Why are we afraid of marriage?

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Marriage

As we get older, there is a crucial step in our lives which is waiting for us. Marriage is the way to start a completely new life with a person whom you must trust and love forever. Even though some of us are not eager to start this difficult life, it is exposed to people by families and all other people in the society. It seems that trend in marriages has started changing recently. I am one of those people who have the plan of not getting married in near future. In this post, I would like to point out some reasons why we have tendency to be away from it.

First of all, as people are quite changeable, it is really hard to find someone whom you can trust completely. If you check my sentence carefully, you can see that I didn't mention the word of love. In my opinion, love is not the most important thing in a relationships. When we are in love, we must consider all the things that are waiting for us in our marriages. Marriage is not only about loving someone. I guess many people can do it, but we must ask one question. Do we have all basic things to have a successful marriage?

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Trust

Trust is really important. When we look at the numbers of divorces, cheating is one of the main reasons. I think, it is our nature that we start losing our interest in our be-loved people after a period. Even though it is quite wrong, it really happens. That's why, it is really crucial to find the person whom you can combine your life with. It is not a game, your partner is not a toy that you can throw away when you feel bored.

Even though it is impossible to know what life brings to us, I think there must be a long period of being together before we decide to get engaged and married. Couples should go through some hard and easy time to see how they will react in some certain situations. It might sound like an idea of experiment, but these are the things that we are facing in our marriages, so there must be a well-spent period of being together before the marriage.

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Finance

When I think about my life as a man who is not married yet, I find it really hard to manage my finances. Being a single man doesn't force you to spend so much money in a month, but it is still difficult to make your way to the end of the month. Even the marriage traditions in your country cost a lot of money for you. You must save quite a lot of money to have the wedding. If you live in a country which is like Turkey, things related to money are even getting harder in wedding process as there are many different traditions.

When you get married, one of the first things that you must do is to find a place where you will live with your partner. When we look at the prices of houses, it really asks for a fortune to buy even a small house. Many of our parents have to work every single day so that they can pay their loans to the banks. I think, many people don't want to do this, but there is no other way If you are not rich thanks to your grand-grand parents.

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Freedom

The most important issue about marriage that worries me a lot is the freedom that you will lose partially. Even though some people say that you don't lose it, I don't agree with it. I think, we lose our freedom in many different aspects. When you have a partner in your life who is your wife or husband, you must think twice when you make decisions about everything in your life, because it will surely affect both of your lives, you are not alone anymore.

It is not only about this issue. You will also lose your economical freedom. When I think about my life at the moment, I can easily quit my job and go on an adventure like having holiday or volunteering in a country for a really long time. After getting married, I will have to work all the time just to pay the bills and loans of my house and car. I can't say that I am bored of my life and would like to quit everything, sorry mate you have a partner who is sharing the life with you.

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Final note

When we consider all these things , it is not surprising to see young people who prefer to be single and adults who are getting divorced. When I think about my future life, I may never get married because of the reasons I have listed above. I would like to hear your opinions about marriage. Thanks for reading and Steem on!

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