This piece is geared toward men but women may find a valuable takeaway from it as well. In the past few decades, we have been seeing a very schizophrenic sexual culture in the United States. Entertainment and media bombard us with unrealistically attractive women that are scantily clad with and with an inch thick layer of makeup that gets applied on their faces by people who do it for a living. That causes instinctual triggers in men, no doubt.At the same time, men are constantly being chastised by the same women in the media (who are mostly instructed to) who say that men must not see women as sexual objects, even though they present themselves as sexual objects.
We cannot turn on the news these days without seeing some male celebrity being alleged to sexual misconduct and being punished and name tarnished from a mere accusation, though we get primed by actual sexual misdeeds of those of Harvey Weinstein which makes us think that anyone accused is just like him. This causes sexual and social confusion from a very young age in strait males. It's a real case of mass cognitive dissonance. The situation is so bad that schools take students on field trips to sex shops.
Men have no where to turn but to dating websites and apps that act as one-night-stand arrangers and porn. To men, women in real life are not to be touched but women in cyberspace are to be sought out constantly to fulfill a mans needs.
Like anything else, porn becomes an addiction and it's not necessarily the individual mans fault, but it does take two to tango.
A man to be able to overcome his sexual desires and direct them in a constructive (not destructive) way will be the one sought after by life because sexual energy is where life comes from.
Being able to transmute sexual energy, life will send you everything you need. It's a way to have life come to you. You will know how to act when your dream girl appears, you will know when someone is trying to take advantage of you, feelings of fear are not nearly as significant and you will definitely not be lazy.
Pretty much all of the major religions advocate abstinence, and I think there's a reason for that. It is to conserve that vital energy, but in the case of the given religion, the sexual energy is focused toward given religion. The truth is that you can conserve your sexual energy and direct it towards any task you want. That, no doubt, takes some work because it requires a lot of restraint and a discovery of a lifes' task.
With understanding the monumental personal task of restraining your own sexuality on your own accord (especially given our culture of unbridled sexuality), I hope this article will help you think of sexuality in a different way. It is almost that this porn saturated and hyper-sexualized culture exists to keep us from harnessing this vital creative energy.