Gladly Presenting The Tenth Episode of Let's Talk About it With @oluwatobiloba. The First Blockchain Programme That Keeps You Engaged, Informed and Entertained.

in relationship •  7 years ago 

Hey Kings and queens, I welcome you this morning to another great episode of let's talk about it with @oluwatobiloba, and I am grateful to the most high God for another opportunity to see beautiful and handsome faces again this morning.
It is good to know that we are all doing very fine and there is an atom of love in our heart, one thing I always believe is that love conquers evil and that is why anything that has to do with matters of the heart means so much to me and hence the birth of the weekly show.

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Report from Last Week.

My dear pretty friend was very happy at the rate of comment she received on the show last week, she never expected such love from people who do not know her and she is saying a big thank you to everyone for participating, she asked me to send a big hug to everyone on her behalf.

RELATIONSHIP QUESTION FOR THIS WEEK.

From Miss Anonymous: I am in a serious relationship, I meet a new friend of the opposite gender who obviously has a crush on me, is it advisable to immediately inform him about the fact that I have someone already or should I just pretend as though I know nothing about the entire drama because sometimes I feel we should not be in a rush to tell our new friends about our relationship. (I stand corrected, so I want to know your opinion).

STRAIGHT TO THE GIST FOR TODAY.

Hmmm, I cannot shout again I have a cracked voice already, because this a very serious matter!
Yes o, you remember I have been writing about my relocation to a strange environment and how things go over there for some time now on my blog, so I meet this new friend there and because I am a very playful person, it was not difficult at all for us to connect.
He use to come to call me in the morning so we could go to work together but that day I realized he didn't come to call me as usual and he was very moody all through the day, he is someone who is usually very friendly but the unusual change in character for that day was not pleasant at all, I tried to ask him what the problem was and he kept on saying he was fine.

I know I can be a real pest if I want you to tell me what is on your mind, so I kept on disturbing him until he finally opened up to me and you know I will tell you the story.
He was in a relationship with a lady whom he broke up with some months back because they had issues and so on, the lady said she was done with him and she wanted to move on, so he simply just allowed her to walk away. He got into a relationship with another young lady and they were doing fine.
It was after a month that the Lady's Aunt called to inform him that the lady was pregnant for him and she tried to get rid of the unborn child.
The abortion process went through but there was a minor complication which required surgery and he had to look for a way to send money to them, he was angry at first at the Lady's decision to get rid of his child without informing him but he decided to keep it cool until she has fully recovered.
His bank started giving issues so he could not do any transfer at that point, he had to contact a close friend to help him transfer the money and he promised to refund it later.

He did not tell the new girl about it, because he felt as a man he should be able to handle things and not involve the innocent lady into the issue, but just last week, the lady called him and she told him exactly what he had told his friend.
The young lady said annoying words to him, she said she has heard so many things about him and she knows that he is a very terrible person, she also said that she knows everything about his past which he thinks he has kept as a secret with his friend.

He was very disappointed and the first thing he did was to block this friend from everything he could use to connect with him.
Now, he has not spoken to the girl for some time now and he has told me that he is done with any relationship, he just wants to be on his own and face his life. But, of course he has a mother who is really disturbing him for grandchildren.

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MODERATOR'S REMARK.

Alright oo, so this is another amazing episode and I definitely do not even know what to say to him, right now, I guess he is stuck in the middle of situations and he is even trying to take love out of his life totally which I don't believe is a good thing.

APPRECIATION.

I have no idea on where to begin and where to end, even if I try to mention names the list will definitely be an endless one, I say a big thank you to everyone for not leaving me to handle this alone, your love means so much to me.
I am really sorry I have not being able to reciprocate the love by visiting your blogs, the issue is with the terrible network in my new location which makes things very slow for me.
I am grateful for your patience and your heart of understanding, your willingness to love and support this little girl is really mind blowing. Thank you so much.

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SHOUT-OUTS.

@olamisexy: My shout-out goes to all Muslims in the entire world in this month of Ramadan.
To @bat-junior, @gbenga, @steve1122, @henry-9ja and the rest who I might not remember to mention, more grace to your elbow. The sky is the starting point for you guys.

@adoore-eu: Shout out to platforms, thank you @rishi556, @yandot, @pangoli, @akintunde, @euronation, @airclinic, @stach, @cheryldavis and all friends consistently supporting my kitchen, my God support you too.

@mosunomotunde: I am sending a loud shout out to @ejemai. Your love and support has been so wonderful. Keep soaring Sir.
To @fisteganos, your friendship has been such a beautiful adventure, thanks for being so special.
To @ogochukwu, you are incredibly mature, insightful and intelligent for one so young, I value your friendship.

MESSAGES.

@olamisexy: My message to all Muslims is that they should abstain from all kind of evil that might reduce their reward from Allah subhanna wataallah.
To all my friends and well-wishers, my prayer for you all is that you would reap whatsoever you sow (It is not a curse).

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Hey dear, @adoore-eu. God bless you too

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He should go and talk to her and if she fails to believe him still. He should just stay that way for sometimes to rebrand himself. And the mum demanding for grandchildren should also wait.

How sure is she that her son is ready to handle a family.

Alright deary, I appreciate this. Thank you so much for coming around.❤

I feel we should let our new friends know we are in a relationship so that he or she doesn't begin to form anger when they find out. It is best not to call any relationship serious until you are married because even after marriage, relationships can break. We must be careful!

To the issue at hand

That young man should not allow his mother push him into wahala ooo because marriage is not a joke. Moreso mothers who push their children into marriage also dictate for their children because they believe the children ain't matured.
The young man should not have sent money for any surgery because no be him send the lady for abortion.
As for his so called best friend leaking his secret to his new girlfriend, I feel he should cut off from such a friend and his new girlfriend.
My candid advice to him is to begin anew and never entrust anyone with his secrets.
That young lady making noise, she no get past?
See kettle wey dey call pot black.
Brother, sofri calm down first. You will find true love again but please, do not use your bad experience to hurt the person you will meet later.

Yeah, mama... Thank you very much for always being there. 💗

While she may not give details about her life to a new friend, but as time goes on, she should not forget to tell.

For the second case, the guy shouldnt have sent any money. He didnt ask the girl to abort. She didnt deem it fit to call the guy before doing it,why tell him when complications came?

Great work, ma

Yes MA. Thanks a lot, I heart you so much. ❤

Probably at first I would appreciate the guy for his maturity that he takes to handle that issue in first place, because am sure if the lady is aware that the guy sent money for such treatment in the first instance, that might also break the relationship because the lady would think the guy actually tell the lady to abort the pregnancy and the guy might ask her to do so, if it happens to her.

But for the friend who turn to the news caster who delivered unsent news to various quarters. I have said this many time never trust any friends, just put your trust in God, limit whatever secret you want to tell them also. That is how human being are and don't be surprised.

Am imploring you to find the possible way and best time to sit the lady down, probably you know what can make the lady be happy because you have known her a while, I think from that angle you will be able to get her listen to whatever you want her to listening to and hopefully she would listen to your explanation. And don't be hard on her just take it easy with her because she would be imagining like she is the one the stuff happened to.

@oluwatobiloba, keep doing wonderful things for people, may God help you through in all your endeavors in life too.

Wow....
Thanks brother and Amen to your prayers. ❤

Well done @oluwatobiloba for your consistency and dedication to this show. As for Miss Anonymous, I can only chuckle here...it seems she already knows the right thing to do but wants to do the opposite and is just looking for someone to corroborate her point of veiw...lol.

As for your angry friend, tell him he is right about his friend. The guy is obviously a snake in the monkey's shadow! He obviously poisoned his girl against him on purpose. Her only mistake was the fact that she trusted the friend as well and so believed every horrible thing he must have told her. I would advice that he tries to explain himself to her properly and give them another chance if the lady is still willing to try. It is truly not easy to hear about an abortion like that especially if it was painted to her as a deliberate action. I won't be surprised to hear that the sneaky friend is interested in his girl!

I know he must be pretty upset that she didn't trust him enough to ask him before accusing him but it was probably because their relationship was rather young and trust was still being built.

yeah...
I am really excited you came around. Thank you so much mama💗

Relationships should be built on trust. The while abortion thing is in the past an there is nothing anybody can do about it. I advice Mr anonymous talks to his present girlfriend about this issue. He should let her know that he made the decision to keep the whole issue from her just to protect her from issues from his past.

Of she loves him and trust him enough to continue the relationship, then it's fine.

Alright brother, I was almost scared I won't see you on but I am glad you finally came around.
Thanks for the constant support. ❤

The pleasure is mine... Have a wonderful week

Wao! Its the tenth episode already. Well done @oluwatobiloba, thanks hun😍.

Having a male friend is cool, if he doesnt ask about my relationship, i dont see a reason why i should tell him.

The lady that left our brother doesnt deserve him jare, he should forget about her and move on, there are plenty single ladies out there, he will find someone that worth his love and attention. In case the lady that aborted is still cool, they can still have something together.

I remain @mzajoke

And you never cease to amaze me😱🤦
Thanks a lot sweety for the consistency. 💗

Well done @oluwatobiloba

Relationship Question

Talking about relationship to our friend or crush shouldn't be a problem but the problem is carrying such relationship on the head as if the relationship has already landed into marriage. Life is not straight, the suppose relationship might not lead into your desire plan while you might have chase the better option away because of your current relationship status.

Gist

I think the guy should just follow his mind. He needs to settle some emotional thought with himself before he start thinking of either going or not going into a relationship. He shouldnt because of someone else happiness run into trouble. More so, he should also be careful of those friends he call friend.

Lol @carrying the relationship on your head. Okay oo thanks a lot bro.

Hummm @oluwatobiloba, welldone for another interesting package.......

Question of the day:::::::::: The girl should let the guy know she's into a relationship nothing to hide..... So has to save the guy the stress of been heart broken later.

To the lover guy, please tell him to be patient...... He should take his time off and don't allow his mum to push him too much......

Expecting another beautiful package nextweek

I'll try not to dissapoint you
Thanks a lot for the support. ❤