- Never marry a fool. who is a fool ?
I SAM 23:1-5 Story of Abigael - a beauty versus Nabal - a beast. she married a fool and it almost cost her her life and family,but for God's intervention.
SYMPTOMS OF A FOOL?
Highly temperamental. someone with uncontrollable anger. Pro 29:11
someone with self reliance. someone who is full of himself Pro 28:26
-someone who says or believes or act as though there is no God or heaven. Psa 14:1, PSA 53:1
someone who is not trust worthy
Pro 26:6-7someone who talks careless and argue blindly Pro 26:4-5
-someone who lies at will and takes joy in deceiving and scheming others Pro 10:18-19, Pro 12:22-23
someone who talks without thinking of the consequence or without considering the feeling of others Pro 18:13, Isa 32:6
the quarrelsome person
Pro 18:6-7Not Teachable. detest correction
Pro 18:2-3
- NEVER MARRY A LAZY BONE Ecc 10:15. Any man or woman who excuses him/herself from work or responsibility is not a good person to pitch your tent with. Such will drains their partner and suck them almost dry. The scripture says He who will not prepare for his household must not eat.
When u date/ court someone and he or she works not and he is not making plan for any viable work but all she or he does is to sit back and expect manner from heaven to fall, pls tell such that manna has been put to hold! he or she should get to work because the hands of the diligent shall rule!
- NEVER MARRY A STINGY PERSON: if you are going out with someone and such will not exchange gift with you or pick up bills but always finding excuse for his or defaults, I will suggest run. Because he or she will never change in marriage. You may have to always negotiate bills in your marriage.
4. SOMEONE THAT LACKS SELF CONTROL . Pro 25:28 ' he who lacks control over his spirit is like a broken wall...' Whoever can't control his apettite, sexual urge, emotion ... Can't be trusted with your life. If a man losses his temper easily and beats his fiance in courtship yet the fiance fills its OK, such has given the man permission to buy her coffin in marriage.
Self control is a virtue and a spiritual gift and its should not be traded for anything whatsoever. If a man or woman can't control appetite, he may eat his or her enemy's meal without knowing.
- NEVER CONSIDER AN INSECURED PERSON: 2 SAM 12: 1-14 Nathan did not fear David, he was secured in himself and the message he was to delivered.
symptoms of insecured man or woman:
- Comparison : they compare themselves with others and keep score. The Bible says that,they that compare themselves with themselves are not wise.
- Compensation : they feel like victims and must compensate for their losses.
- Competition : they become self consumed and try to outdo others for attention
- Compulsion : they feel driven to perform in order to gain others approval
- Condemnation : they judge others or themselves resulting in self pity or conceit
- Control : they feel they must take charge protect themselves and manipulate.
So these are the set of people you should try not to marry because of love,look before you leap,because if you leap before you look it's dangerous.......
God bless you!