A blowjob might be the most versatile tool in anybody’s sexual playbook. It’s discrete enough that it can be done anywhere with a little bit of privacy, yet effective enough to make your partner cum in seconds with the right techniques.

I know couples who done oral in a car while driving, while watching TV together, and even in a dark cinema (she had a jacket to cover her head). Beyond the semi-public sex, there’s also the foreplay. Good foreplay will always lead to great sex, and there are few better options for foreplay than oral. The best part about it is you can get him to cum during foreplay so he can stay on longer while having sex.

However, oral sex can be a touchy subject for some couples. Not everyone is willing to do it, and even those who are willing to do it might hesitate on their first couple of tries. To help you get past those first few hurdles of hesitation, here is a beginner’s guide on how to do an awesome blowjob!

How To Suck Dick Like a Pro!

Nothing sucks more than lousy blowjob (No pun intended!). But did you know that in order for your woman to give you an unforgettable “service”, it takes both of you to do it right.

Tim and I have been experimenting with blowjobs since we were boyfriend and girlfriend back in college. It was so much fun back then because we were still trying to know each other first.

During the early stages of our relationship, we had trial and error and it was from trying again and again that we were able to somehow master what satisfies each other.

1. Make him shower first!

Nobody wants to blow a smelly penis. If he just took off his pants and hasn’t showered yet, expect a smelly penis coming your way. No exemptions. Pants and underwear make for a warm squeeze, which always means sweaty penis.

If he needs more convincing, know that what something smells like has a big impact on what it tastes like. Getting a smelly penis in your mouth will just be an uncomfortable and foul-tasting experience for you, and by extension for him.

Always shower before sucking dick. Good personal hygiene is hot too.

2. Try to be confident

Many women are hesitant at giving their men head because they’ve probably haven’t tried it before or if they did, they didn’t really have a lot of practice. Fake it till you make it works well when sucking dick as it does in your everyday life. Nobody’s amazing at it on their first try. A lot of people learn how to do it well as they go.

Sandra’s Pro Tip: Don’t worry though. You’ll pick up on his queues as he moans and groans his way to bliss. However, that won’t happen if you look awkward while sucking dick. You will be distracting him and at the same time, he will be able to sense your discomfort that he’ll be telling you to stop.

3. Try to be enthusiastic

There’s probably a never-ending list of things that can make your partner hard, so let’s add another one. If you want to perform a blowjob, just ask for it. It’s extremely exciting for any man to hear their partner ask for sexual satisfaction. Your enthusiasm for it is extremely infectious and the evidence will immediately present itself before he can even say yes.

You know how you feel as he takes your clothes off enthusiastically? This is basically the same thing.

While you’re sucking dick, remember that putting on a good show is just as important as your blowjob technique. Blowjobs offer much more than just what his penis can feel like. It’s the sight of you and the sounds you make that make up the entire experience. Give him fellatio as if the world’s ending tomorrow. Your enthusiasm combined with your blowjob technique can make him spill his load in seconds!

4. Use your tongue and hands

The very best blowjobs use as many tools available to maximum effect. The mouth and lips are obvious enough, but there’s a lot more we can do with the tongue, the hands, and even the throat.

Wrap and move your tongue around the head of his penis works wonders. Your tongue will be able to feel every twitch and tingle that his penis makes, which is relevant for a later tip. Both your hands can touch and caress his balls or his shaft. And if he’s into it, your hands can even reach his anus for a bit of anal stimulation.

Sandra’s Pro Tip: You can even use a bit of air to do some work too. Sucking all the air from your mouth works well, but don’t underestimate the effect of blowing air onto his penis. It doesn’t sound amazing on paper, but boy does it feel good.

5. Lots of saliva makes it easier

You know how your vagina makes its own lubrication to make sex easier? Your mouth can obviously do the same thing, so put it to good use. Making your blowjob a little sloppier with some saliva helps your mouth glide through his dick at even the roughest speeds. The sound that sloppy blowjobs make can be a great turn-on for him too.

Sandra’s Pro Tip: If he’s into it, you can try spitting on the head of his penis. Some men love it, some men find it weird.

6. Eye contact

Another thing that’s a personal preference when sucking dick is eye contact. When I’m getting my dick sucked, I like to have Sandra look me in the eye. It gives me a primal sort of pleasure.

Do be careful though. I know a lot of men who find it creepy when their partners look at them in the eye during blowjobs. Try doing it once quickly then check if he responds well to it. Pay attention to his penis behavior and moaning.

While there are some general tips on effective blowjobs (which we’ll get to in a bit), their effects are different from person to person. Your partner may like having his balls tickled. Maybe he likes to have a specific part of his penis head licked. There’s a lot of room for experimentation when sucking dick and it’s easy to know when you’re doing it right.

Of course, he might moan, run his hands through your hair, or do whatever it is that he does when he’s feeling good. But the thing to really pay attention to is his penis. If he likes what you’re doing, his penis will start to throb. Your tongue is sensitive enough to pick up on the twitching, so you’ll know when it happens. If his dick starts getting softer, maybe it’s time to move on to something else.

7. Don’t forget the balls!

One of the common mistakes women make when giving head to their partner is that they get carried away with licking, sucking, and nipping the penis that they forget about the balls.

Just so you know, the balls can be just as sensitive as the penis while you’re doing a blowjob. They’re also nice and close, so it’s easy to pleasure the penis and the balls at the same time. You can try touching them and sucking on them, depending on what your partner is comfortable with.

Important: While the balls are incredibly sensitive, they don’t stand up to pressure as well as the penis does. Working it too hard can be painful. Be gentle, then work your way up. A good lick is more than enough for some men. Use your tongue to play with his balls and he’ll be moaning with pleasure.

8. Change the rhythm sometimes

Just as good sex requires a decent repertoire of positions, good blowjobs do too. Unpredictability goes a long way in pleasuring a man.

Take it slow, then fast, then slow down again. Alter your routes and angles now and then. When your mouth gets tired, you can use your hands to keep the flow going.

I love changing rhythms when I’m giving Tim a blowjob. The fact that he will never know what I will do next makes me feel powerful. I love starting with deep, slow movements then fast while my hands play with his balls. Just when he is about to come, I would stop for a few seconds and then do it all over again to delay his orgasm.

The result? Earth-shattering climax like no other! Besides, I love swallowing his milk though sometimes I love having a facial, too.

9. Swallow his cum makes the experience sexier for him

Sucking dick doesn’t have to finish with a man blowing his load. Swallowing cum is extremely pleasurable for reasons we can’t really explain. Tim said he loves it if he can deposit his sperm inside my mouth because he also enjoys the tingling sensation caused by the sucking movement of my lips when he is coming.

I myself enjoy the feeling of having his warm milk in my mouth. Besides, semen has a salty sweet flavor and it’s clean and safe to swallow.

However, we know that swallowing cum isn’t for everybody. If you’re not comfortable with it, tell your partner he can give you a facial instead or let his semen hit your boobs. No proper man will ever force you to swallow his cum. Only do this if you’re willing to do it.

No-Nos When Sucking Dick

There are some obvious things to avoid while sucking dick. Fist and foremost, the penis is extremely sensitive, so anything sharp and hard should be avoided. This means no teeth! If you’re worried about your teeth getting in the way of your technique, know that the teeth don’t interfere with the blowjob in any way. They just sink into the background while your mouth and tongue do their thing.

This goes double for biting. Any pain that your partner feels while he’s sensitive is heightened, and that includes pain. If you even nibble on his penis a little bit, he can react in unpredictable ways, causing further damage to his penis. That’s not an emergency room trip you want to have.

As for your partner, one thing they should never do is push your head down. They can play with your hair, but they should never make you force their dick down further than it should. While it might seem like a great idea in the heat of passion, getting your head pushed down can be uncomfortable at best and painful at worst.

Meanwhile, be sure to cut those fingernails. Remember that giving your partner a blowjob includes using your hands. Long fingernails can be sharp and they can leave scratches on your man’s cock and balls.

10 Advanced Blowjob Techniques

If you already gave dozens of blowjobs to your partner, it’s about time to put the whole thing to the next level. Learn some more advanced blowjob techniques and see the difference they can make. Here arr some of the strategies we’ve learned so far.

1. Suck Cock With Dirty Talk

Dirty talking is an effective way to build the right mood for the job. Telling your lover that “I love your big cock in my mouth” or “I want to swallow your cum” gets both of you in the right state of mind for intense sex.

Just don’t shout those kinds of things immediately though, especially if you’re not the kind of person who would normally talk dirty. There’s an art to dirty talk that requires a deep understanding of your relationship.

Sandra’s Pro Tip: The dirty talk should always follow the current mood. Whispering small things like “I want you” in his ear is one of those things that can get us instantly hard in the right circumstance. As the mood improves, make your talk dirtier and dirtier. Reserve the nastiest stuff when he’s about to cum and you’ll make the experience a lot better.

2. Use surprise to your advantage

I remember the first time Sandra surprised me with a blowjob. We were in a hotel on a vacation and I remember waking up to her blowing my morning wood. It was a pleasant surprise and I remember getting scared that I might kick her or something. I just tried to stay as still as I could while she was blowing me, but she was way too good at it.

Surprise blowjobs make a lot of the mundane things that men do a lot better. Things like getting home after a tiring day after work or driving home after a terrible party can be excellent opportunities for a good blowjob. Your partner will definitely appreciate the gesture.

As a footnote to sucking dick while waking up, do rub on his thighs first. Giving your partner head right as they wake up can result in some unpredictable responses, especially if it’s the first time it happens.

3. Deepthroating

Deepthroating a cock is a really difficult thing to do. There’s a reason why the gag reflex exists and most men would be satisfied with whatever you’re comfortable with. If you really want to deepthroat your partner’s penis, there are a few tips you can try.

You can resist the gag reflex with practice and relaxation, and using large dildos helps here. And over time, you’ll be able to get your dildo in deeper and deeper until you can fit his cock in as deep as you want.

A faster solution would be to try a deep throat spray. Deep throat sprays are flavored sprays that make your mouth feel just numb enough to go the extra distance without being uncomfortable.

This is one of our favorite numbing sprays because it only needs two to three sprays to numb my mouth whenever I feel like giving Tim a blowjob. I love the spearmint flavor and since my mouth can’t feel anything, I can literally do whatever I want. I can spend minutes sucking his cock without feeling any discomfort at all.

4. Lick his frenulum

The frenulum is the little patch of skin at the bottom of the head that connects the penis head to the foreskin. And this area is a sweet spot for blowjobs.

Stimulating this area is sometimes enough to get him to cum. As you run your tongue up and around his penis, make sure you give this area enough attention. His response should be enough to tell you how good this feels.

5. Add a toy to the mix

If you really want to overload his senses, try using some toys while you give him head. Putting a vibrating toy like a cock ring on his balls or penis while you pleasure his head and shaft makes for a great blowjob. It’s also a great lead-up to the sex that follows. Do expect his cock to grow larger than expected if you use a cock ring, so your usual patterns might not work as well.

If he’s comfortable with it, try sucking dick with a prostate toy. Just be aware that he might have a big prostate orgasm, so prepare to get a little messy.

6. Add in a rimjob

If you are comfortable with performing a rim job and your partner is ok with getting one, then giving him one right after a blowjob can easily be done. It’s mostly a matter of changing the position. Speaking of positions,

7. Play around with different positions

There’s a lot of experimental space for blowjob positions. You don’t have to stick to the boring old “man sitting down, woman kneeling” position all the time. Variety is the spice of sex, and there’s a whole lot of variety to be had. Let’s start with the most obvious one which is the 69.

The 69 position grants both of you the opportunity to pleasure each other. Have your man lie on his back with his legs split apart. Go on top of him so that your mouth is on his crotch and his mouth is near yours. Your legs can be split apart and folded underneath his arms. You can easily give each other fellatio this way. If you need some support, you can have him raise one or both of his knees so you can wrap your arm around it. Doing this also gives you some access to his anus, if he’s into anal stimulation.

As for him, he’s allowed to just lay his head back and enjoy the show. If he’s in the mood to participate, his mouth can reach your crotch if you’re tall enough. Otherwise, it’ll be the hands that do the talking. This position leaves your anus exposed too, so feel free to ask for some attention there if you want it.

8. Try doing a reverse blowjob!

This one’s a lot less obvious, but it feels amazing if you can pull it off. Have your partner go on all fours with his legs slightly split apart. You will be behind him on your knees or in whatever position feels comfortable for you. Then reach between his legs to get his penis (There’s more than enough bend in his penis to get it through to the other side for you).

This position gives you a lot of new angles to work with. It makes frenulum stimulation a bit of a challenge with the tongue, but it’s not impossible. You can try some other techniques on other areas of his penis that wouldn’t work on the regular sit-down angle too. This position also allows for anal stimulation at the same time, and this time you don’t need a lot of effort to go from one place to the other.

If there’s a downside to this, it’s the lack of a show. This position is almost completely reliant on your blowjob technique. Unlike the other positions, your partner will need to exert a bit of effort just to see you doing what you do best. Sure, we still get the sounds and the sensations, but I always find myself missing the visual aspect of it in this position.

There’s a lot of ways to change up the positions of a blowjob slightly to give you a better angle or improve the comfort of the position. For example, you can change the standard “him lying down, you near his legs” blowjob position by having him open his legs and raise his knees. By going in between his raised knees, you get a lot more freedom around his cock and balls area. He can even prop himself up on his elbows or hands to watch you do it. This position is a personal favorite of mine.

9. Sucking Dick & Cum Play

Cum is slippery and has a strong erotic smell. Playing with cum is a great way to add a little bit of flavor when sucking dick. This is especially great to use as an excuse to not swallow cum if you don’t like it.

There are three main places that men usually blow their load on: the face, the breast, or the stomach. All three are erotic in slightly different ways. Getting to cum on a woman’s face makes for an excellent sexy sight. However, it’s a little messy though, especially when it starts getting to the hair. Ask him to aim away from the hair as much as possible.

Cumming on the breasts or the stomach allows a man to use his cum as a sort of body oil. You can spread his slippery hands across your breasts or your stomach right after. You already know which areas feel great for you. Let him know where to run his hands as a lead into sex.

10. Include household items to spice things up

There’s a couple of food items that you can use to spice things up. We won’t get too deep into the details, but this is a subject that you really want to read up more thoroughly if you want to try it. As a starting note, never try this with hot chili pepper, even if you’re a spicy food junky. It will hurt his penis really bad and it’s not something he can wash off easily.

On the other hand, whipped cream makes for an excellent dick sucking companion. It makes a wonderful sound while being applied and makes the sensation in the mouth slightly different. Getting a little bit of flavor in helps a lot if you’re not into the taste of a penis too.

Chocolate is another thing you can try. The body’s temperature usually isn’t enough to melt chocolate quickly. And if you know how to make a good ganache, you can make it a great blowjob food.

If you’re into temperature play, ice cubes are great things to incorporate when sucking dick. The difference in temperature between your mouth and the ice can be exciting. Try running it through different areas around his shaft and balls to see where he likes it best.

Our Blowjob Story

Sandra and I love sharing our sex practices with other couples out there.

We feel happy to let others know about our own techniques, styles, and experiences when it comes to sex with high hopes that whoever reads our articles and stories may find them useful, too. This time, we will share to you one of the most unforgettable blowjobs that Sandra ever gave me.

I can still remember that time when I got my first promotion at the office, and I was very excited to tell Sandra the good news. When I called her up and said I got promoted, she told me she’ll prepare a nice dinner for both of us.

After I got home, she told me to shower first as she set the table, and when I got back to the dining room, she already had the steaks, vegetables, and a bottle of wine on the table.

I felt lucky to have her. She really exerted a lot of efforts into our meal and I think it was her way of congratulating me. I actually felt sorry I didn’t even bring a cake or ice cream for dessert. But when I told her this and she said it wasn’t a problem at all. I thought all the while she already bought dessert for us but it turned out she had a different idea.

After dinner I offered to do the dishes and when I was done, I was pleasantly surprised to find her already naked on the bed. I undressed myself and joined her. So this was her idea of dessert I was thinking!

I kissed her hungrily and just when I was about to penetrate her, she stopped me. She told me to just lie down and relax while she gave me her “congratulatory” present which of course was a deep throat blowjob.

Sandra started by kissing me on the lips, neck, and chest. Then she moved down between my legs. She spread my legs apart and before I knew it, she started licking my cock before putting it inside her mouth. Her tongue played with my shaft and I felt her teeth, though she didn’t bite me or anything. She was sucking fast while one of her hands gently caressed my balls.

I felt the tension build up inside me and I knew I was about to come. I was arching my back and spreading my legs even more as I moaned and groaned. Just when I was about to come, she stopped for a few seconds and moved her mouth slowly. She was delaying my orgasm and I knew she was playing with me as I looked at the mischievous glint in her eyes.

Then, she started to move her lips again, putting my whole cock down her throat. It was amazing! She was like shoving my whole cock inside her mouth and seconds later, my body shuddered as I climaxed. I watched her swallow everything and afterwards, she was even licking her lips.

It was undoubtedly one of the hottest and most perfect blow job I ever experienced!

/Tim and Sandra

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