May the Force be with You

The purpose of this article is to share unique perspectives on relationships, one that centers on unseen forces which may be governing your relationships. A movie I watched the other night hit on this a bit. The movie is called The Law of Thermodynamics and may be watched on Netflix. Based on the name you may think it is some nerdy science documentary. Actually, it is a fictional movie which attempts to explain the dynamics of romantic relationships via the laws of motion and thermodynamics.

One aspect of this, especially pertaining to the laws of motion, talked about human interactions as analogous to astronomical bodies. For example, on person may revolve around another such as the earth revolves around the sun. It was speculated that humans, like astronomical bodies, exert a gravitation influence on surrounding bodies. But don’t fear; your coffee cup will not get stuck to your hand. The takeaway is that like astronomical bodies, human beings exert attractive forces on one another. These forces may resemble forces like gravitational force or electronic force. Gravitational force is pretty straight forward, mass attracts mass. Electronic force is slightly more involved because positive repels positive, but attracts negative. In the case of electronic force, opposites attract. Even though human interactions are likely more complicated than this, it provides a unique perspective on relationships.

Over the past few years, I have felt stuck in life. Certain things about my life have felt suffocating and trapping. Almost like some sort of prison has been cast around me. After some reflection, it seemed apparent I have been giving away much energy. Last night, while on a stroll, a sort of heavy feeling was apparent. Even though this feeling of heaviness was not new, I began to see it in a different light. I began to alter this heaviness. I wondered if it was possible to change the weight of this heaviness. After noticing this heaviness, I really started to think those attractive forces mentioned above. I asked myself the question, “Whose orbit have I been in?” This question really resonated with me. Instead of changing orbits, I have situated in one or two primary orbits of people in my life. Even though these orbits may not be the best or bit for me, circumstances and thought processes have validated those orbits.

Family relationships tend to provide instances of powerful forces, for example, the relationship between a son and his father. Personally, my paternal relationship has provided a major source of influence. Personal choices have often centered on this paternal relationship, for better or for worse. Destructive as well as constructive paths have been taken which centered on this relationship. Not only are paternal relationships powerful, but maternal relationships are likely equally as influential. Both of these relationships appear to greatly influence decisions people make. From the perspective of a male, a healthy maternal relationship may provide an adequate foundation for future romantic relationships.

Speaking of opposite sex relationships, it is likely not news to you that they often exert a power influence on our lives. Like many men, I have felt stuck in the orbit of a woman I’m “romantically” involved in. There are likely many factors which contribute to opposite sex relationships. Paying off “karmic debt” often seems to be a driving force for opposite sex relationships, even though this may also apply to heterosexual same sex relationships. This may be more likely with the opposite sex because there is an energetic balancing at work. The balance here is between masculine and feminine energy. For instance, an opposite sex relationship may signal towards a need for greater feminine energy towards an area in a man’s life.

One particular attractive force I’ve notice in my interactions deals with learning lessons. If there is a lesson to be learned, a person in your life may be a vehicle for that lesson. Their sole purpose may be to teach you that lesson, in some way or another. The intensity of the relationship may be dictated by the need to learn that lesson. A stronger need to learn a lesson promotes a stronger relationship. The interesting thing about this is it may not be a lesson you need to learn. For instance, you may only think you need to learn that lesson. It is also possible that the other person thinks you need to learn that lesson as well. Their own distortions of your reality based on their own projections may influence their perception of you. Even though they make not be aware of that distortion, circumstances in the relationship continuously surround it.

One more example of a driving force may be dealing with something you deem unsatisfactory about yourself. Perhaps your friend is an excellent conversationalist and you cannot hold a conversation to save your life. Depending on your perception of yourself, this lack of people skills may bother you. It is possible you interact with this person because you think that personality trait will transfer to you. However, what if this personality trait never transfers to you? In a way, it may be a form of punishment by continuing in the relationship, depending on its nature. The desirable nature of that quality may obscure the actual benefit of the relationship. Makes you think doesn’t it?

On a positive note, it may also be possible that people in your life are there to help you deal with difficult challenges, for instance to support you in difficult times. So before you get all bent out of shape about the possibilities, these factors may not apply to any of your relationships. They are just some thoughts I’ve had as a result of observations into my own relationships and others’.

Thanks for reading!