After listening to Teachings of Buddhism, she was very excited and wanted to turn back home to help her husband. But her friend stopped her to do it because listening with compassion is a deep practicing method. So, she needed to practice at least 1-2 weeks to do profound listening. Then, her friend invited her to participate a practicing class.
A practicing class had about over 400 people. All did eat, stay and practice together during 6 consecutive days. The practice of breath in mindfulness to bring the body and mind merging in one. All practiced walking, standing, lying and sitting in mindfulness, focused on every step, every gesture as well as observe and embrace their own thoughts and sufferings.
All did not only listen to the Teaching of Buddhism but also listened and understanded pains and suffers of others. And people talked with each other by gentle and lovely words. She practiced by whole her heart.
After the class, she came back home with a calm and full of love. She was determined to help her husband take out the bomb from his heart. She walked slowly and observed her breath to calm down and cultivate compassion. Then that evening she approached and sat quietly beside her husband. This was something she was never done in the past five years.
She sat for quite a while, probably near 10 mins. Then she put her hand on her husband hand and talked “Sweetie, I know that you definitely get lots of pains during the past 5 years. I know that I have been a big part of your sufferings. I didn't comfort you but made you suffer more. I’m very regret. I beg you to give me a chance to do it again. I wanted you to be happy, but I didn't know how and I made the situation darker and darker. I don't want this state to last forever. Please help me go. I need you to help me to understand you better and love you more. Please tell me your innermost thoughts on your heart. Please tell me your feelings so that I no longer create more pain for you like a past. Without you to help me, I can do anything. I just want to love you”. He cried like a baby after hearing her words.
His wife had been bitter with him for a long time. She only had a loud voice with words always full of anger, bitterness, reproach and criticism. Both husband and wife can only quarrel with each other. Over the years, has she ever been able to say such sweet, loving words to him as today! When she saw her husband crying, she felt that situation has some hope. The door to her husband's heart, which had been closed for a long time, began to open. She knew she had to very careful now and she continued to practice mindful breathing and said: “Sweetie, please tell me all your innermost thoughts in your heart to me. I want to treat you better. I don’t want to generate any mistakes anymore”.
The husband and wife are both Ph.D. But they all stucked in pains because don’t know how to listen with compassion. On the day, the wife practiced listen very successful then they were harmony after just some hours. It’s like a magic.
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