EMPATHY - WHAT IS IT AND HOW TO LIVE WITH THAT?

Pessimism and bad mood has such a characteristic - they are quickly transmitted to other people. Any emotion is energy, and we are able to absorb it all to himself, quite without realizing it and without feeling.

However, there are people who are not so easily adopt foreign energy, and there are those who are especially easy to do. They are so sensitive to all the surrounding emotions, that is, that it can no longer raise and commit suicide, sometimes without even realizing that going outside their own, someone else's pain.
However, a large part of us, is between these two extremes . Personally, I'm more inclined to the sensitive side, and every day faced with the influx of alien emotions. Therefore, I learned a long time and is still learning to distance themselves and protect themselves.

Here and share their knowledge about how this can be done.

Everyone, this is an emotional sponge, but the water permeability at all different. Some quietly sail negative crowd and not feel uncomfortable at all, while others quickly become infected mass moods and do not even know that was just infected. As a result, various propaganda disseminators like to organize mass gatherings which triggers certain moods and emotions, knowing the human ability to quickly take over the power from each other. Perhaps you have experienced any such feelings, some football or basketball matches and other funeral, others churches or rallies. All this is called mass energy. In my opinion, for this people's properties, the masses are easier to control than a single individual. For energy, which multiply rapidly, there is a great power.

And this energy is not just any unknown phenomenon. For a long time it has been investigated and analyzed thing and called it - empathy.

It is said that of all living beings, only man has this feeling, at least as well-developed, so only this feature, we are able to sympathize with each other, to understand someone else's pain or to enjoy together. I have seen in dogs who like and showed that some of the dogs also can have compassion, and still believe, that we probably are not the only ones. Well but here's another topic.

Empathy running around the following principles:

You can feel a strange pain as his own.

"General" or alien problem suddenly becomes your personal.

In such cases, the empathy, the Society impotence, inability to protect themselves, self-doubt, depression can be a serious cause.

So, in order to stop swallowing strange emotions propose such Here's a guide:

First of all, see how strong you are empathetic and how you it works

Here are some typical symptoms indicating that you are empathetic:

People call you soft heart or extremely sensual, emotional. They do not know that this is not a compliment or decision.
You feel fear, restlessness, stress transmitted to other people. You just feel it physically.
In itself, such a characteristic is not bad, but you have to minimize their impact on other people's well-being. Especially those who do not like you or you do not know. Try to communicate with close, of course, pleasant people.

You quickly get tired crowd.

It takes only a few hours of partying, and you already feel exhausted, miserable and worn-out.

Noise, extraneous odors and constant necessity blab, seriously you stretch your nerves.
To recharge the energy you need to stay in complete peace.
You are constantly thinking about what you feel.
You try to make sense of any experience untangle all situations and arrange the shelves . Easy to hurt you, but you avoid conflicts.

You "generous" talker and a good listener

You constantly makes something a lift and something somewhere transported, transport.
Intimacy can scare you up so much that you can begin to feel the loss of self-asphyxiation or fear

Find the source of anxiety

Ask yourself what you feel? It's mine or someone else's strange these emotions? From whence came the emotion of what it could lead to? Please note - the fear and anger almost never born Empat minds, but they are among the best in their vectors . Try to find out where or things located in your anxiety or anger generator. And maybe to this job much TV?

You just looked good comedy movie theater and are in excellent mood. Suddenly, when you agree to the friends and family and all the goodness of mood evaporates. You will happen? Could it happen to you?
The same feeling when you go to the supermarket or a concert. Crowded places you upset? Probably due to the fact that sucking negative emotions of others in the crowd to himself.

Avoid the source of anxiety. At any cost

At first, try to talk to people you uncomfortable standing away from them. Rid any object, or barrier, such as a chair or a table, it is clear weakly inhibits energy, but often these tricks helps to weaken the takeover.

Do not be afraid to offend someone. Do not be afraid to change to the location of the bus, if you sat next to stinky. If you sit next to the sad people also change at. Stand up and go away. It's on your own, as soon as you yourself will become sad.

In any uncertain situation, concentrate on breathing.

Breathing - this is the one who connects your mind with your whole being. A few minutes just Concentrate on breathing: inhale peace exhale negative. This will help you to understand yourself time and space to clear your head from fear and other difficult emotions.

Imagine the negative like a gray mist rising out of your body and breathe in, imagine if you penetrate into the golden light flow. This is a very simple technique that gives fast results.

Use the shield

Every time when you're nasty people Society, you can imagine hanging in the air a white envelope. Well, the color of the object and can in principle be any that only the object you provide strength and reflect on your whole negative. You can imagine the mirror that negative emotions return back to the people, and you are like a shield protects against the arrows. Allow yourself from the environment to take only positive emotions.

Manage emotional overload

Learn to recognize the people who draws energy from others. These should be avoided. Strangers in the crowd choose sides places. Avoid communicating with emotional vampires.

And yet, it is clear now very strange sound, but if it is possible to eat something. Better yet sweet and unhealthy because the food contains a lot of sugar, it helps to focus and calm down.

Ensure that any company being, you are not dependent on other people. Remain taxi money, that would tie up to the fact that they have. Make sure that any time you can very easily get to the house. This will add confidence.

You will also need their own space in the house, such as where you would be alone. This can be a reading corner, or a table with a computer.

Look for positive people and positive situations

Call a friend with whom you really like to spend time. Go to the bar with a colleague, with a with a lot of fun to chat room of smoke, or drink coffee. Vacuum the self their positive energy and self-confidence.

The hope is also contagious. And it is, in itself mood. Be compassionate, not only to others but to yourself. Stay sensitive, but avoid stressful situations.

Get out to nature

You must have your favorite places where you eating with positive energy. Ideally if the place will be in the wild. Know where you need to drive an hour or two, in order to rest and recharge the batteries. Let it come in the park, river, forest or lake.

At home and keep your PC desktop forest, wild beaches, waterfalls or other natural sites and landscapes.

As someone go out in the morning to travel to an urban forest, feel the mist, odors, dew.

Practice yoga or other breathing techniques. You must have your emotional center, the foundation of which to escape the storm, like the quiet backwaters.

And of course, those for whom it is not a big problem not understand, but people like me, who may not normally watch a movie, just have to scratch every stranger as the home, I have a good understanding. Protect yourself, if you're like absorption, because often no other can not understand how easily their negative imposes for you and how do you then its hard to shake off. Here, the same as walking among people suffering from flu.