Truth About Sex After Having a Baby

Are young parents remain desired lovers for each other? Is it true that in sex after giving birth is still remarkable? Frank conversation on this matter dot all the "i"s.

The appearance of the desired newborn "three kilos" will make adjustments not only in the mode of mom and dad but in their intimate life. One young dad a month after the birth of the first child wrote in his profile on social networks: "Sleep is cooler than sex." But seriously, how much and how long will the sexual "being" change after giving birth?

When do you want sex?

If during labor you swore to yourself, and, possibly, to your husband, who is present at the birth, that you will not admit him to yourself, it is very likely that soon after discharge you will change your mind. Desire returns. But the truth is - to all differently. It happens that spouses have sex happens within 10-14 days after giving birth, and it is the newly-minted mom who initiates sex. It happens in a different way, when, following all medical indications and recommendations, it is already possible to indulge in passions, but the woman has no desire or has accumulated fears and fatigue.
First, find out when it is possible to renew intimate relationships according to medical prescriptions.

But, if the restrictions of the doctors have already been lifted, and the routine has already managed to leave an imprint on the relationship, it's time to take advantage of the advice.

Interestingly, not all young mothers have a craving for sex, some have a worsening desire. Still, for most of the problem is relevant. The origins are clear: the time that the woman used to take up the household chores, the husband and herself, is now entirely devoted to the child. Moreover, all the children are different, many at night scream and do not allow sleep and rest. So a woman sometimes thinks only about the pillow, what kind of sex is there?

Cinderella
A man who is not involved in the new mode of life and is at work all day is not aware of the number of new tasks that have befallen his wife. And they may think that there is nothing terrible in them: they say, all women do it, and nothing. Meanwhile, the wife is very physically exhausted, and without assistants cannot cope. Often a woman takes on all the affairs to show and prove what a good mother she is. It is not right. Such a tactic is more justified: some of the cases must be delegated - cleaning, cooking, walks with the child ... Those who drag everything on themselves often have more problems. She doesn't have time to cook dinner, she doesn't have time for a bath, sleep and of course for taking care of herself, being attractive and want sex. But her man already almost forgot her warmth, touch of hands and a loved body. He loves all her parts and wants them back to him.

Sleeping Beauty
It is necessary to make a rule: the child sleeps and the woman sleeps. The baby’s sleep depends on at least a dozen factors: colic, teeth, weather, noisy neighbors ... If mom doesn’t sleep with the baby at the same time, it will result in chronic lack of sleep. And what's the sex here when you are awake for days, weeks and months? The best time for sex - when the child fell asleep. Of course, you need to understand that he can sleep a short time, and destroy the idyll. The most common mistake of women is to settle for sex on the principle “we will do everything quickly now and go to sleep.” This is an approach to business, one might say, without a soul. Meanwhile, men feel it, they have negative emotions, a woman from an object of lust turns at least into an offender.

Queen of planning
Returning to the world of amorous entertainment after giving birth, the best way out is to plan sex in advance. Yes, perhaps it doesn’t sound very romantic, all that is missing is the sign “And now there will be sex!” In the hands of the starving spouse. But for a woman immersed in such a maelstrom of affairs, emotions, and events, it is important to understand what is waiting for her and when. So she will be able to prepare physically and mentally, put the baby to bed early, put herself in order, prepare beautiful clothes and lingerie. Your breasts now are so tempting, that you definitely need a new beautiful lingerie set. Of course, this is not a guarantee of the appearance of stability in the intimate sphere, but at least an attempt to organize it.
By the way, it is important that the young mother had the opportunity to take care of herself. A sensitive spouse understands that it is important for the wife to agree with her husband at least once a week to “see the light” without a child, otherwise self-esteem falls and the world closes on the child and the four walls of even the coziest nest in the world. This situation can lead to devastating consequences, even disgust for the husband and all men in general.

Belle
A huge number of divorces occur precisely after the birth of a child. Many men are now quite infantile, so they perceive changes in their attitude towards themselves very close to their heart. Not all of them speak openly about their feelings, but they are. It is clear that if there is no sex in the family, the man will begin to look for adventure on the side, he has already held abstinence during pregnancy. But the behavior of the husband leads to a lack of sex. The desire for sex comes when there is a proper attitude. Despite the fact that both the figure of the wife and the character (she becomes more nervous, capricious) sometimes do not change for the better, you should not throw jokes at her expense. Remember: only care, attention and support will cause a reciprocal feeling.