...but it does feel as if most women try to hide themselves from the truth of what most men want.
When you ask a man what they bring to a relationship, most men give the correct answers around being a loyal man and supporting his wife and continually improving themselves. They might not be good at delivering, but at least they seem to pay attention to what women want. After all the man has to chase the woman in this reality.
Women don't have to chase after men in today's society (not that they can't, just the it's almost always the guy chasing the girl).
When you ask a woman what they bring to a relationship, they usually list off things they want, and think that most men will be impressed. They will list off things like "I'm self-sufficient and make good money and I'm loyal and I can take care of myself", but that's not what most men want or need.
Men, for the most part, don't care about your career as a woman. You don't have to have lots of money or even support me the man, most men don't care about that stuff.
Most men do place MORE importance on looks and weight than women do to men as well, yet many women don't list that in their list of what they bring to a relationship.
It's not even that men don't care, it's more like these variables are weighted much lower than the other way around. A woman doesn't want to get into a relationship with a broke guy, but a guy is more likely to date a woman who doesn't have much money for instance. In fact a woman that makes a lot of money can sometimes come across as aggressive or controlling which some men actually get turned off.
This reminds me of the platinum rule being better than the golden rule. The golden rule only says treat people how you want to be treated, but what if people don't want to be treated the way you want to be treated? What if they have different preferences?
The platinum rule addresses this by saying, "treat people how THEY would like to be treated" You have to think about the reality of what others want, not about what you think they want.
Instead of addressing what we think people want, we should really address what other people actually want. What's worse is when some men actually say what they want, some women will argue about it as if they can simply change their mind. That's not how attraction works though. You can't argue this kind of change.
It’s almost as if some people can’t admit that men and women have attraction differences at all.
Worse is when people try to make it sound like differences between men and women are bad when they don’t have to be bad whatsoever.