Reality Check

in steemit •  7 years ago 

Hello everyone, and welcome back to my post about dating and other similar fun topics ;)

Today we are going to talk about how men and women have different expectations towards each other.

Girls often complain, “Why don’t men approach me?”, or “Why I don’t get invited out by men?” First of all, men hate desperate/unhappy/miserable with life women. If you as a woman go on with your life thinking that you have all these problems- poor me, life is so hard etc, and one day some magical prince will appear and solve all of them, and will sweep you off your feet, you’re highly delusional. Why does any man need that? If there are women out there who are happy and positive about life.

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If a woman is always tensed and stressed out about her living/work/status situation she is not very desirable to a man. Men have their own problems as well, they don’t want to add new ones, especially on the early stages of dating.

Inner beauty is very important but let’s be real most men love with their eyes. Women need to be attractive. You don’t need to look like a model but you need to take care of yourself. Women who lay on their couch with 100 kg weight and say that a guy should love her for her inner beauty, lol I’m sorry but it will take him a while to get through all those kg into your inner beauty. Lift your butt off that couch! When you go out try to look good, and be in a good mood, project that confidence.

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Often you would see a 40 year old woman that has very high expectations from a man. Usually they want someone attractive, over 6 feet tall, rich and successful, loyal, kind and generous. These women never been married and have a hard time finding the right man, or holding on to one. So I ask them, What do you do with yourself or your life to attract that kind of men? Most of them, are die hard convinced that this kind of man will love them for who they are. BUT WHY WOULD HE?

Women get attracted to certain qualities in a man. Surprise- it goes both ways. Men get attracted to certain qualities in a woman. If you just sit on your couch, overweight, watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians, and whine about lack of quality men, get a REALITY CHECK, and realize that you’ll be waiting forever. Maybe it’s better to get a cat as a companion, and after that cat dies get another cat, and then another cat, after this one dies you’ll be pretty much done as well.

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Unrealistic expectations go both ways, don’t think it’s just ladies who have ridiculously high expectations sometimes.

Often I hear from guys that they want a beautiful, smart, fit, educated, independent, fun, loyal, well groomed, not materialistic girlfriend, yet these men are not even close that level themselves. So when a woman who is like that or close to that rejects them because they don’t do anything with their lives, and have zero ambitions, they cry that these women are materialistic. JUST LOL :D

I’m sorry but most women are attracted to men on their level and higher, and that's just simple science. It doesn’t mean they’re solely materialistic.

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So the most important advice I can give is LOVE YOURSELF, if you don’t love yourself how do you expect others to love you. You cannot escape yourself or try to find a person to fill in that empty void. You need to be happy about yourself and balanced, then you can find a person to add something extra to your life, and you add something to theirs as well.

So before complaining that you are all alone and don’t have the right partner, ask yourself if you’re really trying to work on yourself and most importantly are you willing to compromise?

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I want to thank everyone for reading my blog post. Stay tuned for more relevant topics.
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@milanademort

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Thank for nice post.. yes indeed If your are too choosy, it time to buy a pet.. 😬

haha yes, thank you :)

@milanademort Albert Einstein once said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably, they’re both disappointed.”

I thought Oscar Wilde said that haha well I agree regardless

Well said, twenty years down the road and what do you got ?????

I found it funny

o my god ...love to your writing skills ....sometime we expect more ...but dont think what i should do for her/him ....every relation depends on compromise....

The Photo Is High Quality Or You Are Beautifuly?!

I guess both haha

I Think You

Came for the great pics, stayed for the read 😉

Haha that's how it works

this is so true, i ope alot will see and read this

Thank you :)

@milanademort Not bad , but I think something is missing..

What is missing, kitty? lol

Wow , awesome shots.

thank you

Excellent article! Are you single :)

Thank you. Do I sound single? lol

Yes :)

Well I'm not ;)

That's good! He better treat you well!
If not I will :)

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nice

Mila!

Attractive

Thank you

I cant say i entirely agree or disagree with these statements. Its not all about looks, its chemstry, and some men are attracted to sickly or down women, same for women. Blanket statements are nice for stereotypes, not soo much reality.

It is definitely not all about the looks. It has to be the whole package but you can't just be waiting for the other person to accept you as you are yet expect great characteristics from that person.

Upvoting and resteeming this... It's indeed an eye-opener!!!! :) Following your blog for more... Thanks for sharing. (^_^)/

Thank you so much, that's very sweet :*

You're welcome. :) See you around! ^^

Nice pictures my friend,but why the quality is a little bit Low?

Looks fine for me, not sure. I imported them from my ig profile.

Positivity and positive self image is such a powerful thing. I am looking forward to more of your posts.

Thank you so much!

Nice article! :D

Thank you!

i love it... good article, good pics

We all have expectations and sometimes these expectations are unrealistic. In short, we need to know ourselves well and what we look for. Then tge chance of finding a partner will be much higher.

Yes for sure, people often don't know themselves or a lot of women just brain washed by media.

You also mentioned in your post about the communication between women and men. I have actually covered that in my post as well. Check it out.
https://steemit.com/funny/@positivesteem/what-a-women-says-and-what-she-actually-means-and-my-poem-the-conversation

Thank you, this is awesome!

Sweet, sweet!\Great work followed You and Upv.
Follow me - greetings from Poland ;)

Thank you!!

Totally agreed ur opinion. U must be a man..... There is one more thing the woman who is over 40 and still single thinking, where is the fall in love feeling, the chemical reaction? If I own a 9 out 10 score-life experience, and that is true, another person will bring more issues and problems in my life. Why I have to accept him or she and change my life to get along with it? The only reason must be the magic chemistry thing happened, which will light my life....

I absolutely agree. The older we can the harder it becomes to accept other peoples imperfections into our lives.

Wow is beutifull

@milanademort Interesting post with great pictures.
Upvoted!
@kayceesuave

Thank you so much :)

I waited a very long time for the right men. I wondered if I was too picky. But I met him and he has more qualities, than I expected. We are in a happy and healthy relationship. I realize that I had high expectations, because I was also ready to offer a lot and a great discrepancy between our values would lead to a disaster. We need to have a balance between what we ask for and what we offer.

Yes, I absolutely agree. Balance is the key, and being realistic about what you can offer is very important. It needs to be a two way street.