Not every person you wanna date is the one you love. So what’s the difference? Some are just hookup material that you encounter. They are hot af but jerk otherwise. You can’t commit to them and neither you want to. It’s simple you are attracted to them. What comes to your mind when you fall in something like that when you can’t control? Hookup!
That’s what Tinder was made for. Only in the name, it is an app to find love, in reality, it is mostly used to find instant hookups without any feelings but mutual understanding. And it’s completely fine as well as direct. You don’t have to pretend to fall in different stages of a relationship and all and can get laid in the simplest way you can.
Here is the difference between what hookups and real love mean:
(a.) From a Boy’s point of view:
Here are some guys who explained the real difference between them.
“A girl who is just a hookup doesn’t give a shit about you. She’s either more into herself than you or she is just in it for the sex. A girl who makes a perfect girlfriend is someone who cares about you, who does things for you just because she wants to make you happy.” —Graham, 24
Image source: Via“A girl who washes my underwear is a girlfriend, a girl who takes off my underwear is a hookup.” —Carl, 25
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I think that’s the perfect explanation.
“This is easy, a hookup is a girl I can’t stand for more than a few hours at a time. A girlfriend is a girl I can’t stand to be away from for more than one night.” —Charlie, 26
“My girlfriend is someone who makes me laugh, and can put a smile on my face even if I’m having the shittiest day. A hookup doesn’t have to make me laugh, or smile, she just makes me horny.” —Vince, 25
Image source: Via“The title says it all, your girlfriend is your friend…who you also have sex with, but you enjoy spending time with her. You don’t necessarily enjoy spending time with your hookup, you just enjoy having sex with them.” —Eddie, 25
Image source: Via“I hook up with the girl who I think would never date me. The one who looks so good you feel like she’s too good. The girl I date is more of my equal.” —Pat, 25
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(b.) From a girl’s point of view:
What girls think of guys as a boyfriend material or girlfriend material.
He’s horny, he wants to get laid, and she’s the best option available.
Image source: ViaHe’s an unknown in her social circle (he’s there on vacation, or she is, or they run in completely different circles), no one she knows will ever find out, and he’s basically a “freebie”
Image source: ViaShe wants revenge on a current or former lover, and this new guy looks to be the means to that end.
Image source: ViaAll of her girlfriends are hooking up that night, and she doesn’t want to be left out – and the guy in question just happens to be hanging around and available.
Image source: ViaShe’s always wanted to try a guy like him (white / black / Asian / Hispanic / muscular / wealthy / punk / rocker / bad boy / international from XYZ country)
Image source: ViaShe’s feeling down in the dumps and in need of the boost in self-esteem that comes from getting laid
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This is the basic difference between the points of girls and guys on Hookups and love or, say, a serious relationship and commitment. I think Hookups are a pretty awesome thing as you don’t play with a person’s feelings just to get laid and that doesn’t create any expectations so it’s good for both the parties.