HANDLING THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE.

I cannot say, and I will not say
That he is dead. He is just away.
With a cheery smile, and a wave of the hand,
He has wandered into an unknown land
And left us dreaming how very fair
It needs must be, since he lingers there.
And you—oh you, who the wildest yearn
For an old-time step, and the glad return,
Think of him faring on, as dear
In the love of There as the love of Here.
Think of him still as the same. I say,
He is not dead—he is just away.
By-
James Whitcomb Riley

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How can one really handle the death of a loved one? Especially the death of a son. I just left the house of a family friend whose family just lost one of their sons. I was watching critically as people were trooping in and out of the room. My heart especially went out to the mother of the boy. She just sat, she wasn't talking neither was she moving, according to her other children, she had been given sedatives to make her sleep, but they did not work, even after calling a doctor to check her, the doctor still could not make her sleep.

Then she finally spoke when her last son came inside the room. And her words were "Your brother promised to dress me up and take me to the cinema, ask him if he changed his mind already" and all the son could do was cry and hold her close, only then was she able to open up a little and cry. Apparently the son that died was her best friend, they were gist buddies especially since he was working from home (his mom specially begged him to stay home since he was working in the same town).

I can only imagine the pain as a friend and sister, and that pain is hard, I still don't know how to deal with it, but it would definitely be easier for me than his mother. She was able to finally sleep, and we were all relieved that she slept but alas! She woke up about 10 minutes later screaming the name of her son. I cannot even start imagining the pain she must be going through.

His father confessed when one of his friends asked him how he was doing, he said "that pain is too deep, I really loved him, I don't think I want to touch that pain yet, for now I would just be strong for my wife"

Sometimes I feel life is not fair at all, the young man that died is a top barrister in the state, he was preparing to get married next year and for his age, I think he has done pretty well for himself, his character is very likable, I had experienced his love and care and most of the people there too had experienced it too and they testified to how lovely and charming he was. I did not get to see his fiancee, I don't know and I don't want to imagine how she would feel. Of course if they were preparing to get married, she must have loved him deeply enough to agree to be with him for the rest of her life.

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I would definitely miss him. I really feel for his parents, fiancee and siblings. I just pray they get enough strength to get through this.
I can only hope and pray that I would never have to deal with this kind of pain.