Many times, what really hurts you is your "self-righteousness"

In a civilian district in New York, USA, there is such a family. The mother is a gambler, the father is an alcoholic, and he also takes drugs. He often scolds his family.

They had a pair of twin boys. When they grew up, their brother was as delicious as their parents, and they both stole a living. It is conceivable that he spent most of his good life in prison.

But my brother is different. He is a department manager of a large American company. He has a successful career and has a happy and happy family.

The Associated Press reporter was curious and went to interview the brothers separately.

Interview with my brother in prison first: Why are you here?

Brother sighed: Who told me to have such a family? Who told me to have such a father and mother?

The reporter turned to his younger brother Suwa: Why can you achieve this?

Unexpectedly, my brother's answer was exactly the same as his brother's: Who told me to have such a family? Who told me to have such a father and mother!

It can be seen that determining an individual's achievement is not an external environmental opportunity, but your internal beliefs and mentality! Things themselves don't matter, what matters is what you think about them!

One person took a bus on a rainy day, and the passengers on the bus were crowded like sardines. In patience, he suddenly felt that someone's umbrella touched his ankle. He wanted to turn his head back to the insignificant person. But the car was so crowded that he couldn't turn around at all. When the car was shaking, the umbrella tip became heavier, and the anger in his heart gradually increased, thinking that he would have to reprimand the other side for a while.

After finally arriving at a big station and getting off some passengers, he finally had room to turn around, angrily opened the tip of the stinging umbrella with leather shoes, and turned and glared at the "not long-sighted" passenger with the most severe expression.

As a result, he found that the other person was actually a blind man, and it was not the tip of the umbrella he imagined that stabbed his ankle, but her crutch!

The irritable anger in his heart suddenly disappeared, and his ankle no longer seemed to be so painful.

Why does the whole feeling suddenly change? That's right, it's the idea changed.

On the surface, this man's anger is due to the "man" who stabbed his ankle, but it actually came from the idea that "this man is really reckless and rude."

So when he finds that the other person is blind, his "thinking" changes, and the "feeling" changes.

If you are sprinkled with water by someone upstairs, you are likely to yell or even yell at him. If the sky suddenly rains wet you, even if you are a bad-tempered person, you won't be furious.

Therefore, you will gradually understand: Many times, things will not hurt you, it is your own thoughts and views on things that hurt you.