Philippines is a conservative country. Despite the fact that many women are very much confident about flaunting their body in public, some people would really raise their brows and judge them. Some would even blame their clothes for being catcalled or raped as if they wanted to be harassed. Others think that those who "shamelessly" wear revealing attires doesn't deserve to be respected. Some men thinks that when a woman wears a revealing outift, she's trying to get attention and wants to seduce the people around her. Thus, flirting with that woman to the point of harassing her is an idea of fun for them. And when the woman complaints, they'd put the blame on her because she was wearing a provocative outfit.
Is it okay to wear sexy clothes?
Does it make you less respectable?
First of all, let me ask you, what's your reason for dressing up like that? Yes, there has to be a reason for wearing something that the society deems inappropriate. If your reason is that you just want to flaunt your body so the people can feast their eyes on it, then you are making a big mistake. You might earn their admiration but they would look at you with lust in their eyes and would even think of you as a sex symbol. As a woman, you certainly don't deserve that. You have to put value in yourself a little bit more. You have to respect yourself if you want others to respect you in return.
Is there even a right reason to wear sexy outfits? Yes, I believe so. If you've put so much hardwork to achieve your desired body, then there's nothing wrong with making people see the fruit of your labor. And that's not because you want to show off or seduce them but because you want to inspire people to work hard if they want to have a fit and well-toned body like yours. It doesn't matter if people thinks otherwise. A few would really misjudge you and wouldn't buy your reasons. But who cares? Your intention is what truly matters. If you know that you are doing it for the right reasons, then by all means, feel free to disregard their comments.
Some women finds being sexy as an art or a way of expressing themselves. They feel good when they show more of their skin, they become more comfortable and more confident with their bodies and it makes them embrace themselves even better. Some agrees to become a model of nude painting and others even landed a job as models. They don't intend to be disrespected or mistreated. They simply wanted to express themselves and that is something not all would understand. Their definition of self-expression and art can be different from the majority of people in our society but we have to respect them.
A respectable person isn't defined by what he or she wears. Thus, it is determined by the person's actions and good deeds. What's the use of wearing clothers that fully covers your body if you are arrogant, judgemental and selfish? It's really not about your choice of clothings. So, if you have the right reasons to show more skin, then do so. It's your body and as long as you know your limitations and as long as you know that you're not abusing it, then be comfortable in wearing what you want to wear.
Morality and modesty is a man made construct used for social control.
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This is so much short-phrased but deep thought @screwballpsyche. Indeed.
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Clicked for the picture, stayed for the article. I lived in the Philippines for years, so I get where you're coming from.
Why do you think if a woman wears sexy outfits with the intention of giving sexual pleasure to the men around her, she is selling herself short?
People give pleasure to each other all the time in various forms - sharing food, good conversation, hugs and physical gestures - and most of the time it is seen as a gift. Just not when it causes arousal.
Our society has a inherent bias against sexuality. It's just an act you can do with your body, and a pretty amazing one at that.
But we are taught from a young age that sex is bad, by our parents, teachers and priests. It's all fear-based nonsense, and I think it's time to let go of these negative attitudes toward sex.
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Thanks for this amazing thought @narrativelysp. I think the most important matter is how we value morality for women. As a country who focused much on faith and religion, I guess that's the major reason.
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