Cheating is for Cowards

The usual narrative with infidelity involves the guy stepping out on the woman but my case was just the opposite. I was in college and "in love" so I thought lol. I really had it for this one girl but it turned out that I was more "in it" than she was. We hung out often and I feel as if we had fun, though I always felt she could have never embraced my quirkiness. Over the summer, I worked a steady gig and anticipated her coming back. When she returned, things were dramatically different.

I went to meet her once she returned to campus and when I went for the usual kiss she SMOOTHLY turned her face to give her cheek instead. Uh...okay. So I noticed this but decided to let it go. It didn't take long for things to get real.

She told me that she needed space. Yep, girls use that one too. I was like whaaaaat is going on? What was crazy was that my apartment would not be available for at least another week and so I was to stay with her. I thought I was going to be having passionate kisses and spending time but it turned out to be nothing like I imagined. She would not let me lie next to her, I had to sleep on the floor. I would be nice to her and she would still be an ass to me.

Things came to a head when I found out that she had been cheating on me that summer while at home from college. When I confronted her, she laughed and flashed an evil grin. I felt so stupid.

I could have at least respected her had she been direct BUT to me cheating is selfish. One person removes themselves from a relationship while the other person still has all of their cards on the table. It's unfair and it's dirty when you think about it. If you do not want to be with someone, why not just say so? Would that not be the more efficient and less messy way of breaking things off with someone?

People run scared when it comes to relationships. Sure, it's easier to just pull the wool out from someone without notice BUT if you can do that...did you EVER care about them? If respect is there, surely one can have a conversation on the matter but this doesn't often happen. Check out the late night show CHEATERS if you want to catch a view of what I have mentioned.

If you do not want to be with someone...then don't be with them. Being cheated on is a very embarrassing thing to have happened to you, especially if everyone is privy to the going-ons except yourself. You have to keep a lie going in order to not be found out - essentially living a double life. You also have to keep your "main" mate from meeting the one on the side. Sounds like hard work. I would rather put all of this energy into building something honest and sound with the right person, which I did.

I think cheating is for cowards and it is a mean act. You shouldn't play with anyone's emotions, as people will snap these days and seek revenge. Why worry about someone trying to kill you when you can play things straight. The truth may hurt them but not as bad as your dishonesty and cheating will. And that's the truth.