Sex Education.(SE) part 1
Sex is the intercourse between a man and a woman. Its the peak of intimacy, where they join as one. Sex is either good or bad depending on the time in which one engage in it. As a teenager and unmarried its considered bad cause its meant for married people. But not engaging in it doesn't mean one shouldn't be educated on it. Sex Education in my opinion should not only be taught by our parents but in senior secondary, its said we all perish due to lack of knowledge.
Giving a sex education not only bring you closer to your children it also makes them see the danger of having premarital sex. For the boys that have testosterone, it makes them high on hormones, I think that's one of the greatest problem of a teenage boy, to handle his hormones. So having a good SE makes him find ways to handle his hormones and not engage in sex or even masturbation.
While for girls its oestrogens, it makes them want to be protected, to belong so that reason makes them submissive and can do almost everything to keep their boyfriend even sex. So here we will talk about ways to educate our children on it, ways to avoid it and when its right.
As a young boy its never clear when he starts getting libido and attraction towards woman, so as a parent one should always be observant to their children. Boy when on hormones they're ruled by it, long before you even give your children SE you should make sure your relationship with them are very close, in that way it won't be that awkward when you start talking to them about sex.
Since its clear boys are high on hormones, make sure he doesn't watch film with nude scene if its possible, or read book of such both orally or graphically. Be weary of the friends he keep and what they do or talk about in their spare time. We all become a product of what we see, hea and take inside us, so make sure he is not surrounded by such.
But this above are just way to prevent him from having too much hormones, but having hormones is inevitable, cause psychology said on average man think of sex 20 seconds everyday.
So its more important to teach him ways to calm down his hormones. When he's having a hormones he should make sure to be with people and prevent being alone, being alone fuels libido.
He should engage in discussion that have nothing to do with sex,
Avoid being alone with a girl on such moment
Take a cool shower, it calms nerves, but if he might engage in masturbation once he gets inside he should then avoid it.
Read a book, bible, holy books or any material that talks nothing about sex.
Finally he should always be busy with something, cause they say idle mind is a devil workshop. Its very difficult for a busy someone to get a libido even when he eventually do, it wears off.
Also we should teach them the danger of premarital sex.
Most times our parents use pregnancy to scare us, it works until the world changed so drastically that abortion became order of the day. Even local pharmacy have abortion pills.
So we should also teach them how dirty in the sight of God it is to have an abortion, and since they're neither ready for the baby or the guilt of the abortion he should abstain from sex.
He will say he can make use of condom, then tell him condom is not hundred percent guaranteed to prevent pregnancy, so he better avoid than do hoping to be lucky.
Also tell him that STD's are real, in my opinion it fears me more than pregnancy, cause pregnancy can luckily be avoid with condom or knowing the girls ovulation cycle. But STD you can get through kissing or oral sex and they have no condom for lips.
For religious parents tell him how much it affects his destiny when he have premarital sex or masturbation.
Tell him that all good things comes to those who wait, make sure to engage him in productive things in that way he will have small amount of time to think of sex or engage in it.
Lastly pray God to guild him cause you will never follow him where ever he goes.
Then for girls, luckily they hardly have libidos, though when they do it last longer than guys.
They main thing that lure girls to sex is material things, phone, clothing make ups, so as a parents don't neglect those needs, provide for her basic things your money can and make her understand the economic situation of the family. Else she can easily be deceived by a stranger with it.
Secondly most teenagers think sex is a symbol of love, and to prove it, lovers should have sex. Funny in the definition of love I never saw sex. Parents should teach the daughters sex doesn't keep a man, pregnancy doesn't too. So let her know that any man that ask for sex before marriage as a prove of her love, doesn't really love her, or she should return to question to the man, that if he truly love her that he should wait till marriage.
Teach her about the stress of raising a child especially at the risk of raising it alone and also the risk of abortion. Teach her about STD.
Lastly pray to God over her life.