Anniversary Day - And we're separating

in steemit •  7 years ago 

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Today should be a very happy day, marking the day my wife and I tied the knot in a wonderful pagan ritual.

Unfortunately today I am wondering what the future will bring, as last week my wife informed me that she wants us to separate. To make things tougher, we have a toddler, my beautiful Amber Melody.

As time has gone by this last week I have wondered what the future will bring, and the more I meditate upon it, I'm convinced that the future is very bright.

And this is the thing. So many people keep telling me that I should be feeling awful, unable to cope with the day-to-day, and how unbelievably hard it's going to be. It's certainly the case that not being with my little girl every day won't be easy, and somehow I need to find the money to provide for a new place to live, as well as ensuring my family has everything they need during the transition and going forward.

But I feel confident, positive and hopeful. And partly because it's through this community, and what I can see happening in the cryptospace as a whole that I am looking to the future with a positive mindset. Oh, and lots of meditation, as well as a great support network.

When my father left when I was 6, my parents went through the most acrimonious, hate-filled, lawyer-fuelled shit-hurling that you can imagine. At this point, all I can think about is making sure that I do what is right and best for everyone, in the most loving, agreeable and positive way.

It has only been through a lifetime of changing my perspectives, of challenging established and conventional beliefs, and of being prepared to actually do the work on myself that I have come to this place.

There have been members of the Steemit community who have been supportive, and to them I offer my thanks. I am proud to be part of the #uk-promo team, and thrilled to be part of a group of Steem-activists who are telling the world about Steemit. I'm also utterly blessed to be a father, and to be able to give the most love I have ever had in me to one remarkable, mischievious and funny human being. If you are a parent, you of course know this already. If you are not, but one day wish to be, let me tell you it's amazing.

My journey continues, and I've just noticed I've passed the 700 followers mark, which is a wonderful achievement. I'm looking forward to heading towards 1000 and bringing all sorts of interesting, silly and fun stuff along the way. So for those followers who may have noticed I've been a little quiet on the Steemit front in the last few days, this is why. But I'll be back, and I'm looking forward taking the journey with you all.

Thanks again everyone who's offered support and kindness in the last few days.

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My thoughts are with you. Best of luck. Keep fighting the good fight!

Thanks @tommyinthesun. I didn't know whether I was going to post something as personal as this, but hey, what's steemit for unless you can be real, and raw on it too. Fighting the good fight always, and walking softly throught it, like Grasshopper!

your vote is very important for me upvoted nice post

I wish you all the best. I've seen how dramatically my daughter's life changed after a break-up...good things are ahead.

Thank you. Do you mean for your daughter it changed positively? I know of couples who have broken up, and their relationship with their kids, and in fact with each other, has actually strengthened as a result. I wish for the same for my little girl.

My daughter was in a loving long term relationship (no kids, that complicates things a lot) but they were not in love. That realisation was exceptionally painful for her and her partner, but when the break up actually occurred, her quality of life improved dramatically.

I see. I'm glad for your daughter. I hope she finds great joy! Thanks for your support.