I want to be with you... But not ALL the time!

Hey, Steemians. I stumbled upon an interesting topic today. It has to do with three things that freaked most people out at least once in their lives ))

1. A love relationship 2. The idea of personal space 3. Being on one's own. 

I think most people value "time alone". Not loneliness, but some quiet quality time alone with oneself. Even the craziest extroverts need it sometimes, those precious moments of life one on one with the world. But here is the question - does time alone mean "without you"? 

I believe not. Whenever I thought that I needed "time alone" (without that particular person), it turned out that I was NOT in love. Because when you are truly in love with your partner, there is no need to go away from him to be alone somewhere else. That feeling of tete-a-tete with the world, of being yourself, being with yourself (and not bothered by anyone) will never be destroyed or broken by the presence of a loved one. 

This is a curious thing. You can be sitting next to someone you love and not say a word, and both of you are filled with harmony of being by yourself. It is some sort of a shared, unspoken feeling of a harmonious personal space - in each other's presence. Presence of a loved one doesn't destroy anyone's "by myself." Inexplicably, these things coexist. 

And when they don't? It depends. 

"I want to be with you forever," says one. "I want to be with you... but not all the time. Sometimes I want to be with you, and sometimes I want to be without you, and it's perfectly normal! Sometimes I feel good with you and I need you... and sometimes I need to be away from you to feel good. I need some personal space. I am with you fully, but I need some personal space. What's wrong with that? I need some air!" 

"I need some air." And here is my question: If I need space, if I cannot breathe or feel completely free with my loved one... How much harmony and closeness do we have in this relationship? 

Why not choose to be with the person who will never make you feel like you need to get away from them to "be on your own"? Why choose the one who creates in you the sensation that you can't be free next to them or that you cannot breathe... and need to go away once in a while - to what? To recover? 

The same questions arise when I think about separate friends. I don't understand going out with friends anymore. I mean going out with friends to have some time without your loved one. Like when you say "I need some alone time with my friends", and you go alone, and your partner goes alone with his friends. What does it even mean? Does it mean that people get so tired of each other that they need to "freshen up" in the company of others - alone? 

These are tricky questions and uneasy issues. I don't say that the only right way is to be "glued" to each other and never let go, or that other people shouldn't be allowed in one's life. That's not the point. My point to think about is... if you experience a regular need to "recover" from being next to your partner, then there might be some serious ISSUES going on in your relationship. It could be the "energy thing" even. Non-compatibility. And if it is so, both people should reexamine this thing called "being together”.