(1) KNOW HOW YOU VIEW YOURSELF :-
How do you really think about yourself? We all have an opinion about ourselves and this is a very
important step to take if you want to stop comparing yourself with others in a negative way. You need
to be aware of the root cause as to why you keep comparing yourself in an unhealthy way. Write down how you see yourself at the moment. This will help you to identify the behavior that you
need to change. Accept the fact that changing this behavior is going to take time and effort and break
everything down into smaller achievable steps.
(2) TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR SELF ESTEEM:-
Having low self esteem is a major reason why people make negative comparisons with others. Self
esteem is all about the feelings that you have for yourself. You are going to have some negative
feelings and some positive feelings. If the negative feelings far outweigh the positive feelings then you
definitely need to work on your self esteem.
(3) MAKE A RECORD OF YOUR COMPARATIVE THOUGHTS:-
When you feel the need to compare yourself to others write down your thoughts and feelings about
this. Why did you want to compare yourself to somebody else in the first place? As soon as you
experience these thoughts then write them down. Add as much detail as you can.
(4) IDENTIFY WHEN YOU STARTED TO COMPARE WITH OTHERS:-
This is not always easy to do but certainly worth the effort. Think back to a time when you didn’t feel
the need to compare yourself with others. Write this down in your journal and keep thinking about
the time when you started to make regular comparisons.
This is powerful because it can help to identify the root causes behind your comparison habit. For
example you may have compared yourself to your sister in a negative way because you felt that she
got more attention from your parents than you did.
(5) ADOPT AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE:-
Most people take the things that they already have in their life for granted. So we recommend that
you record a gratitude statement in your journal every day. This will certainly help you to focus on
yourself more than you do others.
Think about the positive things in your life that you are truly grateful for. You are healthy, you have a
loving relationship, you have wonderful children, you have great family and friends, you have a job so
that you can pay your bills and so on.
(6) STOP BEING HARSH ON YOURSELF:-
One of the real downsides of comparing yourself in a negative way to others is that you identify
reasons why you are not as good as they are. This is nonsense of course but in the moment these
feelings are very strong.
This can result in you beating yourself up severely and telling yourself that you are not good enough,
useless or worse. Instead of doing this praise yourself for who you are and how far you have come.
This will put you in a positive frame of mind and inspire you to do more with your life.
(7) FORGET THOSE PERFECT PEOPLE IMAGES:-
No matter where you turn these days there seems to be an endless amount of images of “perfect
people”. You can find these in magazines, TV shows, social media, in movies and just about
everywhere else. Again you never get the full story. The pictures of the skinny models on the catwalk may seem
appealing but there is a likelihood that most of them are continually hungry because they don’t eat
enough. Some photographs are cleverly manipulated using programs such as Photoshop as well.
(8) BE REALISTIC WITH YOUR THINKING:-
You are always going to come across people or images of people that seem to have a better life than
you do. Maybe they have the perfect relationship that you crave or the perfect body. But nothing in
this world is perfect and never likely to be.
In perfect relationships there is often pain. Couples have disagreements all of the time and they might
look like the perfect pair from the outside but you don’t know the full story and probably never will.
If someone has a nicer car or house than you then use this as motivation to make positive changes in
your life rather than get bitter and twisted over it. Take stock of where you are now and decide where
you want to be.
You now have (8)great ways to stop comparing yourself with others in a negative way. These
techniques work and you need to use them regularly and accept that they will take time to work.
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