Hi, wonderful people, I welcome you to my blog and I must confess that I am so excited and a bit nervous as well. I am nervous because today I will be presenting the first episode of a programme that is really dear to my heart.
This is an idea that I have cooked up for some time now and I am so glad that finally, I have been able to share my dream with friends who have pushed me to begin the process of achievement.
So today will be the first of it's kind for this programme, it will be exposed to changes and corrections of all sort as long as it will make the programme better and bigger and it will be greatly appreciated if that is done privately.
What We Are About.
One thing that I remain passionate about is to preach love in a world or community filled with greed, selfishness and hatred, and to as well bring smiles back to the faces of broken-hearted individuals.
The world today is indeed filled with all manner of wickedness and all these problems are gotten from relationships.
A great man once said that if relationship problems could be dealt with correctly, then we will have a better and safe place to live in.
How We Are Going To Function.
So, on this note we are going to open this amazing platform for people to ask questions about relationships and other life issues in general, and we will have awesome response from different people on the platform.
The room is opened for anyone to ask questions. In order to send in your questions, you will have to message me privately before Saturday which is the day selected for the programme and anyone is allowed to provide a solution to the problem through the comment section.
I have been opportune to interact with so many people on this platform, and I have been able to come to the conclusion that almost everyone if not everyone here is smart and intelligent.
People should know that they can decide to disclose their identity through the messages sent and they may also decide to keep their identity hidden.
Now, The Story Of The First Episode.
This story was sent by a friend who did not mind his identity being disclosed, so I will be sharing the story in his own words.
My name is Ezekiel, I am a young man of 33years and I have decided to share my story here because @oluwatobiloba said I will find amazing and smart individuals here who will be able to provide answers to my questions, although I am not a steemian because I have a busy schedule at work, she promised to give me a feedback on whatsoever response is provided here, so please I am counting on you.
I have been in a relationship for ten years now, I meet this pretty lady during my first year in the university and I fell in love with her immediately, we started off as friends until I realized she was someone I could not do without.
I cherished every moment I spent with her and even if I did not have enough money to take care of her as I was still a student, I tried all I could to show her love with the little that I had.
Her education stopped at the secondary school level because her struggling mother could not afford to send her to the university and I promised that once I became financially okay, I will send her to school.
I finished my first degree and immediately went on with my second degree, I am working now and with the little that I earn after working for long hours, I decided that she should go back to school since that was what she had always wanted.
She wrote different examinations into various institutions for two years before she was finally chosen by a federal institution which I will not disclose for personal reasons.
She is in her second year in the university now and her attitude towards me changed drastically, I have been the one paying her fees and providing every other thing she needs in school.
My plan was to propose last week when I received the most heartbreaking news of my life, she sent me a text to tell me that she was no longer interested in the relationship.
I thought I was not seeing correctly, and I decided to call her and hear her out.
It was a young man who responded to the call and he asked me for the reason why I was disturbing his lover, you must be making a mistake I said, this is my woman whom I have dated for 10 good years of my life.
And she just told you she was no longer interested, the voice at the other end said confidently.
I was still surprised, so I pleaded to speak with my lover and she was given the phone.
What is going on my love? I asked with a shaky voice, you just heard it for yourself, what else do you want me to say? I am tired of loving you and I have moved on, she said as she hanged up.
I have been down and moody for days now, I am still very confused, she is the only woman I have known and loved all through my life, I have spent all the money I have on her educational pursuit and now after ten years, she is telling me it is over and she is with another man already.
Please help me, what do you think I should do, your advice will be greatly appreciated.
So, steemians we have heard it from Mr Ezekiel, and I am sure he will be very happy to find the solution to his problem through your comments.
Appreciation.
My special appreciation goes to everyone for coming around and to everyone who has made this dream a reality in one way or the other, I say a very big thank you.
Special gratitude goes out to, @gbenga, @illuminatus, @samstickz, @mimy, @ehiboss, @fisteganos, @jeaniepearl and every other person I might not be able to mention. I love you so much.
There will be room for shoutouts and bottled messages by next week, so you can message me privately and send in your shoutouts and messages before next week saturday.
You can contact me on steemitchat @oluwatobiloba or [email protected].
Thank you for coming around.
..............It's your Nigerian Lady @Oluwatobiloba.
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lol this is very common for ladies in school, am only surprised he did not see it coming well my advice is simple, he should just be patient those kinds of relationship do not last. She would experience what I call high school heartbreak multiple times and hardship, then she will come back to you begging.
I just hope by then God would have blessed you extremly.
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Amen bro, thanks a lot for coming around I really appreciate it.
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Glad to see this come to life
I am no much experienced in relationship matters so i will just learn from others.
Kudos dear
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Thanks a lot for the sweet words and encouragement, I really appreciate it.
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the situation isn't unique to Mr Ezekiel. It happens virtually everywhere. I don't see why relationships should last as long as this one did. When relationships take too long without anything to substantiate it, the only thing that can be expected is a breakup. Its the same reason why I advise people to not wake up love when its not time.
@ezravandi
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hmmm, thank you I will get this across.
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Nice! Nice! I love this. Glad you started it.
Since bro Ezekiel will receive this message I wouldn't want to start with this but I don't have any other thing to start with. So, let me just start with it.
Bro, what took you so long? 10 years. You should have taken her to the alter.
I know you want to do the right thing first — help her get into school and all that — but the timing was too long.
Enough of the blame games.
Loving someone or giving your everything to someone is not an assurance that they will do the same to you. You can love someone with your whole and not be loved a bit in return. Love is one ponzi scheme. You can invest everything you have and then you won't have return on investment at the end of the day.
I know bro Ezekiel will be like, "this dude doesn't understand how I'm feeling." That's true but you just have to move on.
She might love you before but because of the timing, she might have lost interest. I now you claim you love her. How ladies think is different from how men think. They are more driven by emotions. You need to constantly tell, show and remind her that you love her. Maybe she felt she's not loved because you didn't propose on time. I know you are still paying the bills and making sure she's okay. But to her, it may look like eye service done out of compulsion because you've started already.
You should talk to her one more time. This time, man-to-woman. Let her tell you the reason why she decided to leave and call the relationship over. Be ready to take whatever comes out.
Life goes on. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
What if she died after the 10 years (God forbid). But you can't do anything about it?
Wish you the best...
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Thanks @mr-aaron, he will get this.
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You're welcome. I'm glad I could contribute
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My advice for Mr Ezekiel is to make sure he sees the lady in question, if she can say it to his face that there relationship has ended, he should just move on. Life goes on, he doesn't need to sulk over this. Ten years of broken relationship is better than a day of marriage. God knows the best. I was in your shoe and discovered time is the best healer. I pray it heals you fast. Cheers!
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Amen, thank you so much @mettyabo.
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Really? Mr. if i really understand this story of yours ehhh, Mhen Its out of this earth.
I have only felt hurt by a relationship once and it was just a three-month thing so I wonder what it would feel like after the whole years of investing my time and resource in a Lady.
Well what more can I say than it is really outrageous and I don't even have the right words to express how I would feel about it.
My Advice
Since I don't have an imagination as to how I would feel, I advice you get something to do that would take your mind off her for a while, I'm giving this advice because it worked for me then when I had an issue related to yours, so just look for something you love so much and get involved in it more.
Also pull your friends and family closer as they have a special way of taking away grief most times, I'm hoping this might work though considering the level of damage you have gone through.
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Thank you so much @official-hord. I am pretty sure it will help.
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What what a dilemma, I will be confused myself, but I will advise him to sew the lady in question ask her if she really wants out, and then move on with life and he should stay away from thinking too much, might hurt him
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the lady already confirmed that she wanted out. Thanks a lot @josediccus.
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I'm really sorry for him, you're doing amazing well with your blog I enjoyed this
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Thanks a lot, I appreciate this.
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very well said buddy. its a good relationship. i like it. best wishes for you guys.
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There is nothing good about this relationship because it is a sad experience. Thank you for the best wishes.
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right but relationship is aleays good to each other.
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Ahaaa 10 whole years. Such long relationships hardly end up in marriage. Only few do. She probably thinks you are just wasting her time and will move on, not minding the money you have spent. One confusionist has promised her marriage and puuummmm, she flew into his hands.
It's time for you to come out of that relationship, have a rethink and move on if need be.
Do you know that some married people misbehave in the university? According to my husband, it takes God and personal discipline to behave well.
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He should b lucky he only paid her fee till year two ,what if she had finish and told you this...move on such is life.
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Thanks Sis....
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Singing.....dnt mention you welcome
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My advice to Mr Ezekiel is to move on and forget about what has happened, my philosophy of life always keep me reminded that life is up, side, down, when it's up, enjoy it, when it's side manage it and when it's down, my friend find your way and move on. its just a matter of period. Everything will soon be well.
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Thanks a lot for this, Me Ezekiel will get it.
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I like your 1st episod. this is very well. keep it up dear.
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Thank you.
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Hi everyone,
Great idea with your blog oluwatobiloba, look forward to reading future posts. As for Ezekiel, it is a sad tale that is more popular than you realize, at the moment you think it's only happening to you but it happens probably to everyone at least once. The lady has made her mind up for sure, and as much pain as you're going through, you have to find a way to move on.
There is no easy cure for the short or the long term, the pain stays with you for a while but as time goes on it's easier to deal with. There is some good advice in the comments, you need to find something to take your mind of it as much as possible until the pain subsides.
Take a break, a vacation with friends or family, put some time into a favorite hobby, or maybe go back to school for a while to learn something completely different. It will be difficult at first but try not to dwell on it too often as this can lead to depression and all sorts of health issues.
Talk with your family and close friends because talking can relieve some of the pain and stress, eventually you will find the "right" lady, the one that loves you as much as you love her. It doesn't feel like that right now but you will find another, and I wish you lots of good fortune in your next relationship
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Thank you so much @libby-stories, Mr Ezekiel will definitely get this.
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Your welcome, I wish both you and Mr Ezekiel lots of luck in your future endeavors
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thanks
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Great read. I'm sorry for my bro. I hope he finds the answeres he seeks. God bless.
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Thank you @adetorrent.
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Hmmmm. Wonderful initiative @oluwatobiloba... I'll love to see as the event unfolds. Fingers crossed
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thanks a lot bro, I really appreciate.
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The situation is really an heartbroken situation for Mr Ezekiel but i don't think he can do anything. Some people will talk of fighting for love but i don't really believe in fighting for a love that wouldn't even stay in time of tribulation. Of course, he put her into tertiary institution with his money but that is not a guarantee of being a forever lover. They are only meant to be friends (my view).
My view
Mr Ezekiel should crave out happiness from his current state of sadness. He should face his life, career and future. Love might exist but not all love are in existence. Your path are only meant to meet and may it is just destined that design you as her helper. Remember there are 1001 ladies out there that are willing to spend the rest of their life with you.
Last Advice, when helping don't expect anything in return. Of course, you love her and she might also confess her love for you but don't base her guarantee of love on the fact that you are helping here. He should find happiness in whatsoever he his doing and with time he will be fine.
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Thanks a lot @fadiji09, he will get this.
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Great show darling!!!
This would help a lot of people get some answers to their relationship issues.
Mr Ezekiel deserves better. It's really painful but he should try to move on. He should try to get himself distracted from thinking too much about her.
The Nigerian community rocks!!! We'll keep thinking out of the box!!!
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Yes dear, thanks a lot for coming around.
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Hmmm....i think just as the lady said she has moved on, bro too should move on too. And you see every successful man has an ex who was not patient enough to see far. Then again he should just concentrate on his dreams because they are worth more than relationships. Lastly a wise man in speaking said "the best revenge in life is to be successful"
And to @oluwatobiloba.... I must confess this is a really good initiative right from insinuation to instigation. Using this platform to rediscover humanity is so great. Never relent and keep on.
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Thanks a lot, @sopecircle,this means a lot to me.
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This a mistake most of we young guy take chance nowadays which is not good to us am not saying what the young guy did is not good but at first if u really love the girl before sending him to school first of all know her mom and inform him about your relationship with his daughter if he have inform her mother she can report her to his mother thereby making him to fear and reconsider the guy back
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Actually, the guy has informed the Lady's mother and the mother tried talking to the Lady but she insisted that she has made up her mind already.
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I will advice u guy to stop paying the girl school fee and leave everything for God to judge the matter this will be a lesson to all guy to be careful of sending lady to school without marring him
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Okay Sir, thank you for coming around.
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