I actually don't blame people pleasers, i blame their parents cause things like this would have been from childhood. When parents tell their children "i want you to study this particular course", "i want you to do this, do that" without even asking what the child wants to do, the child obeys because he/she wants to please his/her parents which is very wrong. Pleasing people is a state of mind, it can be changed with constant motivation just like you are doing @luppers. Keep up the good work.