I am 19 years old. Years in 15 very worried about the appearance. I'm not fat, I just do not have a figure and facial features some ugly. But I survived it all.
No, I did not accept myself at all, as idealists usually advise, but I just realized that I have my own. It's clear that fate ordered me to be alone all my life, but I'm smart and will achieve great success in my career. This helped me to relax psychologically, and I completely scored on my appearance: I dressed the first one that would fall under my arm, I tied my hair for a few seconds and forward, to study and learn.
But recently I had a new problem with appearance and I can not solve it in the same way. I look like a child. Nobody gives me more than 14 years. You know, with age people become more tactful, no one will tell you in person that you, for example, are unsympathetic. This allows you not to think about your "not pretty" at all.
But with age, everything is different. Sellers, teachers, classmates, everyone is surprised when I say how old I am and yet they do not even understand how much it offends me. No one takes me seriously because of this. I'm already paranoid, I'm afraid to post my photos to people I'm dating on the Internet, because they always write back: "How old are you in the photo? 13? No, send me a picture of how you look now. "
After that, I feel so terrible that I have to interrupt communication with these people. I will not have any career (the last meaning I could ever find in this life). I'm already very shy, but as I think about my "childishness", so generally the person in the throat gets stuck. I will not be able to pass any interview for a normal job.
I think you overthink the whole situation... Yea you do look young but who cares? You shouldnt care too much what others think... If they dont take you seriously than they're asses! Your time is more worth than wasting it for them...
And about the people you're dating on the internet... If you look at the situation objectively like if you get a picture of someone looking too young than they are its a normal reaction to ask if thats an old picture, isn't it?. I dont think they tryin to be mean... I would ask too... And like in 10 -15 years or so all of them will look old but u'll still look young and they're gonna be jealous!
At least thats what I think...
I hope my thoughts helped you in some way.
Have a nice day!
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