Keeping It Spicy After 10+ Years of Marriage: A No-Holds-Barred Guide
So, you’ve been married for over a decade. You’ve seen each other at your best and, let’s be honest, at your absolute worst. You’ve survived mortgage payments, screaming kids, your mother-in-law’s unsolicited advice, and that one phase where you both thought joining a couples' yoga class would be “fun” (it wasn’t).
At this point, your sex life is either an erotic novel or a book on ancient history—and if it’s the latter, it’s time to turn the page.
Let’s get real. If you’re still relying on the same “missionary-only-because-we’re-tired” routine, you need an upgrade, my friend. Keeping things exciting in the bedroom isn’t just about keeping your spouse interested—it’s about keeping yourself from falling asleep mid-act.
So, how do we bring the fireworks back? Buckle up, because this is not your typical vanilla marriage advice.
- Toys Aren’t Just for Kids, My Friend
If you’re still relying on just the ol’ trusty parts you were born with, you’re playing checkers when you could be playing 4D chess.
Vibrators, bondage gear, remote-controlled surprises—there’s a whole world of adult toys that can make your nights feel like an HBO special instead of a rerun of Everybody Loves Raymond.
Go shopping together at an adult store or browse online if you don’t want to make awkward eye contact with Brenda from church. The point is: experiment. You wouldn’t eat the same dinner every night for 10 years, so why would you expect the same routine to keep things interesting in bed?
- Roleplay: Because Sometimes You Need to Be a Naughty Nurse or a Ruthless CEO
Let’s be honest. Sometimes you don’t want to be “Steve and Karen, married for 12 years with a shared Costco membership.”
Maybe you want to be Derek, the mysterious billionaire who just bought her company and demands overtime. Or perhaps Lana, the rogue bounty hunter who only accepts payment in pleasure.
Roleplay gives you the chance to escape reality (like you did in your 20s but without the cheap vodka). Whether it’s dressing up, changing your persona, or just pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time—this is a game where everyone wins.
- The Great Outdoors… Or at Least Not Just Your Bed
If your love life has been confined to the same old memory-foam mattress for years, it’s time to move the party.
The couch?
The kitchen counter?
The car? (Bonus points if you don’t get arrested.)
A hotel room where neither of you has to clean up after?
New environments bring out a different energy. Just be careful if you try the shower—nothing kills the mood faster than a broken hip.
- The ultimate: Exploring Escorts & Open-Minded Fun.... stay tuned for the next block to find out how to pick the perfect third.
Look, monogamy doesn’t have to mean monotony. Some couples spice things up with a little outside assistance—**whether that means hiring an escort for a no-strings-attached experience, exploring ethical non-mon
