Insecurity in Marriages

Though the Bible is silent about her feelings but nevertheless, we can imagine what it means to be married but not feeling married especially during the period of uncertainty.

Women can easily connect to this but men can as well because the feeling of insecurity knows no gender.

Today's post will be emphasizing on my Power Couple in the Bible Abraham and Sarah and some ways women feel unsecured in marriage.

At that point Sarah made the pledge to the husband, its assumed anything could happen including been taken by another man (Abimelech).

All her protection and security that comes with being married was gone. We may not have exact similar situation as Abraham and Sarah but we may have in many, things that made our wives feel unsecured with us.

Here are but a few ways we create insecurity in our homes:

• Threatening: when we act in a manner of hostility in the moment of anger.

• Emotional and physical abuse: causing psychological pain and physical injuries, resulting into emotional imbalance and doubt of safety.

• Irresponsibility: we show signs of irresponsibility when we make little or no efforts to carry out our God given responsibility to provide for the home. Infidelity and given to drunkenness are not left out.

• Mismanagement of family funds: when our priorities are in the wrong places, with no plans for the home.

If we believe that God would have delivered Abraham from anyone who tried to kill him if he had said the truth about his relationship status with Sarah, we can as well have the believe today that God is able to deliver us from the temptation and sin of inflicting our partners with pains of insecurity.

We can truly be delivered when we give ourselves wholly to God, allow His Words guide and lead us each day.
Women must hold on and seek God's intervention during times of crises, for God who spoke to Abimelech in a dream can today use his words to transform your husband to be the man he should be.
It is also important not to be silent when we feel overwhelmed.
Seek support from the fold.

Ephesians 5:22-29

• Disrespect: constantly and deliberately refusing to submit to husband's authority.

• Cheat: the act of infidelity. Making comparison: making comparisons with other men for whatever reasons.

• Exposing his weakness: telling whoever cares to listen what your husband's weaknesses are especially to his children.

• Lack of appreciation: not acknowledging the efforts he makes no matter how little.

All of the above and more cause tension in homes resulting in marital turmoil. As much as we want our family issues to remain private, there are situations that need the intervention of a third party.
Priest, apostles or trusted senior parishioners are still the best options of third parties.
There should be continuous counselling and marital class for married couples so as to avoid situations from getting worse or avoiding them totally.