Rewiring Your Brain for Fun and Profit - The Fallacy of Self-Help

fishborne (57) · 8 years ago

I read only half of it so pardon me if I'm missing a lot from it.

You used so many times "science" that I thought you're a science-evangelist. Maybe you are not. I agree with "science will free ourselves", I like science but you know what ?
A Buddhist munk will say: " this is a ming game. Release yourself from the smartness bias. Life is. There is no good and wrong."
A scientist finds a vaccine and tells me: "there is no other great thing to do in life than to serve others."
A alpinist, in the top of a mountain will tell me: "life without nature is nothing. If you can't see the nature from uphere you can't understand nature."

...... and so on.... everybody things about himself that is the shit. He knows the meaning of life, he understood life. It"s damn common sense.
What's my point of view telated to all these ?
As long as they don't ruin my life I share the same planet with tthem. And I'll use all their experience fot understanding my life better.
I'll not live their life but I'll use the good parts from them.

I don't believe in positive psychology. I hate NLP and other scams but I don't close my mind. I want to steal wisdom from anybody. You know why ? Because it doesn't matter if you're a fool or not. It matters that this crap worked for you and I'll use this.
After years and years I'l understand the real meaning of this crap.
By the way, the meaning of life is 42. Well known fact.

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

Who need NLP when you have a good towel?!

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

I only read the last sentence of your comment, since it has a Douglas Adams reference :)

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pulpably (45) · 8 years ago

Careful now. It's one thing to says some people are kooky, another to say they're crooked. A "because science" attitude isn't enough to turn not understanding into a refutation. When you say "THINK! Don't just believe," consider that it is actually more difficult to persuade someone to adopt your view, when you make assertions about what their behavior should be, in all caps. Mocking those with whom you disagree will rarely convert them to your side. That said, I did appreciate that you provided a link to a study. This post could have been made into a real argument had you done more of that type of research.

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jamesbrown (62) · 8 years ago (edited)

I think you're a bit uninformed about how the law of attraction works.

It's actually quite simple. What one obsesses over in their mind, they seek mostly that out in their daily life. Your actions are attracted towards fulfilling your inner-most desires, but there's usually a fear in the way of getting what you want and this creates inner conflict and experiencing seemingly the same unwanted circumstances on loop.

We feel like we can't be "real" with people or even with ourselves because we don't feel free to make the picture we hold in our minds match what we see in "reality." But the only real thing in the way of being free to make it happen are the fears and inhibitions that make us hesitate and stutter every time we try to take a step towards realizing our inner-most goals (the image we hold inside our heads of the "ideal self" and "ideal life").

As long as we keep taking a step forward and bouncing back from those fears, we keep attracting those same, or similar, situations. We can't help but do this because the core of our being (the unconscious mind) finds its only motivation in fulfilling its desire; thus, it keeps bringing us back to the same, or similar, situation so that we may overcome the fear and take the next step towards realizing the desire(s). It's only the superficial persona, the personality that was conditioned through up-bringing, what we all know as the "conscious self," that's creating the resistance to push through and free up the mental energy that's bound by the fears.

Once some of those mental barriers come down, we notice that the quality of our experiences positively change. We aren't as internally conflicted about what we should or shouldn't do (less self-judgmental), we're less frightened by the world in general, and we no longer seem to fall into the same, tired, pattern of actions that lead to the same unwanted circumstances.

The only difference is that the fear is no longer there to stop you from doing what every part of you, besides the "learned" part, knows what's best for you. The attraction to your inner-most desires hasn't changed one bit. You can't help but be attracted to that mental picture. Once all the fears are overcome, all your actions will be entirely purposeful, as the persona will no longer push back out of feeling frightened by change (leaving the "comfort zone") or feeling unworthy due to the self-judgment created by being unsure about which "side" (the persona or the unconscious mind) to trust.

Just in case this wasn't clear, the "attraction" part of LOA isn't some metaphysical phenomena. Rather, it's the unrelenting drive, or attraction, that your unconscious mind has towards fulfilling its desires. It can only achieve them insofar as you, the acquired personalty, allows it by "getting out of its way." So long as you resist you'll feel internally conflicted and generally unsatisfied with your life.

The more that you give in, the less of a "self" that you experience. Your actions may seem to come more spontaneously, as if they control you instead of you it, yet they seem to fit perfectly with the circumstances of the environment, respective to what you want out of it. You still may not be consciously aware of it so much, but your every movement will be full of purpose, aligned with your inner-most desires, and it will scream to the world and make itself known to even the least conscious of beings, through the sheer intensity of focus and presence that this freedom presents our amazingly powerful consciousness with, that you will have it your way...and you generally do when you're so fearless, confident and focused.

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smarit (32) · 8 years ago

I find it interesting that you put the law of attraction down, and then later in your blog you tell us how you became successful and what you did, which in basic terms is what the "Secret" is also. Yes, some gurus use it to make money and it has been taken out of proportion, and as with anything else in life, when people "try" something and it doesn't work, that never stand up and take the blame, there is always an excuse as to why it didn't work for them. I agree with a lot of what you say but there are still questions and outcomes that science can never answer!

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veerra (51) · 8 years ago

I agree with the above comment and your text also. Selling law of attraction is bullshit and having confidence to try out your ideas should be something we get from our culture and surrounding people, not some dodgy self help guru. But since at least western culture what I personally represent isn't the most supportive on personal confidence, rather fear and consuming, so positive thinking patterns and ridiculously believing in your self might be what you need in order to avoid being a clog in someone else's machine.

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steemed (64) · 8 years ago (edited)

western culture ... isn't the most supportive on personal confidence, rather fear and consuming

Quoting the part that I thought was worthy of an upvote.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

Veerra, is that you, the crazy Finnish wench we all love? :D

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veerra (51) · 8 years ago

who else :P

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meteor78 (45) · 8 years ago

👍nice post, see the newest ur post @menta

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faraz (47) · 8 years ago

Amazing post @menta

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

You're right. There are still questions that science can't explain... for now.
We know so little of how the brain works, that we'll be discovering a lot of new things the coming years. I'm sure science will have an answer for everything if we give it enough time

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pc101 (39) · 8 years ago

As I understand it science cannot answer everything due to the scientific method. The scientific method seeks only to disprove a hypothesis. It cannot prove anything. As we disprove various hypothesis we leave various other explanations on the table but do not prove them. What is left standing is not necessarily true, it just hasn't proved to be false.

Not sure if I made this clear.

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kendewitt (56) · 8 years ago

Plus there's the fact that science is based on objective measurements, while things like our subjective experience of the world aren't measureable. It's also based on repeatability. Imagine a unique cosmic phenomenon that only happens once every 100,000 years. It's gonna be pretty hard to observe it.

Believing that science can explain everything is a religious belief. The only thing we know for sure is that science explains many things.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

This is one of the best comments I read in a long while.
I agree completely with what you said. Science only disproves other possibilities. The power of elimination.

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churdtzu (68) · 8 years ago

What possible evidence could you have that science will have an answer for everything? Is science so fine and perfect that it has no flaws, no blind spots, no sphere in which it can't find the truth? Is science a god?

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

I think you're missing the point.
The only way to find the truth, is through scientific discovery. I never said I blindly believe in science, that would be silly.
For me, I only believe things that are proven, preferably through empirical evidence.

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rznag (61) · 8 years ago

I wouldn' t say that the law of attraction is total bs. But it's the same as with luck.
Just passively waiting that something happens will not make you successful, lucky or is a solution to any problem.
You have to kick yourself every day to get up and do something.
But then the law of attraction works. The more you're in contact with successful people the bigger the chances are that you're also successful. The more you have to do with money the bigger the chance that you also make some money. The more you learn the bigger your chances to get a cool job.
So i think the "secret" is not wishing for something but getting started to work for it. Get out of your passive state and get into an active one. Create your own world. But then you'll for sure attract other creative people and it seems that things fall into your lap.
Only changing your thinking doesn't work.
If you don't like the past results it's time to change how you do things. If you keep doing it the same as before you can't expect different results than before.

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xanoxt (61) · 8 years ago (edited)

Any good system that actually works tells you that much. I have no idea if this "Law of Attraction" thing does that or not, but I've met a lot of bashing it from people who are all about using magic (or "magic" if you like) to bring positive change in their life.
At least that is how I use the term. You work with yourself & your life changes for the better? That is what I call magic. NLP is a good example of something that qualifies as magic in my book. From what I've heard about "Law of attaction" & "Secret", they omit some important steps to qualify.

Thing is, most of that works that way as you and OP describe. But the best description that I've met is one by ancient greeks in their concept of Kairos. Kairos is the fortunate moment, when you have an opportunity to do something significant. It is something that you have to be ready for, and you have to take action when you encounter that opportunity. It was depicted as a flying guy with a single lock of hair, and that was only way to catch him, but you only had one shot, so you had to be prepared.

I think that a lot of the problems that create that market for self-help is that people are looking for a "magic bullet", that would allow them to acheive their desires without doing any actual work. Looking into yourself, and changing your habbits are a lot of work. But if you take any system, even one that ommits that part, and add that bit, if you are prepared and keep looking at word for opportunities, you will most likely do better then someone who only uses "positive thinking".

I myself prefer works like "Prometheus rising" by Robert Anton Wilson, as a "self-help" & brain-hacking manual. Stuff by Joseph Campbell is also great in that regard, although it is somewhat more than self-help & brain hacking.

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rznag (61) · 8 years ago

Yeah true. Lots of those systems forget to mention the implementation parts of those ideas.
Because any goal (being lucky, be successful) without a strategy how to achive it is nothing more than an idea. The problem with that is that the implementation and espcially the details take most of the time and work.
I really like the concept of kairos, never heard of it before. But that's exactly what i said.
Only if you're prepared the luck can hit you.
for example :
You can only make a bargain buying a rare oldtimer car when you are prepared to pick up the car on a trailer, have space at home to park it, have sufficient funds available and most important to find the offer before others do which requires at least having setup an email notifier alert or checking specific platforms manually. If those things aren't fulfilled that opportunity will simply pass. Some will say that was luck, others say it was good enough preparation and taking an opportunity.

I've read one of that Law of Attraction books, not sure if its the one which initially was spoken about and i think it wasn't that bad. It was more about the mindset than implementation but if you don't take it as the one and only truth and research other literature in this context too then it is worth a read.
For some people it already helps when they start with slowly changing their mindset which i would say is a requirement if you really want to work on your habits. You will fail for sure if you're sure about that in the beginning already. Perhaps the same reason as why those "xxx for dummies" books are such a success. They abstract themes as much as possible to make complex themes easier understandable.
Just see "law of attraction" as "theoretical success for dummies", that helps :D
The practical part then helps with the implementation :D

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xanoxt (61) · 8 years ago (edited)

Which is weird, because some (lots? most?) traditional systems have it in them. Perhaps problem with them is they aren't stated plainly enough with all those hots people in the past had for obfuscating their insight so it wouldn't fall into "wrong hands".

I mean one of the most common things for this kind of stuff is a tarot deck, which follows a good blueprint for thinking about change. Basicly there are four suits that are the following steps & answer questions that they all rise you are in for a good start:

Wands "Fire" — What. Your idea that you wish to impement.
Cups "Water" — Why. Your passion & feelings and the value you see in your idea.
Swords "Air" — How. Your plans, thoughts & blueprints for the idea.
Disks "Earth — Do. Manifestation & Implementation for the idea. That proverbial kick that you need to get off and do it.

Then there are trumps, which are archetypes & roles, and the whole thing is quite good to break down any situation into easy to understand chunks.

I've seen psychologists develop & use systems that work with symbols from persons personal vocabulary & mythology, which are also quite great. But this stuff works for those purposes quite nicely also. :->

Oh, another thing is all this stuff needs discipline. From what I read & observed it takes people around a month of daily repetition to make something into a habbit, but there is a hack, that if you start with things that are small, quick & easy and then expand them once they are part of daily routine it is a good way to go around chaging your life. When they say "start small" they aren't kidding.

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rznag (61) · 8 years ago

Cool sounds like i should read a bit into tarot. Never saw it from that point of view.
But you're onto something there. Nowadays people want it served easy understandable so that you can read it in the 5mins of your midday break. See again "xxx for dummies". Also information doesn't need to be obfuscated anymore like many years ago, we're living in times of the internet. The largest knowledge base ever available if you're able to find the right data.
And very true that the same principles which are discussed in law of attraction or so many other success/lifehack blogs/sites/articles can also be found in buddhism or most martial arts philosophies.
Mostly the same stuff packed into new words and a new context and i think that's also the breaking point. You simply need to start somewhere. Each generation or group of persons has its own contexts in which it can understand concepts. And everyone can have its own entrypoint for his specific context to enter the world of working on yourself and development as a person.

But we're drifting away from the original post somehow. I think when people are lead to thinking about themself and their actual mindset that is great in any way. Just don't be fooled that it stops there and that when you think about what goes wrong it will change. You have to be active to actually change something then.

btw....thanks for this great discussions...kairos and tarot really made really curious to read more about it

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

Actually, it's funny you bring up luck.
My post was inspired by a brilliant post by @cryptogee
About how luck is not a factor. Even though people perceive you as lucky. You can't attract luck.
The fact that the law of attraction gets sold as scheme to get rich or to achieve your dreams, is what really irks me.

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rznag (61) · 8 years ago

Hehe...i know which post you mean. I commented on that one too, saying that luck is not a passive state.
It's something you need to be prepared for. Either by learning in advance or having the right ressources at that moment to be able to accept your "luck".
If you aren't prepared the luck will simply pass you.

Yeah i know what you mean with that self-help gurus, but isn't it that people actively decide to believe them and give them their money although there's enough info on the net for free. It comes always down to the same. Educate yourself and resolve dependencies to external persons/knowledge by doing so.
The more you know the lower the chances that others can scam you.

I would say you can attract luck. But not by thinking that you're lucky and that you deserve it. You need to be prepared and work for it. And then it's taking opportunities.

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dasan-oneia (52) · 8 years ago (edited)

in the first half or so you shoot down the concept of the law of attraction then in the last part you show how you implemented the principles to make it work for you.

you're kinda crazy Huh?

check out this audio book that's been around for quite a while maybe it can help you see the connection between how you think, act and create the circumstances that you experience i love this book it changed my life it is called "As a man Thinketh"
this is an audio book on youtube

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

Sorry, but the law of attraction is a far cry from the NLP techniques. What I tried to explain in this article is the big gap between a marketing product like 'the secret' and the teachings of people who actually did research in this field.

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condra (67) · 8 years ago

Self help. Mindfulness. Most of that stuff is counterproductive. It's just comforting to read because the message that keeps being reinforced is that you are not responsible for your own personal failings, that you are misunderstood, under-appreciated, etc. The best thing anyone can do is to take personal responsibility for themselves and their situation, both good and bad.

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

https://steemit.com/life/@razvanelulmarin/if-you-can-t-stand-positive-thinking-read-this you might like this if you haven't already. but the book i recommend here is amazing, i'm sure you'd love it @condra!

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

Excellent comment. Taking responsibility is one of the greatest skills one can have.
Something that is lacking with people believing in 'higher powers'. Whether its religion or something esoteric as the LOA.

It gives piece of mind to people. They can put their trust in 'something bigger' and can brush off responsibility through it.

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condra (67) · 8 years ago

To me, the importance of personal responsibility goes hand in hand with my libertarian leanings. Politically in the Western world, from what I can see online, there is what I would call an "epidemic of abdication".. Abdication from personal responsibility, accountability, self ownership.

That is the main characteristic of the movement known as the "regressive left". Everything is, according to them, societies fault/responsibility. Governments fault/responsibility.

I don't buy into that shit for a second, and I wish less people did, but... again, it's comforting. Delusion and/or cognitive dissonance on a grand scale.

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

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lemouth (72) · 8 years ago

I fully agree with this post: I will believe in what can be demonstrated. That's the truth as I consider it (and I don't care about the Truth with a capital 'T').

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

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bhavnapatel68 (58) · 8 years ago

it is something we learn from life...you wait you waist...change is always educational.

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kevbonneau (49) · 8 years ago

Really nice content! (y)

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anarchony (39) · 8 years ago

Just visualizing how you want your life to be and expecting it to come true is ofcourse just some new age bullshit, these are also the people that use the words truth and perception interchangeably, while always meaning the latter and ignoring the existence of the first, which annoys the fuck out of me.

Having a positive state of mind in terms of your goals is ofcourse essential, you're not going to accomplish much when you're all pessimistic about it, but ofcourse you need to understand that action is required, and action requires courage.

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sardonyx (38) · 8 years ago

Everyone has courage; the difference is in what they apply it to. Soldiers in Iraq are not generally rich. Mothers of children with Leukemia are not generally rich. Donald Trump is very rich.
The difference in being apparently successful to others, that is, in being financially successful, is that you need to place the acquisition of wealth as your highest priority in life. If money is what you want, then money is what you will get, because money is what you will put your energy into. If you have other goals in life - helping the poor, the less fortunate, saving the rainforest, starting a family, what have you - then those are the areas in which you will express your courage and find success.
I do agree, however, that action is required. And action requires the overcoming of resistance to change.

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anarchony (39) · 8 years ago

Becoming an order follower isn't courage, it's going with the herd, these people are as fearful as they come.
Courage is stepping out of the herd, going into the unknown, following your own path, as you say overcoming the resistance to change.

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superfreek (50) · 8 years ago

The only reason the law of attraction seems to work for some people is that thinking about it that much will make you more present for your choices.

Choices is the key driver here.

Thats all.

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luisulfr (25) · 8 years ago

It's not about atraction or "secret"... It's about REALLY knowing yourself and at the same time OPEN the eyes to reallity... then make our future...not simple... not complicated... just what it is...

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telos (57) · 8 years ago

I don't understand why you would be more afraid to take risks when there are safety nets?

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

You're right. I missed a key point.
The safety nets are only there for the average employee. Business owners face immense risks there. It's them who actually pay for these safety nets.

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sardonyx (38) · 8 years ago

The most successful people in the world mentally rehearse what they are about to do - sink a putt, act on stage, talk to venture capitalists - before they do it. Envisioning a successful future is indeed very important to achieving it. Before you went to Asia, you probably mentally imaged it as enjoyable. To say that positive visualization makes you weaker is therefore nonsense.
However, visualization is just the first step. Visualization alone will not help you succeed in life, nor will it prevent someone you love from leaving you for one reason or another related to them not you (your single mother).
Your friend visualized being a mother continually and became one; that was in her control. I never really visualized having kids, so I never really ended up with kids. Thats how it works. That and lining up your unconsciousness to work on the problem while your conscious mind is off doing other things.
Having said that, I'm not going to visualize making thousands of dollars on this post because although it is a little more nuanced than your post, factors other than relevance and truth determine the Steem world. Because I fail to visualize; the Steem will fail to follow :)

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

or, you know, a comment rarely makes thousands. whatever fits your confirmation biases, man!

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markrmorrisjr (70) · 8 years ago

NLP works on the exact same principles as the Law of Attraction. You trained your mind to find connections that led you down a path you imagined for yourself. You rewrote your own story. You designed the universe you wanted to live in and then set about building, using the pieces you found before you. This post is so rife with irony it's amazing.
You say that positive thinking is horseshit, then you recognize that holding onto negativity prohibited success. You say you should believe in reality, yet, you dared to dream of a different one and set off to find it. Along the way, you learned the secret, enjoy the journey, each step is one step closer, be grateful for the things you encounter, stop labeling them as good or bad, accept them and move on.
You should be a self-help guru yourself. But, you missed the point. Have you ever read the secret? I'm guessing not. Is there anything mysterious behind it? No. Is there a magical current that brings to you because you think of them, no, but what you focused on, you achieved.
That's what is meant by attracting. What you actually had a problem with was the way it was being stated, or at least your perception of it. Science, cold hard science, mocks NLP just as hardily as it does LOA. Wow, you are a study in contradictions. You proved the entire point of LOA through experience and you don't even recognize that you did it.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

I think it's you who are missing the point completely.
Your comment just proved my entire post correct.
Also, see @razvanelulmarin's comment.

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

NLPS [doesn't] work [because of ] the exact principles. <--- fixed it!

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sardonyx (38) · 8 years ago

By the way; love the put-down of social safety nets. You do realize that the most successful countries in Europe - Germany and the Nordic countries - have the most extensive safety nets? You would be surprised how many successful "American" businesses are in fact founded by people who grew up in the European milieu - people like you. Being scared silly 24/7 of being destitute is not the inducement to starting a business that you think it is.
The reality is that 5% of people are natural leaders, and 95% are natural followers, and although some people can move between brackets with a lot of effort, this is what generally makes the difference. In communist Russia, you had PLENTY of people in business for themselves - protection rackets, black marketeers, smugglers. In America, you have the same thing plus owning a MacDonald's Franchise. The big difference is that in America, the wealthy are far freer to keep every penny that they exploit from the 95% and so there are big buckets of capital swilling about looking for all kinds of ventures to make a fast buck off. Less so in Europe.
But no, living in fear of destitution is not an incentive to entrepeneurship. For most people, they need security before they branch out to try new things. For the few, they will try new things regardless of their security. Donald Trump didnt get rich because he was broke; he got rich because he had access to large amounts of capital from his father and gambled with it like he was in a casino. Sometimes he won and kept the money, sometimes he lost and he declared his corporation bankrupt and passed the bills to his customers, contractors and employees. Not everyone can live like that. Or they can, I suppose, if they NLP themselves enough.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

Hey Sardonyx, I agree. I never said the countries are unsuccessful because of the safety nets.
I meant that it made me lazy and unaware of the possibilities of being an entrepreneur. They don't encourage startups there. I grew up in Belgium, so I saw and experienced it all myself. I couldn't start the company that I have now in Belgium because of the taxes and social security costs I would have to pay there.

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margot (54) · 8 years ago (edited)

Very interesting read, however the line between the 'law of attraction' and NLP is extremely fluid here. Visualisation works for sure, law of attraction works as well if people work towards their goal. Why still in 21st century being a single mum is explored as a tragedy? I am a successful single mum, and visualisation and NLP saved my life for sure, however I did worked my ass off to get what I want. So please don't say that something doesn't work if people don't work nothing will happen.
'I imagined the whole entire pathway that lay before of me' You can name this how you prefer, NLP, visualisation, 'law of attraction' all of them work if individuals take action.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

My main beef with LOA is that they only focus on tiny bit of the puzzle but sell it as this amazing product that will change your life. Just 'attract' it.
NLP uses techniques to hack your brain and change your perception of the world.

I agree that the line can be fine, but there's huge differences in the approach.

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curranwood (25) · 8 years ago

You sound bitter and unhappy.

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

you clearly don't know @menta :))

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menta (62) · 8 years ago (edited)

That's one of the most hilarious comments I've read today!
As raz says, I'm quite the opposite, living the dream life with my dream girl in a tropical paradise.

If you feel like believing I must be bitter and unhappy because I don't believe in a higher power, be my guest.
I'll just be sitting here, sipping on my cocktail in perfect bliss!

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millennialhue (18) · 8 years ago

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runridefly (72) · 8 years ago

My brother was nuts over the secret. I remekber warching it 10 times with him. I always thought actiin was the secret....moving and and just being present in the moment.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

So, did it work for him?

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koningsbruggen (45) · 8 years ago (edited)

Succes starts with a clear definition of what succes is for you. That first step is what the secret does. It makes you think of what the desired outcome is. It is an awfully important step but completely useless without a strategy and decisive action.

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

True. The basic concept of visualization can be beneficial for some people. But LOA teaches that that's the only thing you need. And that's the fallacy.

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curving (50) · 8 years ago (edited)

Forget Visualization!

And then, later ...

"Changing my mental picture ... "
"I imagined the entire path that lay before me .."

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

the same word can have a lot of different meanings...

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menta (62) · 8 years ago

Yes, something completely different than what the 'the secret' and LOA tells you to do.

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faddat (66) · 8 years ago

Many thanks for attacking the pile of horse shit known as "the secret".

Thunderous applause

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domavila (57) · 8 years ago

Hahaha

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stillsafe (58) · 8 years ago

Your life is a reflection of your Emotional Thoughts & Beliefs!

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fairytalelife (69) · 8 years ago

Smoke and mirrors, yes. I do believe in the power of our thoughts, but I also believe in taking responsibility for propelling us into the direction we want to go with our lives. Thoughts alone won't do it - action will. Great read, @menta.

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razvanelulmarin (72) · 8 years ago

The greatest gulf in the world...between the people what take action..and those who don't! TRUTH!

https://steemit.com/life/@razvanelulmarin/if-you-can-t-stand-positive-thinking-read-this also this could be a good read!

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rampant (61) · 8 years ago

Dude! I'm glad you wrote this. I went down some similar roads looking for self help and figuring out life and like you I saw that it was all smoke and mirrors (but it took a while). My biggest breakthrough was just saying "Wait, these guys are all full of it. That means there isn't anything wrong with me, I'm just as smart as they are. I'm going to stop following and start leading (myself)". Basically, I resolved to sort it out on my own.

That's what lead me to things like NLP. I stopped looking for help and starting looking for TOOLS. The next few years have been INSANE. Traveling the world, meeting amazing people, doing things I never dreamed possible.

Glad to have you here man!

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mombasa (25) · 8 years ago

Interesting views. First of all agree NLP is an amazing tool. Life changing and very useful in negotiations. Books like the secret give people good feelings which is better than nothing. The law of attraction is represented as a simple procedure and magically likea genie in the bottle ypur wish appears. I feel there is truth to it but it is explained in such a basic, rudimentary way success won't be found for the readers. To program oneself takes a lot of work and a great deal more than positive thinking. People visualize what they want but they dont visualize or work at becoming the person who deserves what they want. Today I am reading how to wn friends and influence people again sometime during the day when I need a break from working. A book that most of the people reading the secret have never heard of.

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