

Great elaboration! Very Constructive thinking! Just Wow! That's some good advice! Way to help out!

@msgivings

If I wanted to manipulate more efficiently potential dates/partners with a-la-cart pop-pop culture techniques, I would have skipped the talking and pay a prostitute.

Saves time too...

hahahaahahahahah I laughed away too much. Guys take it from a woman: none of these tips work.
@msgivings still a good post. funny though :)

So you don't guy for guys who brush their teeth and dress in clean clothes?

i am not sure i understand. Brushed teeth , you do that even if you are not flirting lol

Tip 3 was all about grooming and looking good. You claimed none of these tips work... And not everyone brushes their teeth every day, or keeps up their appearance in general.

man are you kidding me. its taken for granted that you need take care of yourself, EVERYDAY. what are you talking about? what are you implying? that you brush your teeth only because you want to get laid? well, you do you. what can i say.

@thebluepanda:
I wasn't talking about me. There are a lot of guys out there who don't pay much attention to hygiene though, and many more who dress for comfort rather than looks.

And what about the first tip? Not hitting on coworkers seems like solid advice to me...yet you said all these tips are bad.

Do you have some fundamental problem with men getting dating advice that makes you tear it down without even actually looking at it?

because i can't reply to your comment above. I think you are taking it a bit personally. there is another comment saying "do the reverse of these tips". I dont understand why you are picking a fight with me. If anything I laughed (in a good sense) about this post and i always stated that this is a good post. So please explain me: where do you see that I have a problem with men receiving dating tips?

I shudder to think about this. Yuck.

this argument is bogus

Now, take it from a man. Men may not brush their teeth or may not shave or may not do many other things, unless they have to impress a lady (or they are already caged by a lady :D).

hahahahahahahahaha thanks for the positive comment because i m under attack here :P

My reaction to this post is that it's pretty much what today's woman would not respond to. But I called my niece and had her read it. She's 26, smart, attractive etc. She just laughed and laughed and said it's exactly the approach that doesn't work. It was pretty well-written though :)

I think this is a sh1t test. Meaning, women knowingly give advice that won't work, just to see who is foolish (read: clueless beta male) enough to get self-conflicting advice from women... :P

Women are notorious for giving "be a nice guy" advice like this, and then go have sex with the biker guy who deals drugs and beats her up. :P

I saw a study, typically women want sex with the fun, exciting, bad boy and want a relationship with the pleasant, considerate, nice guy. Sex with new partners can be fun, but often its not as good as when you have someone who knows exactly how to push your buttons. So the nice guys win.

In redpill/mgtow terminology, this dynamic is called "AF/BB" (alpha fucks, beta bucks).

Nice guys win? So, when she has sex with an alpha guy, beta guy funds her lifestyle and takes all her bs, and that's a win?

You just exposed your beta-thinking.

Here are 100+ studies about women, if you want to educate yourself:

http://pastebin.com/ybbfzvet

you immediately took that to the extreme... and it's so accurate

Disclaimer: I do not suggest men to go deal drugs or initiate violence against women to get laid. Just telling the stereotypical example. :D

To flirt was successful - you need to be yourself and have fun! Everything else is nonsense.

wow! thank you for info.

Honestly if a stranger told me they wanted to taste my lips, I would cringe so hard it would be painful.
I would rather someone just be themselves. If you have to put up a front and think of lines to feed someone to get them to like you, they're probably not the person for you. Be unapologetically you, quirks and all.

Wow, this...this was amazing. I mean, “Please oblige me the honor of sitting next to a pretty lady like yourself.” makes me think this must be satire. Do you tip your fedora with that line as well?

I think these tips are also useful to conquer his own wife as a good and lasting relationship needs to be achieved constantly.

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Don't waste time on these tips. They are nothing. For example, the tip about not speaking casually, but officially. Nonsense. The example in the post is just absurd and hilarious.

  ·  8 years ago (edited)

Flirting is ANYTHING that has sexual innuendo. You can talk with her about how you like sandwiches whilst making it sexual underneath the conversation. This blog would make me put too much pressure on myself. Stop thinking, don't be up in your head. Just do whatever without big expectations and have fun.

wanna taste my hoagie? Hey, you know why they call them 'sub' sandwhiches? its short for submarine. But i'm not really sure why they call them submarines. Mines is too dry to be a submarine.... it could use a trip a few leagues under the sea

Two big things here: 1. Timing and 2. Confidence in who you are.

My move would be "Your lips look so soft, you wear any type of special lip gloss?" And then she'd assume I'm gay and I fall into the friend zone....

Nice tips @msgivings

The REAL fact of the matter is that no size fits all !! Women are these absolutely beautiful, amazing creatures with their own uniqueness.... but damn, do we love them !!

This. Is. Garbage.

Seriously people, stop upvoting such crap. Obviously this lady or whomever has never actually had to seduce a woman cause this is idiocy. Ignore all of it.

Nice post I upvoted it!
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Awesome tips about flirting. But you need to use your imagination and don't use the same tips every time. You must be unique to win your battle. Women love the surprises!!

I want to know how a conversation might stray away from kissing after telling a woman you want to taste her lips other than her slapping you.

The best advice ever: always be yourself. Girls like true and trustful man, because she feels secure with him.

Men do not realise that the girl is pro active, does the choosing.
Once married the girl has to get her good ideas to seem to be
her husband's.

Worst advise ever :D

wow, now I know!
Nice One!

After this post, I feel more confident, thanks!

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Remember , when in doubt, ladies love the Mary J.

Alright... Being a young woman with enough self-confidence and moderate levels of self-respect I can say that I would go for the guy exhibiting everything relayed in point 4 and 5 only if I was very keen to get laid. Once. if I am very tipsy. After that I would probably not be too keen for him to ever catch my eye again. And this would be a serious pain if we work in the same office.

Don't get me wrong, the first 3 arguments were on point and absolutely out there. However, I believe that in order to survive as species modern men really need to be smarter than 'Acting as if they are very interested'. People, honestly.... I think if anything, women are very intuitive creatures, which means that the second you start faking your interest in her all females in your office will now about this (we love our gossip, remember?).

At the same time, if you actually talk to her briefly at work or before the lecture, you will most likely not come across as a prick. On this note, I do wonder what kind of moves does the author suggest that will have you facing sexual harassment charges... Be nice, be friendly, be brief, don’t touch her hair, but do be interested and attentive. Notice if she needs any help with anything and again briefly assist with that. Woman are the weaker sex, particularly modern women.

What this will do is it will put you way ahead of the competition (you’d be surprised how few men get this, and again, even if I don’t like the guy, I will still totally appreciate him being like that). Don’t go all Robin Hood on anyone, be smart. And if the girl does not like you or flashed a wedding band in your face, she will deffo tell her girlies how awesome you are… Remember, we love our gossip ;)

Personnaly I think this is a bunch of B.S. No one can figure out the female mind, not even the females themselves.

After reading each point on this post I kept thinking "uh... no don't want any guy to say those cheesy lines to me" If you want quality advice that is real and works, check out David DeAngelo. That's his stage name or whatever, his real name is Eben Pagan, he's a smart business man but is also well educated in the world of dating and the psychology of women. You're welcome.

Dan Bacon is another excellent one

  ·  8 years ago (edited)

Such an accurate post!

I believe two things were left out:

  1. Use proper grammar.
  2. Always achieve first place on every video game.

At least these are on the top most sexy for me :)

The statistics on this topic really speak the exact opposite of what you've been saying. Well, maybe not the exact opposite. But let's just say that there's some serious conflict.

I'm not a great looking guy, but for instance at a club I was dressed very sharp and wore a noir hat. Make sure you learn how to dance and girls will show attention, they'll want selfies with try hat. Start from there. Worked so many times with me.

Hmmm - Yes, I read even though I'm a woman - but here's why... For a time, I was the ghostwriter MANY gurus in the PUA industry hired to turn their teachings into course material. Pretty eye-opening - and for sure made post-divorce life a whole new ballgame. I can sometimes even identify which course a guy studied just by how they approach. It's even more interesting being the mom of a beautiful teenager - tempting to tell the guys that I wrote the book on it!

Haha. This one was good. Have you ever been near a woman? It seems that you don't have much experience. At least it is funny to read. One day you will look back and think what was I doing? lol. But cheers.

  ·  8 years ago (edited)

Always remeber, all women are different and they think different. But this might work on most of girls...
Unless your very ugly;/

I think the smell is really important. Either a woman likes it or not.
But the most important advice is to just be yourself! No women want a lovely flirt with a badass behind ;)
But your tips can be so helpful just not to be so nervous and to be more confident. Thumbs up

She wont answer, she doesn't answer back to any comments. I have been waiting 2 days for a response on a reply I did, she went silent 2 min after and no longer comments back on anything and only uploads posts now. Must be nice to get paid out fat for 5 min of typing out shit that I wouldn't wipe my ass with.

Why do people give the community's money away for posts like this?

Good well known advices! Thanx for remembering.