Abusing, Insulting your EX-needs to be stopped

The whole idea of bad mouthing your ex-relationships in front of everyone you know and meet is little immature. It doesn’t make you a bad person if done in the past but you need to understand why you do it or why is not healthy if you continue to do it even now.When our heart breaks when a relationship ends we are left with too many unexpressed emotions. We are left with scars and void to fill, we are left with bitter feelings and pent up anger and many times we try to vent it out by insulting them again and again in front of everyone we know of. No, I am not saying that venting out your anger or emotions is something you should not do, in fact it is the most important thing to be done when you feel hurt but do it in front of people who actually care for you, who really know you, to people you really know of, or care about because those are the ones who will guide you, will listen to you, will help you build yourself up again and rest will just hear it for the sake of hearing it.

You feel that abusing your EX can make you feel better? No, it does not trust me, been there done that. All it gives you is those few seconds of satisfaction, those few seconds of joy to prove yourself and others that what happened was good. My point if you need to prove it, do it for your own self and not others, you need to believe and trust that you are in a good place now and there was nothing left in that relationship to continue hence it ended. Insulting him/her doesn’t bring the sense of enlightenment. There was a time you were with that person and all you wanted was his well being, there was a time when you could not even bear to listen anything against him be it with family or friends. I have seen people doing it on social media, in their videos or in interviews but I cringe at the idea of it for me the relationship did hold some value at a point of time in my life and just because it over doesn’t mean I have to go on and on to bring that person down. Personal character assassination is not cool, using derogatory statements is not healthy, name calling isn’t cute, insulting and abusing isn’t positive, personal attack is nothing but going low. Ending a relationship is painful, is one of the most difficult things to experience and it will come with its own phases and emotions, feel it all, let it flow. It’s ok and completely normal. Let it all out in front of your friends and family but hold your utmost regard for your past relationship with grace and let it go, let it go slowly with grace because what you say and do says a lot about you.