Self confidence

Everything has to start somewhere. Unless you start revamping your
self-confidence, you will have to agonize endlessly with the very
thing you are fearful of- low self-confidence.
Our self-confidence is the accumulation of all our reactions to the
experiences that life brought us, the manner by which we were guided by
the older people in our environment and how we and the society view us.
Many factors are contributors to our personal understanding of confidence.
One determining factor is how well we expect ourselves and the
circumstances of our lives should be. Many tend to fall into the trap of
creating unrealistic expectations. In the process, their losses are becoming
too painful that they eventually suffer the effects of creating lower self￾confidence.
Others, on the other hand, lean more on playing safe and thus create more
achievable goals that are easier to attain. And because achievements add
largely to the development of self-confidence, these people benefit from
knowing that they are somehow capable of doing something.
You may already have heard the phrase - "it’s all in the mind". And to many
psychological and emotional conditions, we can actually say that everything
is all in the mind. They rooted and develop from the mind and so, the
antidote might as well come from the same source.
You can always condition yourself to feel the way you want or to feel the
way you don't want. You can suppress emotions and in the process, help
emotions materialize. Say you want to feel hatred of yourself over not being
good enough. If you make yourself believe in that hatred and you truly are
convinced that you are not good enough, you will only get two products￾one, genuine hatred and two, lower self-esteem.
The majority of us are caught unaware with our words. We sometimes fail to
check ourselves of the things we are registering in our subconscious mind.