Hey,
putting sex in the title seems to get more views - so let's do it - I promise it's not off topic at all ;)
I got a good friend who's a dating coach .. and I learned some things from him and through experience from my business travels on how to have a good time,
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So I'll throw out a few ressources and tips:
Ressources
There are a few websites/apps you should be aware of
Meetup.com
It's a site for meetups - like the name suggests. People are creating groups around sports, social activities or work related stuff - you will all find it on there. In big cities around the globe (Manhattan, London, Paris, Mumbai, Tel Aviv, Tokyo, Aukland ...) you will find yourself with too many options to choose from - and it's really gold.
Yes - there are some commercial parties (restaurants, travel agencies etc...) that missuse meetup for advertisment for commercial events, but you can filter them out pretty quickly.
I personally love photo meetups, pub crawls, language meetups, boardgame meetups and everything around karaoke (western or asian style - I don't care).
In those big cities it's easy to meet people and make connections as most people are travelling themselves and don't know anyone and are happy when you introduce yourself.
Couchsurfing.com
A word of warning - be careful using Couchsurfing as a dating plarform ;)
It's just not ... but still you can filter out girls that have the status "want to meet up for coffee" in a certain age range for every city on the planet and talk to them.
Keep in mind that on couchsurfing you should build a reputation with references to get more replies - and if you are like me and did that - you don't want to ruin that reputation with being to up-front about dating there ... so I usually try to walk the fine line to meet for coffee and talk and then slowly qualify and escalate from there ... it's tricky but I had success with it quite a bit without getting a single negative review in all those years.
Tinder (and virtually every other instant dating app)
Well - that's the obvious mention on this list ... there are books written about tinder, so I won't do it.
Just 2 things:
Keep in mind that the ymore exotic you look, the more exotic value you have - so make sure in your profile to point out that you are different, i.e. stating where you come from or how tall you are (in asia i.e.).
Keep also in mind there are cultural differences, in some areas it's better to not tell girls that you are leaving soon, in others it's fine ...
I'm personally not doing too much tinder, but from time to time it's nice (in Eastern Europe and SEA it's golden).
rooshv forum
Well ... don't hate the player hate the game right ;)
Roosh is controversial ... I'm not gonna talk about him - he wrote books called "Bang Poland" "Bang Estonia" "Bang Ukraine" etc...
But - he operates a Forum that you should utilize - you can just google rooshv + NameOfCity you go to, and you will usually get a nice data sheet that tells you more relevant information on flirting in that place than the usual city guide - so utilize it.
facebook
If you are like me and you have some hobbies that are not too common and you want to find girls to meet that do that hobby, in my opinion, Facebook is the only possibility.
For me it's Jiu Jitsu - on Meetup I usually don't find JiuJitsu Groups (not even in the biggest places) - but it's easy to look for JiuJitsu Places on Facebook and browse their Timelines for Pictures of nice girls while doing JiuJitsu. Then write them up on FaceBook and pretend you wanna meet them to train with them - and then, as on Couchsurfing, take it from there - of cause here you can be more direct.
That works for everything, horse riding, stamp collecting, you name it ... the downside is those girl's are not qualified to be single at all - but if you are like me - I am happy doing things I like anyway even without dating a girl there .
missing stuff
Am I missing something?
What are you experiences with meeting girls on short trips abroad?
a timeline of action
the sooner the better - book a central hotel
If you want to socialize it doesn't matter too much, but if you wanna pull girls in a foreign environment you need to be as close to your hotel as possible when you go out - so try to book in close proximity to central city walking area as well as a coffee shop/bar for dating and a night club would be optimal too if that's your thing.
In Tokyo i.e. (I chose the picture for a reason) I booked directly next to shibuya crossing, so I could meet girls at the crossing (seems like the hole city meets there any minute ... at the dog hachiko).
contact people or girls
If you wanna get laid it's critical to work a bit ahead and not just land there and hope for the best. If you just wanna meet people and do stuff, spontanous will work most times just fine.
I usually use couchsurfing and tinder to have a few girls lined up that want to meet me before arriving - the best thing is if she can get you from the airport - but that's the ideal.
I also usually plan my evenings (as I work through the daytime) with cool events from meetup, so if I date a girl I can take her to the meetup if I feel like it, or try to pull ...
during the trip - Approach girls everyday!
Yes - approaching girls is scary - and in a foreign country and unknown environment it might be even scarier - but do it!!! It's amazing to see the differences in reactions across cultures - and it can be gold.
Another tidbit I would through out is, don't dump girls after the first night - stay in contact and make friends, I think that's a good thing and who knows, you might come back in the future and will be happy to have a friend around.
after the trip
Same here - maintain your network of contacts (whether girls or not) - it will grow over time and who knows what it might be useful for in the future.
Disclaimer
I'm not a dating coach or somehow a professional - I just shared some stuff I got told and learned over time and I find useful. Any other ressources you are using that I might be interested in?
Happy Travel everybody :D !