So, Is Sex Overrated?

SEX, for many a closed topic, for others a natural inclination of human presence, while for some a topic of elaborate imaginative physical interaction and even a lifelong addiction. Looking over a spectrum of history and social dynamics, sexual pleasure has been practiced differently throughout centuries, with that the approach towards sex and the context of its discussion has always been diverse in terms of rights and wrongs. Before the question, ‘Whether sex is overrated?’ can be posed and answered; an overall idea of what sex is, within the modern sense, needs to be discussed in the context and why would sex be galvanized or overrated as a topic.

Going back as far as the mighty Roman Empire and Ancient Greece, physical pleasures tended to be a norm especially within the social milieu of the wealthier empowered citizens. In some instances it portrayed dominance, and in that case sexual relations of male to male supported that claim. Sex was known to be an impulse or an uncontrolled beast, and thirst for sex was quenched as it was viewed to be a natural inclination of human existence. However with time and birth of Christian morals, views on such subjects underwent vast changes, as the notion of sex became a controlled agent and manipulated by religious views to become a sort of profanity that led us away from Godly dues.

Hallmark in sexual activity.

Today we see a hallmark in sexual activity, as many views clash new are born. With birth of feminism and allowance of same sex partnerships becoming a routine, sexual endeavor may lead to a sort of xenophobic effect. Xenophobia does relate to racial discrimination and the existence of the term Sexophobia relates to a more radical fear of other sexes due to some psychological effects. However, here both concepts need to be intertwined, and moved away from fear, violence and hatred, to form a rather more tolerant stance of reluctance and disinterest. It seems that after the Greek era of sexual abundance and Medieval era of sexual rejection a new era may be at hand, an era of sexual neutrality.

It does seem that with sex portrayed all over media: within movies, music and advertisement, it should create a certain drive for sexual pleasures. However it may lead to a completely different outcome. Children or in this case, teenagers, have a inclination towards losing virginity as early as possible, due to the pressure of social standings that tends to create a certain identity within the youth groups that alters perception of what is wanted and why. Humans always want something that is not allowed, in this instance the youth seeks underage driving, drinking, drug abuse and of course – sex. However with internet available 24/7, teenagers are able to access pornography, sex chats and other sexual related mediums that tend to allow them to underwhelm their passion for sexual endeavor. It seems as though the notion of sex is becoming less volatile, more acceptable and in that case sex as an act is not as wanted as before. Let us undergo a discourse experiment: If someone had to come-up to you and ask, “Would you like a Coke?” You, if never had a Coke but have heard about its sweet taste and bubbly sensation, would accept that offer, especially if Coke is banned in your community. However, if Coke is not banned and there is always an opportunity for you to try that drink, there is a lesser chance of you accepting that offer as you know that in a future you will always have the possibility of tasting that delicious beverage.

So, in a case of sexual experience, it projects a fairly similar outcome. With overabundance of opportunities for sexual experiences some seem to become more distant from such physical exercises. The best example in terms of sexual neutrality would be a loving couple, even though there might be a fair share of sexual exchanges throughout the relationship, the sexual drive tends to die down through time and that is a natural occurrence; partly due to age factor as well as due to the fact that both know that sex is always a possibility while relationship lasts. Still, generalizations don’t help so often as there will always be men and women that live for sex and in some cases, nymphomania is depicted as a psychological issue in this regard.

Nevertheless, sex is a topic of many angles and can be perceived with various views but within this topic the main question that needs to be answered is; whether sex is overrated? Here what needs to be understood is that sex may refer to many externalities: sex as an action, sex as an instinctive principle, sex as a tool for sharing affection or a medium to introduce a new life to this world.

It is also important to view this question under certain circumstances; for example if a healthy, young male or female human was left in the world by themselves but with all pleasures at hand except for one, and that is sex; it should be easy to conclude that sexual drive would be overwhelming and if that person had to read an article mentioning that sex is overrated, he or she would probably laugh out loud and burn that article. In the same sense, if a person, with an abundance of sexual opportunities, was given an article of such standpoint, he or she would culminate with an alternate opinion and maybe even agree with the idea of sex being over-glorified and hyped-up. So here it must be understood that sex as a medium and an experience is dependent on the situation at hand, age and knowledge thereof. Whether sex is an overrated process depends on a personal opinion; many may argue that if someone had to claim sex to be boring, that claim is only true to the party who believe that assertion, as that perception may arise from the lack of grandeur sexual experiences. This stance is acceptable - if a person, who played tennis once, lost and after that incident concluded that tennis is a horrid sport; he or she does not hold a valid argument for others even though he or she may accept that to be true.

Sex as an activity.

In terms of sex as an activity, it seems to be quite a simple task if one had to explain it to someone who has no knowledge about it; in that sense one could imagine sex to be quite a mechanic and boring activity. However, sexual exercise with affection contains much more emotional and physical sensation that fuels it away from a mechanical activity towards an emotional roller-coaster of sense experience and dynamic emotional attachment. Looking back at the points in this topic on modern views of sex, it does seem that sex is becoming more redundant, as the idea of domination is becoming less relevant. Different sexes are not separated by a hierarchy ideology of paternal or maternal matters anymore, especially within the Western-European cultures. Some cultures still seem to grapple on to the idea of male’s being the dominant class and their sexual agendas form an alternate perspective, but looking through a Eurocentric worldview, with the rise of globalization and melting of the culture lines, sex as a topic is nearing an ultimately neutral stance within the views of a modern Western-European man. Here one can say with certainty that sex as a concept is growing towards a more neutral position and is becoming a norm in the modern world, just like breathing, drinking and feeding. Sex is a natural inclination that through history has been portrayed as a very personal matter but with time has progressed to become more of an acceptable social subject that does not implicate shock or surprise factor if a conversation steers that way.

Conclusion?

In conclusion, it is evident that the progression of sex as a topic, a concept and an act is leading certain social groups towards a less overpowering notion of sex and crowning sex as an over-exaggerated act. In a simplest form it must not be feared or placed within a special parameter that may enrich sex to become a closed or an overhyped subject once again. A sense of neutrality is needed for sex to be viewed differently and to prevent, sexual discrimination, sexual harassment or complete rejection of sexual drives; each of these represents radical implications of sex being viewed as an alternate ‘animal’ to our being and only with a notion of understanding sex for what it is, such radical instances can be put to bed.