What Type of Friend Are YOU?

in steem •  7 years ago 

This post is inspired by my Good friend Karen @karensuestudios.

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I have had many friends in my life. Each person has brought something different to my journey and has helped me to get through many trials and tribulations as well as helped me to create BEAUTIFUL memories. I mean what else are friends for right? Well, it really depends on the type of friend someone is. Here's what i mean.

I've discovered 3 categories of friends. These categories are a blanket that includes the major features that a friend has to offer as far as their overall contribution to my life.

  1. THE ACCOMPLICE
    The accomplice is the first friend we encounter and become ourselves. This is the ride or die friend who is most likely to be sitting inside of the police car with you. As an accomplice you are down for the cause. If your friend wants to light themself in fire, you will be the one officiating the hair spray and lighter. You are the fun friend that thinks of making memories first and paying the consequences second.

  2. THE PARENT
    The parent friend is exactly what it sounds like. Your police your friends as tell them when ish is not appropriate. When they want to jump off the balcony, you remind them of how much it costs to go to the hospital, plus the pain and oh. You won't be able to fit into your tux at prom with a cast on. This friend helps you start it of trouble...if you care to listen and vice versa.

  3. THE COLLEAGUE
    As the colleague, you encourage the personal and professional growth of your friends through your own example and the help that you give to your friends that are headed towards the same or similar things. If you manage social media and your friend has a business, you will most likely help them with their social media because the benefit in the end would help you both. If you I'll looking for a way to personally grow and your friend possesses this quality, they will teach you how to acquire it.

As we go through life we meet different types of friends and we also become different types of friends. There was a time where I was the accomplice. We usually become accomplices earlier in our lives when we are much more Curious and brave and fearless and stupid. As we grow up and realize the dangers that lie in life and we become responsible, we become the parent friend because we've seen or felt the hurt and we want to alleviate the misery for others. It is usually later in life when you find those friendships that are mutually beneficial and a professional and personal way which allow you to grow beyond your normal limitations and become the best version of yourself. You start to get into business ventures with your friends and find pleasure in their success as well as your own.

I chose to dedicate this post to my good friend Karen because not only is she the colleague, she is the parent who told me to get off my ass and start making posts. It was exactly what I needed to hear and here I am.

Evaluate yourself right now and comment which type of friend you think you are! I think I am a parent and colleague mostly. There's still a little accomplice left in me though. ;)
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Wow. Thank you soooooo much 😁

This is awesome man!
I am so grateful for our awesome friend group!

Yes. We do have the best friends

awww omg! I'm so touched by this post! I'm glad you did get off your ass! Steemit community needs to get ready for you! :) Love you! :) Also just resteemed it! :)

We all need a kick in the butt from time to time. I will be consistent here and see where it takes me. Thanks again.

Dedicating to @karensuestudios - great stuff! I'm sure she has dedicated more than one of her posts to myself 😂....so this is nice!😀

Well that's cuz you are awesome sauce! Thanks for stopping by 🤴❄️! It means a lot.

She's just so awesome. Her energy encourages and her spirit inspires. All of my posts should be dedicated to get because she's one of the reasons I'm on steemit.

👍😀

Thanks for the post! It's good to see the different types of friends we have. Sometimes, we focus too much on the faults of our friends and are quick to blame them for things that happen around us. When we look and see how they are all different and contribute to our lives, whether good or bad, we can see the big picture and appreciate the randomness.

Exactly. I hate to be so quick to judge because good people come in all shapes and sizes.

I am the parent and it fits me completely. Now if only I would find another parent type of friend to help me when I am making bad decisions, such as drinking tequilla+absinth.

Right!! We all need a friend from each category. No one wants to do things alone, we all make mistakes and we all need a partner in our growth and journey through life.

No matter how I look at it, it does depend on the friend in question.

Funnily enough, i have 3 friends, and i'm the accomplice of one, the parent to another, the colleague of the third, thanks for the post, definitely something to think about!

Haha. Yes. Living proof that you can be all three types of friends simultaneously. It reminds me of a saying from Bruce Lee. He said it is better to be like water because if you put water in the teapot it becomes the teapot. If you put water in a bottle of becomes to the bottle. water can crash or it can flow. Be like water.

True, flexibility is key.

Yes. A super power I never thought of, but now would kill to have. lol

Great post, I liked the categories of friends, I can relate to having a couple of each as well as probably being each type at some point in time.

A little off topic but on the topic of friendships I've found that it's tough to find genuine friends that are are reliable, people you can count on, or even people you can talk to about serious topics.

I don't know if it's a millenial thing or just people today or maybe just me but it seems like so many "friendships" of today are much more so acquantanceships than friendships. I used to have a big group of friends and after some time I kind of began to realize they may be fun people to go to the bar with but when it really comes down to it few if any would be willing to do me a favor or go out of their way for me in anyway. This was kind of disapointing to me as I tend to put a lot of effort into friendships and would do almost anything for my friends. A couple years back I finally decided to kind of cut people out of my life if they weren't contributing to it or if they werent "down ass" people for lack of a better word. I figure why waste my limited time and energy on people who wouldn't do hte same for me.

Just curious if any others find it difficult to find real friends these days.

My grandpa has a couple buddies he meets for coffee or breakfast once a month or so who he's known for ages. I remember he always told me if you find one good friend who your friends with your whole life, and who's a true friend etc consider yourself lucky.

You are absolutely right. People are a lot less loyal and much more fickle so we tend to lose more friends than we can even make and we push people away after they've made one mistake without looking inward at our imperfect selves. I currently have found teens of be friends that have actually become "real" friends. We hang out, have dinner, sleep over, and play all the time. It's like i stepped into an alternate universe. The one thing that i can say worked was changing my perspective of who i thought I'd be good friends with and just allowed myself to be vulnerable. I hope that works for you. Everyone needs a good group of friends like i am fortunate have.

I have one buddy who I rarely hangout with, were both pretty busy and have girlfriends and stuff but whom I can pickup the phone and would drop what he was doign to come help me with something and vice versa. I can talk to him about serious stuff, ask him for advice, etc. The rest of my "friends" are more casual acquantances who would break plans last minute the second something better came up to do. I find a lot of people are like that these days but like you said if you find a good friend keep them around.

Ugh. There's nothing I can't stand more than flakes. I have no tolerance for them. I just kick those so-called "friends" to the curb. They ruin plans, cost money and can't be counted on. Good friends are like a good barber. You hold on to them until they literally die. lmao

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